Hypnotize me????

LegacyUser

just a question,
broke up with my girlfriend about 4 months ago and i dont think ill ever be over her and started thinking could getting hypnotized to forget about her work???

Victor

I'm not sure if thats going to work.

Can I suggest talking to someone about it and then moving on?

LegacyUser

tried everything i can but its too hard and i cant see myself ever getting over this,if i move that might work but i dont really want to move away

montii

Your heart will take a while to heal you but you'll get there. Been there done that!! Give it time, the pain gets less each day. Keep yourself busy, meet up with friends and cut all contact with your ex. When the time is right you will meet someone else.

LegacyUser

its been four months now and she seems to have moved on and im still stuck in the depressed heartbroken state and cant meet anyone,dont mean to be a moan i just wish i could get overv this easier

akamossy

I don't think that would work, if it did we'd all be doing it. I know it seems hopeless to you right now but give it time and you will be able to move on. Everyone is different and just because she has moved on doesn't necessarily mean that you should have moved on by now. Just give it some more time. But don't mope around the place, get out there and have some fun.

Susannahmia

hypnotizeme wrote: »

its been four months now and she seems to have moved on and im still stuck in the depressed heartbroken state and cant meet anyone,dont mean to be a moan i just wish i could get overv this easier

Op you are grieving, just because this girl is alive you have lost her and it hurts just as much, probally more if you have to run in to her all the time and reopen wounds. It is a process and it will slowly get better, I was told before that it takes at least a year and a half to fully grieve a loved one and start to move on and having gone through it a few times I would have to agree.

Have you seen a counselor? They really really help.

kittex

Have you seen 'Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind'?
It's about this sort of thing, if more extreme.

It's unfortunate that the only way we develop and grow emotionall is by being put through the wringer a bit. if you try to block your feelings out about this, you stunt your emotional growth.
As the other posters say, it is a process and you can get through it.

Good luck.

Damzilla

You poor thing. I really feel for you as I am going through something similar. PM me if you ever want a chat.

wylo

hypnotizeme wrote: »

its been four months now and she seems to have moved on and im still stuck in the depressed heartbroken state and cant meet anyone,dont mean to be a moan i just wish i could get over this easier

4 months is nothing, you need more patience, Ive been there. Believe me its a wonderful feeling when you finally acknowledge your over her and your mind will be alot stronger afterwards.
I dont know will hypnosis work, but surely it cant be healthy, everyone on earth goes through grief and breaking up with someone you are crazy about is well up there as the worst kind of grief someone can experience.

Try your hardest to avoid any contact whatsoever, if yer friends on bebo etc, delete her. It doesn't matter how it looks it will seriously damage you if you keep trying to watch what shes doing.

Its a gut wrenching feeling when you hear new stories about her etc, but on a whole it gets easier and easier.

Catmanuel

I had hypnotherapy recently because I was a chronic nail-biter. It has worked really well so far and I'm delighted but I can't see how it would work for a problem like yours OP. You can't be made to forget about someone just like that, hypnotherapy isn't as clean cut as that and I'd be surprised if a hypnotherapist agreed to it.

If you are feeling very depressed you'd be better off just to see a normal therapist and talk it through (which can be hard of course but maybe there's a reason you're stuck where you are) otherwise just give it time as others have already said.

Best of luck with it. X

Overheal

hypnotizeme wrote: »

its been four months now and she seems to have moved on and im still stuck in the depressed heartbroken state and cant meet anyone,dont mean to be a moan i just wish i could get overv this easier

Moan, Man. Moan.

PI is here so you can vent. Get it off your chest and it will stop hanging on you all the time.

Tell us what happened from the beginning.

Damzilla

Overheal wrote: »

Moan, Man. Moan.

PI is here so you can vent. Get it off your chest and it will stop hanging on you all the time.

Tell us what happened from the beginning.

Sound advise. I find it hard to vent to friends at this stage. It's been six weeks and I feel like I'm boring them. This site has been a life saver to me and really helped.

I recommend registering and posting. The amount of people that have PM'd me has been amazing and it's so nice to think that there are people out there thinking of you and wanting to help.

Post away, it really will help.

skooterblue

Hey man I remeber my first gf dumping me. It was so hard. 4 months is a long time. I'd advise you to clean out your bedroom. Dump anything that reminds you of her, unless its like the dialysis machine you shared. Any gifts she gave you either put the far away in the attic (if its valuable) or dump it. Break off contact for a while.

If it get anyworse move away to college or get a job in a new city. 6 years ago I moved 30 miles away. Havent spoken to the girl for 4 years. I think about her now and again but I dont obsess over her and what she is doing now and what if's like I used to when I was 18.

This thing will pass. Try to occupy you mind with other things. Dont worry in time this will all be a distant memory.

StandnDeliver

hypnotizeme wrote: »

tried everything i can but its too hard and i cant see myself ever getting over this,if i move that might work but i dont really want to move away

Have you tried getting a diary,notepad and writing your feelings down,what you wish you could say to her,hopes,ambitions,frustations,anxiety etc?

try it ,it does work,its just to get the thoughts outta your head so to speak.
You can always shred the notepad later down the line.
I find once you confront the thoughts,emotions and ponder on what they have written one feels better.
It helps so much for me personally and anyone i have ever suggested it to.
What have you got to lose by trying it!

brown-dog

I know its hard dude, Think we all have been there. 4 months is a long time but it can go on for longer but dont ger too hung up on the amount of time it takes to get over her as you will when your ready! You can't force it....

colly10

4 months isn't bad, it will get easier, I was involced in a break up 5 months ago and I still find it fairly difficult. Especially when you don't know what they're at I just image her sleeping with someone else and it gets to me. I do think about her alot less than a month ago and I know she'll barely feature in my thoughts in a months time (hopefully). They say times a healer, you can't set a time of how long it should take to get over her, it's different for everyone, all I can say is it will get easier, forget hypnosis etc.. and just get on with your life. Try enjoy yourslelf

srdb20

Get under one to get over one!!!:D:D

I never thought this to be true but my ex and i recently broke up and that was a long long relationship and it definitely helps, kinda frees your mind a bit so you can get some perspective!!!

Only realised how much ive been missing and how un happy i actually was.

This may sound wierd but i feel like im actually getting back to being me and its great man.

PS - the above is my opinion and may not work for you, but it def did for me!!!!:pac: even without the above it does get easier even if you dont see it you have prob come a long way from where you were initially after the break up

sunnyside

4 months isn't that long, but I well understand that it can feel like a lifetime. I was upset for almost 2 years after my first relationship broke up. OP I wouldn't bother with the hypnotist.