should I...

LegacyUser

To make a really long story shortish. I started chatting to a guy on the internet, just for the craic, turned out we had loads in common and started emailing. We sent eachother massive emails almost every day for months, then one day I picked up the phone which lead to massive phone calls almost every day for months.
We could talk about anything. We never suggested meeting up, we didnt even know what we looked like. It was just a bit of fun so I suppose we didnt really care. As it turned out I had to move to the same town. After a week or so he suggested meeting up, we did. I was sure he wouldn't be in any way attractive, but I was soooo wrong. Pretty sure he kinda liked me too cos he canceled his plan B, and told me about it haha. Also hinted about meeting up soon again. The night was going pretty well, then suddenly I started freaking out a bit inside, it started to feel like a date and even though I should have been, I wasn't prepared for it and I have no idea why but I was suddenly acting all schizo(sp?) and went completely cold. There are loads more to it but to sum it up I fcuked it up big time. And he avoided me after.

So fast forward 2 years and I see him in the pub. That was yesterday. Im disturbingly good at remembering faces.. Would it have been weird if I said something. We only met once. I still to this day think about him everyday, even though I've been seeing other people. We had so much fun talking and I just want him to be in my life, even just as a friend.
So should I or should I not contact him again?

Sorry for lack of punctuation and thanks for reading.

Dizzyblonde

I say go for it - worst case scenario, he'll turn you down. On the other hand he might not
If you don't try you'll always wonder....

akamossy

Well i guess if your still that into him, maybe you should give it a go or else you will always wonder what would have been. I'm sure he won't still have a hangup of how you behaved the last time just don't repeat it.

Best of luck

LegacyUser

hmm, yeah. God I really want to but don't want him to think i'm coming on to him or be all stalkerish. Just want to keep it friendly.
I must appear to be 15 or something, Im mid 20s and this is so out of character for me.

akamossy

Just be casual when you contact him. Tell him you wanted to know how he was getting on and all that and that its been a long time. Theres no harm in that. He may assume your coming onto him but thats his problem if he does. At least you will have been the one to make the effort. It was kind of childish the way he judged you on the way you acted one time and cut contact with you but if you feel you would like to be friends with him again then go for it.

mawk

ffs just get off your ass and talk to the boy. he will be weirded out but wont tell you. you can meet have a laugh and be happy. then the two of you will at some point find a moment alone, you can explain what happened before and then he will go 'ooohhh.. really? thats silly!'

and after that; i dunno i guess you live happily ever after.

mawk has left the building

Overheal

"Jake, wheres your grandmother? She's supposed to be babysitting you.

Jake: We were watching Spongebob Squarepants when she just said 'Life's Too short' then she walked out the door."

jesus_thats_gre

yesno wrote: »

The night was going pretty well, then suddenly I started freaking out a bit inside, it started to feel like a date and even though I should have been, I wasn't prepared for it and I have no idea why but I was suddenly acting all schizo(sp?) and went completely cold. There are loads more to it but to sum it up I fcuked it up big time. And he avoided me after.

Really wonder what does be gonig through some girls heads sometimes..

Would also love to know what you actually done for him to to just cut you off like this?

Or, did you just assume he wouldn't want to talk to you again and not make any effort to contact him again? If so, that is retarded.

RedXIV

I know this one OP!
I've met a few peoples off the net and i've been on the receiving end of this sort of thing. Used to really confuse me how someone could chat away like a champ online and then clam up when they meet me in person. I know i'm probably not much in the way of eye candy but i've never struck people dumb before

Anyways, in the one case that springs to mind, i met up with a girl who i'd be chatting to for YEARS! and she was about as talkative as a corpse when we met. When she left, i didn't hear from her for ages, about a year or so until she asked to meet up again. i said yeah and she spent the first half hour apologising for the last time. Now she's a very good friend.

Moral of my story? try again!

MJOR

+1 Its so true!

chuci

go for it op the worst thing he can say is no. just if you see him again say oh my god hi how have you been bla bla bla and it wont come off stalkerish