Swinging????

Deadalus

Has anybody ever had any bad experiences with this? Did it destroy your relationship with your partner or make it stronger??

Dancor

I prefer the slide

Rb

Haven't/wouldn't.

Irishpimpdude

Deadalus wrote: »

Has anybody ever had any bad experiences with this? Did it destroy your relationship with your partner or make it stronger??

Who suggested it you or her?

Steve_o

dancor wrote: »

I prefer the slide

Na, the See-Saw is where the action is at

OP, haven't tried it tbh,

Deadalus

Nobody really we where just talking about it and wondered would it be a really bad thing or would it be absolutely fine.

xzanti

I haven't and wouldn't judge anyone who would, but to me it would indicate that you both wanted something else/something was missing and thus spell the end.. Thats just MHO

smellslikeshoes

xzanti wrote: »

I haven't and wouldn't judge anyone who would, but to me it would indicate that you both wanted something else/something was missing and thus spell the end.. Thats just MHO

Gotta agree with this. Maybe you should try something to spice up your relationship that doesn't involve someone else.

biko

Unless you are going out 5 years or more and already have a bit kinky stuff going on I wouldn't do it. Chances are it'll do more damage than good.

humanji

dancor wrote: »

I prefer the slide

You kinky fecker!

Mr.McMoobs

Went swinging before, everything was going grand until all of a sudden i just fell off.

Deadalus

Our sex life is great and we have been together over two years and i wouldnt mind seeing her with another girl but def not a fella I think.

GirlInterrupted

Bit extreme. I'd find it hard to deal with if I was really commited. If you're not really commited to each other it would probably wreck things anyway.

briantwin

if you're very serious about this, contact the caravanning club of Ireland. They're the pros when it comes to wife swapping and all that jazz. nothing like a couple of fold out beds , some cheap wine and some sweaty promiscuous caravan action to reaffirm a couples love for one another!!

axer

Deadalus wrote: »

Our sex life is great and we have been together over two years and i wouldnt mind seeing her with another girl but def not a fella I think.

Bit unfair dont you think. Is she bisexual?

Sherifu

Deadalus wrote: »

Our sex life is great and we have been together over two years and i wouldnt mind seeing her with another girl but def not a fella I think.

Good luck with that.

Davidius

Posting in a thread about sex.

Deadalus

Unfair to who? The other lads!!! Though sh=t. I wouldnt be with another girl I don't think so it wouldn't be unfair. She isn't bi but does find other women attractive as most girls do I think and would like to be with one. We should probobly wait till we are in our 30's and bored of shagging each other. So back to the original question. No bad experiences with anyone here then?

Winters

Im up for it. Just me and her.

Call me.

Davidius

Deadalus wrote: »

She isn't bi but does find other women attractive as most girls do I think and would like to be with one.

What?

Deadalus

Fair enough that didn't make alot of sense upon re-reading it. she has never been with a girl and certainly would not consider herself bi but is curious. thats all

axer

Deadalus wrote: »

Unfair to who? The other lads!!! Though sh=t. I wouldnt be with another girl I don't think so it wouldn't be unfair. She isn't bi but does find other women attractive as most girls do I think and would like to be with one. We should probobly wait till we are in our 30's and bored of shagging each other. So back to the original question. No bad experiences with anyone here then?

So would you just be watching or part taking in the activities?

Deadalus

Dont really wanna discuss myself and my partner just wanted to hear some stories from other couples who have tried it and whether it was a disaster or not.

axer

Deadalus wrote: »

Dont really wanna discuss myself and my partner just wanted to hear some stories from other couples who have tried it and whether it was a disaster or not.

It depends what swinging you intend to do me thinks.

SimpleSam06

Just remember, once you open the door, you can never close it again!

silvine

Why not? I'm always hearing you never know what goes on behind closed doors.

120_Minutes

swinging is different for each individual, you have to listen to advice and make your own decisions. But, if the lines of communications are not strong in your relationship I wouldn't advise it.

Also, you have double standards. If you want to see her with another girl you should be willing to go along with what she wants, what if she wants to see you with a guy? Or if she wants to be with a guy?

You can't have your cake etc

Nevyn

Merrygorounds ftw.

flanum

Deadalus wrote: »

she has never been with a girl and certainly would not consider herself bi but is curious.

LOL how can she certainly not consider herself bi yet be curious about being with a woman???
SHE IS BI-SEXUAL!

kraggy

flanum wrote: »

LOL how can she certainly not consider herself bi yet be curious about being with a woman???
SHE IS BI-SEXUAL!

Not necessarily. Hold your horses there boy-o.

Intermittent attraction to same sex doesn't necessarily mean bisexual never mind curiosity alone.

Neither does having one or even several experiences with the same sex.

flanum

eh?? so could you explain what bi-sexual is?

Winters

flanum wrote: »

eh?? so could you explain what bi-sexual is?

Greedy.

flanum

well according to wiki http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality

quote:

"Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the romantic and/or sexual attraction of individuals to others of both genders (socially) or sexes (biologically). Bisexuals are not necessarily equally attracted to men and women and may even shift between states of finding either gender or sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.[1] However, some bisexuals are and remain fairly static in their level of attraction throughout their adult life."

so basically, the op's other half is a bisexual! she certainly isnt straight!

kraggy

Someone who has a sexual experience with a member of the same sex out of curiosity isn't necessarily bisexual.

Many people, both male and female, have, at times, found themselves attracted to other men/women.

That doesn't make them bisexual either.

For someone to be bisexual, they don't have to be equally attracted to both sexes, but they would be genuinely interested in the same sex for more time that it would take to satisfy a curiosity.

Muggy Dev

Tried it.Same room.Oh Jaysus!What a disappointment.My new partner was hot but shaved(turn off for me),partner´s was ugly but to be fair she went through with it(no sniggering at the back)......Not recommended unless you are dead from within.We were just tourists.Dead Tourists if you will:)

GirlInterrupted

Muggy Dev wrote: »

Tried it.Same room.Oh Jaysus!What a disappointment.My new partner was hot but shaved(turn off for me),partner´s was ugly but to be fair she went through with it(no sniggering at the back)......Not recommended unless you are dead from within.We were just tourists.Dead Tourists if you will:)

'Dead from within' says it all tbh.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

xzanti wrote: »

I haven't and wouldn't judge anyone who would, but to me it would indicate that you both wanted something else/something was missing and thus spell the end.. Thats just MHO

Agreed! It just indicates that something is missing. And I could never watched my girlfriend with somebody else either

Jemmy

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

'Dead from within' says it all tbh.

Agreed!
If your in a relationship, each other should be enough if not why be together!

AckwelFoley

when i have sex, its a one cock event.

There is an exclusion zone of other cocks for a 100m radius around the spectacular event.#

k.

thefinalstage

snyper wrote: »

when i have sex, its a one cock event.

There is an exclusion zone of other cocks for a 100m radius around the spectacular event.#

k.

Otherwise your girl may get up mid session and start shagging the other cock.

Aurora Borealis

OP you're not going to get too many serious responses in AH, nor can we speculate as to the robustness of your relationship. I haven't tried swinging but have contemplated it in the past, similarly me with a girl and my then partner with a guy. It didn't come to fruition in the end but I do think that if you're solid in your relationship and can communicate properly that it is something you can explore. I would but that's me and it'd depend on whether the person I was with was 110% comfortable with it. What ever happens you have to put your relationship together first and make sure you've discussed all the possible consequences it may have.

do you love it?

i know that a house across the road from my friend house holds swinging parties, always the same cars outside, so really to me it just seem like one massive open relationship. i dont really like the idea of it tbh.
id hate to see my boyfriend with someone else.

SheenaD

personally i think you cannot be that mad about your partner if you are willing to do this

do you love it?

SheenaD wrote: »

personally i think you cannot be that mad about your partner if you are willing to do this

yeah, but if your partner suggested it and you werent really up for it, thatd be an issue.....eek

MIN2511

What does swinging mean?

xzanti

MIN2511 wrote: »

What does swinging mean?

We'll tell you when you're older..

Latchy

Bit of naturisim now and again but no, not much swinging of late

MIN2511

xzanti wrote: »

We'll tell you when you're older..

Seriously.... i am old enough-please..............

Latchy

MIN2511 wrote: »

Seriously.... i am old enough-please..............

Consenting aldults sleeping around ,sometimes all together ....seriously

xzanti

MIN2511 wrote: »

Seriously.... i am old enough-please..............

http://www.theswing.com/

MIN2511

xzanti wrote: »

http://www.theswing.com/

Am at work, don't fancy clicking on that link-imagine what the IT lads would think... They already think i am raunchy, wouldn't give them more...

Ok, i understand... Seriously do people do this? Excuse my ignorance(naivety) but why would anyone enjoy this?