Phobic re house

LegacyUser

i am afraid to leave home to go to a house. i have now got a new house but am afraid to leave here. I have been in it a few times but am afraid to stay been to therapy etc nothing blocks ythe terror

RedXIV

are you afraid of this one house in particular or do you hate leaving your current residence for any reason?

Overheal

Agrophobia or just love your home?

LegacyUser

RedXIV wrote: »

are you afraid of this one house in particular or do you hate leaving your current residence for any reason?

No any house afraid to leave home to live anywhere else. Only feel secure at my home but want to move on and hae my own space. Thanks for your reply

LegacyUser

Overheal wrote: »

Agrophobia or just love your home?

Sort of agoraphoia but no really as i can travel anywhere just have to come back here. I can stay with gf in her house for a few days. Thanks for your reply

LegacyUser

hi.. dont worry.. you can overcome this... there is just some fear built up about feeling unsafe when you cant go home.... when your at home you feel safe and when your out of your comfort zone you yearn to feel safe at home... its just a trick of the mind that makes you believe that you cannot do it...its just fear

what you could do is not force yourself completly but over time move out,like buy your new home and have it there and start staying one night then two and get your girlfriend to support you... eventually if you build it up nice and homey like your family home you will eventually detach fully,and really enjoy it...

you could try hypnotherapy i did 10 sessions myself to overcome a bad habit i had,i had an anxious thing where i kept pulling at my eyelashes and they kept coming away! i looked stupid-not to mention having to hide it behind eyeliner,but because i was doing it i felt ineadequate and it effected my confidence... but i havent pulled at them since the hypnotherapy and that was a year ago-thank god as every girl likes to have eyelashes to bat up and down!!

so try to look at this phobia as small as you can because it is being magnified in your mind,and scaring you.... build a really positive image of your new home-lovely space of your own,your own t.v-chillin out watchin dvds,cooking at home and having friends over,your girlfriend coming to stay,and just the peace and quiet of it ... good luck xx

LegacyUser

How do you stop beating yourself up over having anxiety and not being able to do things other can and comparing your self with them?

And how do you come to terms with never having been able to work in another country cos of anxiety about living anywhere else

AARRRGH

Therapy would be a good start.

LegacyUser

Unregphobic wrote: »

How do you stop beating yourself up over having anxiety and not being able to do things other can and comparing your self with them?

And how do you come to terms with never having been able to work in another country cos of anxiety about living anywhere else

i think you have to learn how to believe in yourself-how do you do that i hear you say... well you have to learn to accept yourself and appreciate yourself-if your insecure and are comparing yourself to others it means you feel there is a void within...

i found i had alot of it in my twenties but your not suppossed to know everything then because you are only defining your identity...start filling the void within with a positive self image and your perception of others will change because you will see you have things to learn and so does eveyone else...

so basically you have to get to know yourself and love yourself,and when you do you will never need anyone else to validate who you are-

we all have gone through this at some time or another so dont feel your the only one,its a journey for us all...

LegacyUser

red foxy wrote: »

i found i had alot of it in my twenties t=2055313529/QUOTE]I am in 40s now regret never having worked abroad /travelled, but I couldn't.

I am even having difficulty moving to new house http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055313529
but feel confident I can now if i do slowly. In time i would like to spend a while abroad? Is it too late? Thanks

LegacyUser

dublindude wrote: »

Therapy would be a good start.

I have had therapy but still could not travel, seeing a psy and on meds

the_syco

Did you move house with your family before?

Overheal

That anxiety stems from somewhere; almost always a past experience.