mass booklets necessary?

barbiegirl

Hi

I'm getting married in 10 weeks in Italy. We are obviously shipping a lot of stuff across as I have no intention of trailing around shops when I could be lying by the pool in the sun, in the run up to the big day.:p
However I was wondering is it acceptable NOT to have wedding booklets as I feel it is an added hassle and in fairness, who keeps them?

What do ye think?

Abi

barbiegirl wrote: »

Hi

I'm getting married in 10 weeks in Italy. We are obviously shipping a lot of stuff across as I have no intention of trailing around shops when I could be lying by the pool in the sun, in the run up to the big day.:p
However I was wondering is it acceptable NOT to have wedding booklets as I feel it is an added hassle and in fairness, who keeps them?

What do ye think?

Im not really too sure tbh. I find a lot of the older folk have a tendancy to want one. Some people hang onto them as keep-sakes also, the sentimental kind I suppose!

Any wedding I've been to had them. Thats starting to worry me a bit now, I hadnt even thought of it

If you dont get the response you need here, I'd have a quick word with a priest from your local parish about it.

CathyMoran

We had a tiny Irish church wedding sans mass booklets and everyone said that they loved our wedding. I dont think that they are necessary.

Cantab.

Are you having a full nuptial Mass?

And will it be in Italian/English/Latin?

The form of the Mass is pretty straight-forward and gives you a good skeleton to work off of. You can add your names and the name of the Celebrant, the name of the Church and select appropriate music (maybe add a small bit of score). I've seen pamphlets with some subtle holy pictures mixed in and they looked great. There's no need to go overboard with glitz and glam -- conveying the correct information that conforms to the Catholic standards is the main thing.

barbiegirl

Hi Cantab,

We are having a full nuptial wedding and it will be in English. I guess my question is answered, we do need them. I'll get printing :-)

Thanks

Malari

Is a wedding an actual mass??? I have to go to one soon and I thought it was just a ceremony in a church, not a mass?

barbiegirl

Generally it includes mass. I was at a mixed religion wedding/blessing in a catholic church last week and mass was included.

Malari

Thanks. Actually a mixed religion wedding is the only kind I've been to and there wasn't a mass, so a bit confused!

CathyMoran

Was speaking to the hubby about this - he arranged our wedding and apparently we had mass booklets (we had the full nuptual mass). I still do not think that they are necessary though.

Abi

We're not having the full ceremony, so no Eucharist. Specifically asked for it this way because although we are Catholics we don't be banging down the church doors of a Sunday, so we decided against it.


I've thought about it, and for something that will take about 20-30mins I dont think there is much point

CathyMoran

Abigayle wrote: »

We're not having the full ceremony, so no Eucharist. Specifically asked for it this way because although we are Catholics we don't be banging down the church doors of a Sunday, so we decided against it.


I've thought about it, and for something that will take about 20-30mins I dont think there is much point

We did the full bit, but then again I was heavily reliant on the church at the time - remember my husband taking out references to death from the ceremony, he made a few illegal changes but the priest understood! To be honest I don't remember about the mass booklet, any weddings that I have been to have had them but they are just a waste of paper. Besides which, I wanted to suprise people with the readings that we chose.

Brian Capture

I am surprised that you are asking this question.

In my experience the majority of people who chose to get married in Rome (or indeed, any place in Italy) are rabid, right-wing Catholics.

sillysocks

I know someone who got married in Italy recently and they did scroll mass 'booklets'. Basically just printed the basic details of the mass onto one sheet, and rolled them up, i think tied with a ribbon for the church. Meant they were really easy to transport because you could carry them over flat in your suitcase and roll them up when you get there.
If you look on weddingsonline.ie I think people there had templates for the scrolls.

Cantab.

Brian Capture wrote: »

I am surprised that you are asking this question.

In my experience the majority of people who chose to get married in Rome (or indeed, any place in Italy) are rabid, right-wing Catholics.

You'd really want to be more careful spouting sentiments such as "rabid, right-wing Catholics".

Cantab.

CathyMoran wrote: »

I still do not think that they are necessary though.

You'd be surprised the amount of people who don't know the Our Father let alone when to stand/sit/kneel. I'd be very reluctant to put instructions on the pamphlet.

I really want to have my wedding in Latin, but I don't think my parish priest knows much Latin. I think I'll have Latin music instead -- the Gloria, Agnus Dei, Ave Maria and of course a couple of English ones too -- wouldn't want to come across as a Latin nut!

barbiegirl

We're not rabid, right ring catholics!!!! Thankfully not overly sensitive either. Italy is for the beautiful scenary, gorgeous food, fantastic wine, hopefully sunny weather and also to spend some quality time with our families in around the event without all the running about and stress associated with weddings here.

I love the idea of the the scrolls, they'll be perfect, easy to do, transport and still a keepsake.

galway bride

hi there,

we were at a wedding last may in portugal, and at the church the first thing i looked for was the booklets! they did'nt have any! and they were missed.
funny that!

Brian Capture

Cantab. wrote: »

You'd really want to be more careful spouting sentiments such as "rabid, right-wing Catholics".

why?

It's a fair assertion.

The head of the Catholic Church (The Pope) is based in Rome and has been for years.

barbiegirl

Hi Brian,
Not all weddings in Italy are Catholic, e.g. Tom Cruise (Scientology).:D
Not all catholics are rabid (in fact I don't think there is any rabies in Ireland at all, so pokes a big hole in that arguement):D
Not all catholics are right wing, (Labour and the Greens).:D

iguana

Brian take it easy with the comments. People choose to marry in Italy for a myriad of reasons. Better weather, nice scenery, it can be cheaper to marry abroad, Italy is relatively easy to get married in as opposed to France where it is a bureaucratic nightmare.

And even if they were doing it for religious reasons, it doesn't have to mean they are rabid or right-wing.

irishharpie

Personally I love the wedding booklet's. I think they are a great momentum of a great day. My brother's and sister in law's both designed their own booklet's from front to back and they were beautiful with their individual wedding vow's and stuff like that and then after ward's a photo of the wedding was inserted into a space made on the back cover. It was lovely.

mrsberries

Have the same question but didnt want to create a new thread....

We are getting married in 2.5 months in Italy also. The mass booklets are somethign I keep putting off although I have been looking at readings etc...at my pre-marriage course yesterday the priest speaking at it made an interesting point - if creating the booklets is becoming a big thing, forget about them or just keep them to a two pager.

Just wondering how many have left them out or shortened them to 1/2 pages?
Barbiegirl -what did you do in the end?