BrokenUp

LegacyUser

Okay I broke up with my girlfriend last night.
It was partly me and the situation I'm currently in (complicated but there's no one else involved or anything like that) and it was partly the differences between us.

She was pretty upset.
I tried to do it as nicely as possible.
After we went our ways I sent her a text to say that if she needed closure or anything like that to contact me and I would be happy to answer any questions she had and that things might seem **** right now but they do get better (I know. I've been there.)

I know it was the right thing to do but god I feel **** this morning. I'm worried about her and hope she'll be alright.
I don't think there's much else I can do - if she wants to contact me she will but I guess she just needs her family and friends now.

Not sure why I'm writing this - I just needed to get it off my chest I guess.

MizzLolly

Don't be texting her. You broke up with her, just leave it for the time being. Believe me, if she wants to talk (and she will, don't worry) she'll contact you.

Texting her sympathetic stuff only adds insult to injury especially since it's been so soon. Just give her space. Think about how awful she must be feeling right now. I know you care about that because you mentioned it in your post but you also say you feel "****ty" about it. You're probably thinking that the guilt will subside once she speaks to you and tells you that she's fine.

Whatever you do, don't start texting her in order to make yourself feel better. It'll only give her false hopes or just confuse her even more. Just leave her alone for now.

Hope you're feeling better this morning.

Karen_*

Well you did the right thing breaking up with her if you felt it wasn't going to work and you're not in a position to have a relationship at the moment. It's far kinder than stringing her along. She may be upset but you've already given her closure and the best thing to do now would be to leave her alone. If you're contacting her she will misinterpret it.

Yes its horrible when you've upset someone but she WILL get over it. She deserves the space now to move on and so do you. You sound like a very caring guy. Don't beat yourself up too much over this.

LegacyUser

Well the reason I texted her was just to let her know if she needed "closure" she could come and talk to me.
I've been in the situation where the boot was on the other foot - asked to meet up for a talk (not to get back together) - and she kept on making excuses and putting it off.
Hurt worse than the breakup itself.

It's just that I've seen breakups really screw people up - nearly did meself - and I don't want that to happen to her.
Really want to help her - but I'm the one person who can't!
It's kinda annoying.

MizzLolly

I know breakups can be ground-shattering. Just leave her alone. Let her talk to you when she wants to. If she wants to be with you, nothing you can say will ease that for the time being. Don't look at this breakup in the same context as your past breakups. In a way, that just belittles whatever it was you did have together. It's like making it look like just another statistic.

Don't text her again. Just focus on getting yourself back on track and letting her recover.

CathyMoran

I know that it hurts, you want to hug them and protect them and let them know that everything is OK but you are the one that has hurt them. Let her have her own space, when she wants closure she can contact you then.