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Parent's money problems

  • 15-06-2008 8:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey, hope someone in here can give some words of advice.

    I'm a 29 year old guy. My father has recently retired. This means that he no longer has as much money as he did. He has a drinking problem, and is in the pub every night.

    The drinking isn't totally out of control, but it does mean that he doesn't have much money to spare now that he isn't earning what he was before retiring.

    My parents are now having arguments about bills, and he is extremely reluctant to pay his way.

    I feel awful about this, there's a bad atmosphere in the house, and I don't like that my mother is being taken advantage of. This is something that's recently blown up, and I'm worried that it'll explode into something bigger. Things are ok for now (well, as ok as they can be), but, like I said, I'm scared that things will unravel.

    I'm going to work far away, and, I'm worried about what'll happen in my absence. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.


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  • #2
    MIN2511
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    WorriedSon wrote: »
    Hey, hope someone in here can give some words of advice.

    I'm a 29 year old guy. My father has recently retired. This means that he no longer has as much money as he did. He has a drinking problem, and is in the pub every night.

    The drinking isn't totally out of control, but it does mean that he doesn't have much money to spare now that he isn't earning what he was before retiring.

    My parents are now having arguments about bills, and he is extremely reluctant to pay his way.

    I feel awful about this, there's a bad atmosphere in the house, and I don't like that my mother is being taken advantage of. This is something that's recently blown up, and I'm worried that it'll explode into something bigger. Things are ok for now (well, as ok as they can be), but, like I said, I'm scared that things will unravel.

    I'm going to work far away, and, I'm worried about what'll happen in my absence. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.

    Sorry to hear this dude, the way the country is it's not easy to survive....
    tbh i don't think there is anything you can doo except chip in some money to cover the bills....


  • #3
    Carrigart Exile
    Closed Accounts Posts: 994 ✭✭✭Carrigart Exile


    Two thoughts, and I know this one will sound crazy but have you sat your dad down and spoke about his responsibilities ........it sometimes has to happen in reverse. And, could you afford to send your mum a few euros every month?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    is your mum stil working? is he expecting her to look after all the responsibilities? what kind of house do they live in-do they own it-could they down size?

    maybe you could talk to your dad -that you are going away and want to make sure everything is going to be alright while you are away as you have noticed somr tension between him and your mum...


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