Ladies-what attributes of the opposite sex appeals to you

liberation

I was wondering are there basic things that all girls are attracted to in guys? or is more of an individual thing?I would like to know from girls what really does it for ye?

liberation

Am I right with the following list, let me know what im missing, whats the most important from the list I am about to give

In good shape

well groomed

dresses well

playful cocky sense of humour but not too arogant

decent job/financially independent

confidence

LadyE

I would go with the sense of humour - isnt afraid to slag me (within reason, dont take it too far!)

Looks, not hugly important to me! Personality is more of an attraction.

Independance - can have his life and I have mine..we are not a couple all the time..you go out with your friends and ill go out with mine, but we can still go out together iykwim

I also like the cocky but not arrogant thing too!

Looby_Loo

Honesty is the top of my list

Jemmy

LadyE wrote: »

I would go with the sense of humour - isnt afraid to slag me (within reason, dont take it too far!)

Looks, not hugly important to me! Personality is more of an attraction.

Independance - can have his life and I have mine..we are not a couple all the time..you go out with your friends and ill go out with mine, but we can still go out together

I also like the cocky but not arrogant thing too!

Same here!
But if he takes more care of himself than me it wouldnt work!:p

LadyE

Jemmy wrote: »

Same here!
But if he takes more care of himself than me it wouldnt work!:p

Damn right!!

I like guys to be thoughtful and affectionate too! Am a stickler for romance as well..not cheesy romance but romance.

But then again, Id class romance as getting me a bar of chocolate in the shop when I havent asked

Abi

Good sense of humour, genine, loyal.

geminilady

Things that i like in a guy!

* Being nice to other people, bitchiness turns me right off someone

* Funny, isnt afraid to laugh at himself

* Has good manners!!

* Having fun which doesnt even getting wasted at the weekend

* Someone who listens to me and wont interupt!

* Confident but not too cocky either

I try not too fall for looks as i done in the past so a good personality is a must! : )

chopperbyrne

Ladies look no further!

Funny
Fun
Smart
Confident
And only one previous owner!

:pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac:

Twee.

LadyE wrote: »

I would go with the sense of humour - isnt afraid to slag me (within reason, dont take it too far!)

I love this, you need to be able to have a bit of banter, although not in the company of his friends. Had some of that recently and it really got on my nerves.
Funny and intelligent, can hold a decent conversation!
Good shoes/style/hair in general.
I like romance but no cheesey sh!te please. Actually makes me cringe :rolleyes:
I need to have some musical connection with the person. I love listening to music and going to gigs, I'd like to be able to do that with them! We don't need to have twin playlists, just as long as he doesn't like crap music :pac:

Agent Smith

tall, smart,somewhat well paid job, size 14 shoes, likes art and jewelery and classic films and musicals, and was once told i that i gave the best hugs in the world.
And yet i'm still single.... Hmmm
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tallaght01

You know what always confuses me? The whole "sense of humour" thing.

Lots nad lots of girls go on about wanting a sense of humour in a guy. But one of my mates is the funniest guy I've ever met in my life, I mean he could well be the funniest guy in the world. Total laugh a minute. His name is Sean, and everyone just refers to him as "funny Sean".

He's also in good shape, he's not got the mentalness, and he's an absoloutely lovely guy. If he were a girl, I'd nail him :pac:

BUt he is ALWAYS single. And he hates being single. So much so that I often have to cheer him up by ringing him in the middle of the night and singing "All by myself" down the phone to him.

So, when he hears women saying they rate a sense of humour above anything else, he goes flipper.

He always says that if he was a miserable wanker, he'd get a lot more women.

I think he might be right.

Sorry, that anecdote adds nothing to the thread.

As you were

challengemaster

Agent Smith wrote: »

tall, smart,somewhat well paid job, size 14 shoes, likes art and jewelery and classic films and musicals, and was once told i that i gave the best hugs in the world.
And yet i'm still single.... Hmmm
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I can guarentee he's tall and has probably size 14 shoes! (atleast)

Jules

Guys please dont turn this into another "how you doin' " thread.

CathyMoran

Well they have to be very intelligent, witty, kind, loyal, romantic, full lips, nice eyes.

WindSock

I have a similar friend. Funny as fcuck and not bad looking. Couldn't get a girl for ages, I think his problem is...

tallaght01 wrote: »

he's an absoloutely lovely guy.

It's sad but true. Girls don't go for nice guys, initially. Also, maybe his humour comes across as insecurity? I don't know him at all but sometimes it can come across that way and his method of hitting on girls backfires (that is if he tries to at all)

Wibbs

tallaght01 wrote: »

You know what always confuses me? The whole "sense of humour" thing.

That's a conundrum alright. I think it's similar to women also saying they want "nice guys". It's possibly the difference in definition between the genders I reckon.

There are a number of types of blokes who are funny, which is not the same as sense of humour. One the funniest guys I know is a dour fúcker at the core of him. You can have the loud funny guy that's all fine and dandy for party entertainment but you wouldn't want that around all the time. There's the braying hooray henry chinless wonder funny guy whom one laughs at not with. Then there's the overly macho childish "funny" guy who thinks climbing lamp posts when drunk is a riot. All equally funny at times, but you could see why a woman may think them a bad bet.

IMHO I think, when women say "sense of humour" they mean more an ability to laugh at themselves and others without nastiness. An ability to react well to women's sometimes different emotional responses to things is also a big part of it(she goes batshít crazy in the male opinion but you laugh it off in a nice way).

Basically someone who is funny when required, easy going and emotionally stable tending towards the happy side of life. Men all too often see it as meaning someone doing Robin Williams impressions and overly funny guys are often socially compensating for a lack of something. That's a trait women will sniff out far quicker than men.

Then of course you get the blokes who think they're funny. One of the most unappealing of traits.

Madame Razz

Good shoes

determination and drive....i REALLY like this;)

wry sense of humour and generally genial manner; without trying too hard

a relative sense of style and pride in appearance(though i once had to scramble for mirror space in the mornings with an ex....that was taking it TOO far)

Relatively physically fit

has an active life and plenty of interests as i do

Generous; there is nothing more unappealing than a tight-ass meanie; i do pay my own way and wouldnt expect it any other way but there is nothing worse than say a guy who offers to buy you a drink and then moans about the price of it....he just shouldnt have offered in the first place cos the moaning takes the good out of it.

doesnt moan...moaning men are a menace

isn't judgemental

Doesn't take every past experience as a personal injustice.... river;bridge;get over it

doesnt expect you to be a domesticated little wifie

doesnt mercenarily size you up..... what does what I drive what i earn and the value of the property i own really have to do with me the person?

isnt selfish


Oh,and great eyes, eyes you can lose yourself in, and a nice smile.

And a certain je ne ce quois....


Don't ask for much do i!!!:rolleyes:

Jemmy

Not looking for much are you!

The Recliner

manukahoney wrote: »

Good shoes

determination and drive....i REALLY like this;)

wry sense of humour and generally genial manner; without trying too hard

a relative sense of style and pride in appearance(though i once had to scramble for mirror space in the mornings with an ex....that was taking it TOO far)

Relatively physically fit

has an active life and plenty of interests as i do

Generous; there is nothing more unappealing than a tight-ass meanie; i do pay my own way and wouldnt expect it any other way but there is nothing worse than say a guy who offers to buy you a drink and then moans about the price of it....he just shouldnt have offered in the first place cos the moaning takes the good out of it.

doesnt moan...moaning men are a menace

isn't judgemental

Doesn't take every past experience as a personal injustice.... river;bridge;get over it

doesnt expect you to be a domesticated little wifie

doesnt mercenarily size you up..... what does what I drive what i earn and the value of the property i own really have to do with me the person?

isnt selfish


Oh,and great eyes, eyes you can lose yourself in, and a nice smile.

And a certain je ne ce quois....


Don't ask for much do i!!!:rolleyes:

You have to admire a lady who knows what she is looking for

GirlInterrupted

1. Funny, a bit of wit is good.
2. Non smoker.
3. Excellent personal hygiene.
4. Capable of chatting without recourse to football or cars.
5. Kind, considerate, intelligent.

Piste

Strong arms for the cuddlin'.

Madame Razz

Jemmy wrote: »

Not looking for much are you!

in a perfect world......sigh....

CathyMoran

There are men like that out there - you just have to find them.

Catmanuel

In a guy any of these would be nice, I don't expect them all:

1. Happy in his own skin

2. Able to have a bit of banter/slagging with. i.e Doesn't take me or him too seriously.

3. Broad taste in books and music and likes to travel, wants to get out and see the world.

4. Able to show a bit of sweetness here and there, it loses its effect if you're too sappy/overly-nice all the time.

5. The shallow part of me also appreciates a nice pair of arms/shoulders. Grrr! Also dark hair, bit of a beard, maybe glasses... but none of these things are essential!

Madame Razz

CathyMoran wrote: »

There are men like that out there - you just have to find them.

Must look harder then......every man i've met in the last year has been a disaster....:eek:

Much better on my own than entertaining the likes of them:rolleyes:

Sense of humour is my number 1.

Nice hair.

Tall.

Piercings = Not a neccesity but Yes Please.

I appreciate all kinds of traits, but the one thing the really gets to me is kindness.
Someone who cares for and considers others out of a simple sense of decency.

SarahSassy

I like openness and when he has confidence in himself i.e. his feelings, his plans, his personal development etc..... Its nice to be with a man who knows who he is and doesnt feel the need to impress people. On the flip side, I like when he makes an effort with the people who are important to him / you e.g friends and family.

Honesty is a given and I like men who have an interest / passion in something. I like when they are chatty and when there is a good bit of fun / banter between the couple.

Well, I just like men fullstop

Looby_Loo

I dont have a physical type as such but I do like tattoo's and/ or facial hair on guys.
It is a cliche but I do like a "nice guy", I dont think I have been attracted to a "bad boy" since I was a teenager.
I like to have something in common with a guy- in my case liking to read, see movies, eat out etc
I like a guy not afraid to hold hands in public.
Because I am pretty shy, I like a guy who take the lead but not overpower in a social situation.
Generosity and kindness are good.
As are a nice smile and bum

Now, anyone know someone that ticks all those boxes??

FunkZ

Do wimminz like hairy chests or should I shave?! Haha =P

Fly High

There aren't traits that I make deal breakers, every guy has his own good and bad things but what appeals to me most is masculinity! I can't stand metrosexuals... I'm the girl, I know this is old fashioned and all that but I dunno, a guy should be a guy... God I sound ridiculous but I know what I mean haha

watna

Brains. That's the only deal breaker for me. I went out with this guy for a few weeks who was sweet but a bit slow and it made my skin crawl.

I like men who are interested in the world and what happens around them e.g likes to go and do things like museums/films that aren't full of explosions/theatre and reads books and newspapers and has a lot to say for themselves.

That's how I got together with my OH. I wasn't interested in him sexually but thought he was a really interesting person with a lot to say fpr himself and I wanted to get to know him better as a friend. Things grew from there.

Ginny

Not being a twat usually helps.
I would just like someone who is intelligent, mature, has a direction in life, and gets me...if you know what I mean.

Cathmandooo

Kindness,
Ability to listen,
Ability to make me laugh,
Someone who makes me feels safe,
Independent
Good in bed
Nice arms for cuddling are a must!

Rozabeez

If there were 500 men in a room, I'd manage to bring home the ONE hobo.

Tall, hairy - (Rugged I suppose), funny, charming, talkative, witty, comfortable and just easy to talk with I guess.

Jemmy

Piste wrote: »

Strong arms for the cuddlin'.

Oh yes please!
I like my men big and strong!

manukahoney wrote: »

in a perfect world......sigh....

No mans perfect! :pac:

Looby_Loo wrote: »

I dont have a physical type as such but I do like tattoo's and/ or facial hair on guys.

As are a nice smile and bum

Now, anyone know someone that ticks all those boxes??

Tattoos also nice! Has to have a nice bum too!

After reading all these i realise theres alot more i want in my man!

Black Swan

Creative, playful, physically fit, and not domineering.

Piste

Not opinionated, I realy dislike strong opinions, cos then I have to listen to them :pac:

LazyFingers

LazyFingers wrote: »

Do wimminz like hairy chests or should I shave?! Haha =P

I love hairy chests and not everyone is able to grow a proper one.

LazyFingers

LazyFingers wrote: »

Do wimminz like hairy chests or should I shave?! Haha =P

Ewww.

I hate hairy chests.. it's just vom.

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

Ewww.

I hate hairy chests.. it's just vom.

U hate nature!! :pac::pac::pac::pac:


Personally Id never shave my chest, Id feel a bit.....funny!

FunkZ

Moonbaby wrote: »

I love hairy chests and not everyone is able to grow a proper one.

HELLO M-BABY!

Deleted User wrote: »

Ewww.

I hate hairy chests.. it's just vom.

Awww.

Gina Brel

Gumption

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

U hate nature!! :pac::pac::pac::pac:Personally Id never shave my chest, Id feel a bit.....funny!

I'll wax it for you.. It'd be my pleasure!

Reku

Deleted User wrote: »

I'll wax it for you.. It'd be my pleasure!

Spot the S&M fiend! Oh god, here she comes with the bullwhip! RUN AWAY!!!

Creamy Goodness

Deleted User wrote: »

I'll wax it for you.. It'd be my pleasure!

pfft waxing, sure how bad can it hurt like?

Tragedy

Question for the ladies: Do you actively look for these attributes or are they just "wouldnt it be nice..."?

When I see a girl or am chatting to one, I dont have ANY sort of mental checklist. It's all subconscious/chemical/whatnot, if I like someone I just *do*, i cant explain it better than that

MIN2511

Tragedy wrote: »

Question for the ladies: Do you actively look for these attributes or are they just "wouldnt it be nice..."?

When I see a girl or am chatting to one, I dont have ANY sort of mental checklist. It's all subconscious/chemical/whatnot, if I like someone I just *do*, i cant explain it better than that

Very true...

I think the list is a wish list, sometimes you meet someon who just doesn't fit your ideal criteria but the chemistry is overwhelming.


I don't have a type anymore...


life is just easier that way

CathyMoran

Tragedy wrote: »

Question for the ladies: Do you actively look for these attributes or are they just "wouldnt it be nice..."?

When I see a girl or am chatting to one, I dont have ANY sort of mental checklist. It's all subconscious/chemical/whatnot, if I like someone I just *do*, i cant explain it better than that

Well I do have three that I would have never given up on, that they are very intelligent, funny and kind. I know that it could never work out in the short/long term without those things and my head would over rule my heart over it.

G86

hmm...

Nice eyes
Friendly face
Not boyishly skinny
Dark Hair
Strong arms
Loyal, honest
Witty
Kind
Caring
Easy to talk to
Great at hugs ...and know when I'd like one without having to ask
Able to chat to my friends without freaking out - I hate 'babysitting' on nights out
Have a mind of his own and a life of his own and still spend time with me - I'm fairly independent that way, I don't like clingyness
Be straight up - I hate game playing - I prefer someone who just tells it like it is.
ZERO ex issues, I've had enough of that lately.
Oh and the ability to chat for ages on the phone, and to enjoy talking crap just for the sake of talking!

Actually scratch all that.... Colin Farell would do me just fine.....:D