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Saturday wingman

  • 16-06-2008 2:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Was out on the weekend, and went wingman for my mate (havent done this before), as he was talking two these two girls.

    Now have to mention I have a gf for 2 years, obviously didnt tell the girl I was talking to I had a gf (nor did she ask). Had great chat with her and got on really well, but I feel low or down inside cos wasnt totally upfront. I could tell she was interested but didnt kill the conversation for the sake of my mate.

    Of course I did tell my gf I went wingman and she is cool because she knows it wasnt like I was trying to score this other girl (wouldnt do that) but I still feel bit empty about going wingman and not sure why.
    Keep thinking of that night and feeling like i was lying to someone who was geniunely nice.

    Any one else feel like this???? (thinking going as wingman is just not nice) or am I just thinking too much???


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  • #2
    GirlInterrupted
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,440 ✭✭✭GirlInterrupted


    whysomanyQ wrote: »
    Was out on the weekend, and went wingman for my mate (havent done this before), as he was talking two these two girls.

    Now have to mention I have a gf for 2 years, obviously didnt tell the girl I was talking to I had a gf (nor did she ask). Had great chat with her and got on really well, but I feel low or down inside cos wasnt totally upfront. I could tell she was interested but didnt kill the conversation for the sake of my mate.

    Of course I did tell my gf I went wingman and she is cool because she knows it wasnt like I was trying to score this other girl (wouldnt do that) but I still feel bit empty about going wingman and not sure why.
    Keep thinking of that night and feeling like i was lying to someone who was geniunely nice.

    Any one else feel like this???? (thinking going as wingman is just not nice) or am I just thinking too much???

    You feel you misled the girl and you feel guilty about it. That's good, it shows your a nice person, and if you don't want to do it again, then don't.

    I think she's probably already over it by the way, so forgive yourself and move on.


  • #3
    RedXIV
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭RedXIV


    Be a wingman without lying about your position then? it can be done, i've done it before. and you can actually make friends doing it. Being a wingman doesn't mean you have to try and convince the girl you're going to kiss her, just distract her :D and that can be done without the promise of intimacy


  • #4
    helimachoptor
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 21,693 Mod ✭✭✭✭helimachoptor


    RedXIV wrote: »
    Be a wingman without lying about your position then? it can be done, i've done it before. and you can actually make friends doing it. Being a wingman doesn't mean you have to try and convince the girl you're going to kiss her, just distract her :D and that can be done without the promise of intimacy


    some good advice there. Having recently been a wingman for a good mate, I got chatting to the girl and had a great chat with her for the night while my buddy was over eating the other girls face! Friends can be made +1


  • #5
    Cazlou
    Closed Accounts Posts: 659 ✭✭✭Cazlou


    As above, unless she asked you if you were single and you said you were, you've no reason to feel guilty. You were chatting to the girl, you never claimed to be single, I know from a girl's perspective, if you're mates being chatted up and his mate makes conversation - it's by no means assumed that they're on the pull too! if that makes any sense?!
    but bottom line - you never told any lies, you were doing a favour for a mate, your gf was cool with it, the mate had someone to natter with while her friend did whatever with your mate, what's there to be guilty about!?!:D


  • #6
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    how did you leave it with the girl? unless you agreed to meet her again, you've nothing to feel guilty about. PS - just in case you're wondering, if you'd been single, this wouldn't have happened ;)


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Cheers for the responses

    Girlinterrupted : think I wont do wingman again in way I did it by 'hiding truths' or not being 100% upfront - think thats what was getting to me,
    What I will do as RedXIV and be 100% myself if being wingman ever again

    tbh : for what its worth I didnt arrange to meet her again.
    youre probably right if i was single it wouldnt have happened cos I'd have been maybe trying to much to score and not natural and just talking to someone nice


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