get over it or not?

LegacyUser

I really like my friend. Before I liked him we were very good friends, I had a boyfriend for a while last year and it was during this time we came to be better friends. We kept in contact over the summer break from college and got along really well etc… I broke up with my boyfriend and then everything went weird with this friend.

I thought for a while maybe I was making it up in my head but I don’t think I’m that crazy! He got quite moody and went through periods where he’d barely speak to me. I started liking him, a lot. It was inconvenient but I couldn’t help it. Anyway, things started getting more normal for the most part and occasionally I thought maybe he liked me.

A few things suggested this, things he did and suggestions some other friends were making. There was no way of being sure though. He’s a pretty awkward guy, and I’m not exactly confident… so it’s hard to tell. There was always the chance that his behaviour only seemed suggestive/confusing to me because of the fact I liked him.

Anyway, it’s the summer break again and things didn’t end on a very good note with him. We got along grand during the last couple of weeks of college, but I noticed there was a change in how we were with each other, he seemed more distant. I’m going away with him and a few others in a few months. We’ve made no effort to keep in contact so far and I saw him accidentally and it seemed as though he didn’t want to speak to me.

I’m finding the whole thing quite depressing. I just want my friendship with him back. Some friends of mine think I should tell him I like him? I fear this would be disastrous. I also feel like the time has passed for that. Should I make an effort to meet up? Or just leave it off and hope things are ok for the holiday? I realise this does not have much of a point to it… I just needed to vent a little. It’s easier to load off all of my neuroses anonymously here than to talk to my friends.

estar

forget him for the time being.
if he did really like you he would have made a move,
and if he coudlnt find it within him then leave him alone
for a while and your friendship could renew

put your energies into things and people where
you get positive feedback and you wont go far wrong.

mostly good friends and potential boyfriends make
you feel better about things, you have fun with them
and they dont go in and out of moods without confiding

let him go and you might get him back

the most i would do is phone him and have a chat about
things in general, a catch up. if you don't feel comfortable
doing this you are not as close as you thought.

maybe during your travels you will get closer.
pay the attention to someone else.

RedXIV

I may have read this wrong, if so, forgive me, but from what i can tell, you like him, ye were great friends for about a year while you were taken, you became single, he became distant, this didn't heal amazingly well but you decided now you like him.

Right so far?

2 options spring to mind lass.

1) Tell him you like him, if the friendship is already strained, it's not like you have much to lose, you clear the air, intentions are known and people can move on if necessary of get together if possible

2) This is the one I reckon is going to happen. nothing is going to be said, this guy is going to stay moody, you're going to get hurt, and you're going to end up losing the friendship anyway.

Take option 1, give yourself a chance. don't prove a cynic right