Is this a form of premature ejaculation

LegacyUser

Okay, well this is embarrassing, but here goes, I have been going out with a girl for a while but we have not slept together yet as I have been putting it off due to a rather awkward problem.

First of all, I'm a virgin but that doesn't bother me as up until now it's been my own fault of delaying this due to my problem. When ever myself and my girlfriend kiss a lot or she sits up on me I notice a lot of pre cum in my pants (I can feel it), at first I though it was semi-normal but now I'm starting to get worried as it happens a lot.

The nightmare problem I have now is not knowing if I suffer from premature ejaculation or if this is a normal occurrence but it's ruining me since I am constantly too scared to try anything in case of the embroilment.

Can anyone shed some light on the situation, please. Thanks.

biko

Afaik it's normal to get some pre-cum when you "get wood".
As to the amount I can't say but I wouldn't worry. Perhaps it's just down to eagerness ;-)

Just take your underpants off at the same time you take your trousers off and she won't see any stains.

stcatherine

personally I find it a huge compliment and a turn on if my fella gets loads of precum kissing me etc, it's a sign that I excite him.

It's not something to be ashamed of at all, It's a great thing .. trust me

nd2no

Us men secret a little precum before ejaculation. Some will say that the pre cum acts as a lubricant for for sex (make insertion easier) others will say its because of the excitement.

Anyways its 100% natural, but ya prob need to answer a few qusetions?

do you produce blobs bigger than your fist?
are u less excited and aroused?

LegacyUser

nd2no wrote: »

Us men secret a little precum before ejaculation. Some will say that the pre cum acts as a lubricant for for sex (make insertion easier) others will say its because of the excitement.

Anyways its 100% natural, but ya prob need to answer a few qusetions?

do you produce blobs bigger than your fist?
are u less excited and aroused?

No, not bigger than my fist, and I get very excited and very aroused, the dread I have is inserting and then after two seconds I'm just going to blow and it will be all over...

Thanks for the comments so far guys.

Bottle_of_Smoke

the dread I have is inserting and then after two seconds I'm just going to blow and it will be all over...

Nah, that won't have any affect. what happens when you masturbate?

LegacyUser

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Nah, that won't have any affect. what happens when you masturbate?

Nothing out of the normal and no premature ejaculation happens, it's just when I'm fooling around this issue happens.

AngryBadger

Relax about it OP, we've all worried about this at one stage or another, and we've all experienced exactly what you're described. I definitely have anyway, and RedXVI does swinger parties and he's DEFINITELY had that problem, so you'll be fine

Have lots of fore play with your gf beforehand, maybe even bring her to orgasm once or twice before actual penetration, that way she's already going to be quite pleased with your performance, which means less pressure performance-wise, also, no matter how it goes, she sort of owes you then

In terms of the deed, the only thing I would suggest is go slow. Enjoy it. Enjoy her.

You'll be fine, I have total faith in you

P.S. sorry RedXVI

Nevyn

AngryBadger speculating such things about another poster's sex life may be seen as an insult or a slur. Keep your posts on topic.

Nevyn

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pre_cum

Pre-ejaculate (also known as pre-ejaculatory fluid or Cowper's fluid, and colloquially as pre-cum) is the clear, colorless, viscous fluid that emits from the urethra of a man's penis when he is sexually aroused. The fluid is usually secreted by Cowper's glands during arousal, masturbation, foreplay or at an early stage during sex, some time before the man fully reaches orgasm and semen is ejaculated. The amount of fluid that the human male issues varies widely among individuals, from imperceptible amounts to a copious flow.

It's not premature ejaculation but your body making it's own lube and releasing it. The same thing happens with women when they get arouse and the ammount varies just as much.

But you need to be careful as it can contain some sperm.

There have been no large-scale studies of sperm in pre-ejaculate, but some smaller-scale studies suggest that no sperm is present and thus pre-ejaculate is ineffectual at causing pregnancy. This may account for the moderate effectiveness of coitus interruptus as a contraceptive method (failure rate of 27% for typical use and 4% for perfect use over one year). It is likely, however, that pre-ejaculate which follows a recent ejaculation will contain sperm, as some ejaculate is always left in the duct after orgasm.

The same studies have shown the presence of HIV, which can lead to the disease AIDS, in pre-ejaculate.

monkeyfudge

If premature ejaculation is something you're concerned about then look at something like the Performa line of condoms from Durex which reduce stimulation to the penis.

Bought them by accident once... horrible things...

And yes.. as Thaedydal said.. be careful with the pre-cum as it can be fertile.

RedXIV

AngryBadger wrote: »

P.S. sorry RedXVI

^ Who's he?

minidazzler

If you are as worried about cumming straight away. then before you meet with your GF, Rub one out. wipe, rinse and go. It will take a bit longer for you to "arrive" should anything happen!

There will be slightly more ejaculate on the tip that IS fertile as it is proper semen but you will last longer if you should start having sex.

And remember stay safe! Pre-cum is, as Thaedydal said, Fertile!!! Not as much as "normal" ejaculate, but still very fertile!

AngryBadger

RedXIV wrote: »

^ Who's he?

Your evil twin from the parallell earth where we all have beards...I mean they all have beards.....

Now shut up

AngryBadger

Duly noted Thaedydal, apologies Red.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Thisaintgood wrote: »

Nothing out of the normal and no premature ejaculation happens, it's just when I'm fooling around this issue happens.

Then I wouldnt worry at all

colly10

Thisaintgood. wrote: »

Okay, well this is embarrassing, but here goes, I have been going out with a girl for a while but we have not slept together yet as I have been putting it off due to a rather awkward problem.

First of all, I'm a virgin but that doesn't bother me as up until now it's been my own fault of delaying this due to my problem. When ever myself and my girlfriend kiss a lot or she sits up on me I notice a lot of pre cum in my pants (I can feel it), at first I though it was semi-normal but now I'm starting to get worried as it happens a lot.

The nightmare problem I have now is not knowing if I suffer from premature ejaculation or if this is a normal occurrence but it's ruining me since I am constantly too scared to try anything in case of the embroilment.

Can anyone shed some light on the situation, please. Thanks.

It's not a problem tbh, don't worry about it, it is not a sign that you'll come quickly. Don't worry too much about time, before I lost my virginity I always wondered how I could possibly last but when it came down to it it was not a problem, don't let worry put you off