mixed signals

LegacyUser

So I met this girl in a pub and got her number. I wasn't talking to her for very long that night, but texted her a bit after and she came out for a few drinks with me one night last week. We had a good night and at the end of it we kissed for quite a while, she was pretty into it and was grinding up against me etc.

The following night I met her at an event that both of us knew we would be at. Just said hello and asked her if she was heading inside, she said she was and so I headed in. Saw her leaving shortly after and texted her to see what she was up to. She said she had to go as her lift was leaving.

So a few days later I rang her and she didn't answer, she rang back a bit later. We talked for a very short while and then she said she had to go. I left it at that

Then today I met her out of the blue on the street. She said she was in a mad rush so barely spoke to her. I texted her tonight and she didn't get back to me.

I'm not that inexperienced (25) and it seems pretty clear that she's not interested from all of the goings on since the night after we went out. On the other hand, on the night we went out things went really well and ended up in a fairly steamy kissing session (i would normally expect that a girl who's grinding up against my crotch on a first kiss is pretty interested).

I'm very confused about this and I can't stop thinking about it. I'm gonna meet her from time to time at a thing we're both involved in so I don't want to make a fool out of myself if she's not interested by persuing this any further.

Just wanted to get this off my chest really, so any comments would be nice to hear, especially from girls. Thanks

Wibbs

It sounds like buyers remorse to me, or something along those lines

i would normally expect that a girl who's grinding up against my crotch on a first kiss is pretty interested

Or simply she was just tipsy and horny and needed a release.

She may have liked the look of you and thought you were cool and decided a date was a good bet. Maybe she got home and just felt there wasn't enough there to continue. You didn't float her boat enough as it were. It happens. She may not even know why in particular. Or she had her eye on someone else that now seems more a possibility. Who knows? I don't, you don't and no one here knows either. Hell she may not know as I said.

OK you've been thrown a bit sideways as you got slightly more into the possibility of more than she did. A bit of a pain but what can you do. I'm sure it won't be the last time it happens to you and I'm also pretty sure it's happened to her too. It's just one of those things.

So I would chalk it up to a nice experience at the time, let her be and see what happens down the line. The obvious "more fish in the sea" comes to mind too. So don't mull over this too much and get stuck on her. I've found it's human nature to want what we can't have and really really want what we thought we had but now don't.

Plus you could look on the bright side, better it happens now than down the line when you really get into her.

RedXIV

I'm sorry mate but i'm gonna guess that she wanted some action on the night and that was it. I'm sure thats not what you want to hear but from the actions described in your post, thats the impression i'm getting.

All the classic symptoms of you showing an interest and her making excuse after excuse to get away does not bode well.

Cut your losses mate. If she wanted you, she'd text back

LegacyUser

Ya you guys are right, knew it myself but couldn't accept it.

Wibbs wrote: »

I've found it's human nature to want what we can't have and really really want what we thought we had but now don't.

Guess that's the point really, wasn't that pushed about the whole thing until she started getting cold about it.

Anyway cheers lads