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Can't forget my ex

  • 05-06-2008 7:02pm
    #1
    adastra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43 ✭


    Hi guys, I need some advice please...

    About two years ago when I was in college I met a guy from Spain, the friend of one of my housemates. We kissed one night and after a lot of hesitation on my part we became a couple. He was amazing, he treated me like a princess, and he used to tell me how he wanted to be with me forever, how he'd never loved anyone like me, etc etc. I tried not to fall in love with him because I knew he'd be leaving, but I did. The time he was leaving was the most painful thing I've ever been through. It broke my heart.

    We stayed in contact and during that summer I booked a flight to go over to see him. The second day I was there we went into the city and who did we bump into? His ex, who he broke up with soon after he met me. She rang him a few hours later really upset, and he felt so guilty. Then the next morning he said that he thought we should break up cos he couldn't offer me anything and I deserved better and so on. I couldn't fly home for a few days, and while I was still there we were pretty much still a couple...we slept in the same bed, held hands....it was really confusing and upsetting.

    After I came back we still talked, and he'd say he loved me and he wished we could be together. This was two years ago, and we're still in contact. We email and talk on msn fairly often. We still love each other. He's been with someone else for about a year, and he says he loves her, yet he talks about wishing he could be with me, how he thinks about me so much, and intimate stuff as well. I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months, and I love him, but its just not the same. I think about the Spanish guy so often, and it actually makes me feel sick sometimes I miss him so much.

    I just don't know what to do. Rationally I know that I should forget about him and move on, cut all contact, but another part of me thinks that he's the one. I'd do anything to be with him. Any words of wisdom?


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  • #2
    RedXIV
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,493 ✭✭✭RedXIV


    Words of wisdom i'd love to offer. All i can offer instead is opinions :D

    First off, if your both over 18, there's very few reasons why one of the two of you couldn't move to the other to be with together. And since BOTH of you are in relationships, you're both not commiting properly. I have to say i don't really like what your doing in that situation. If you really want to save the situation you have at home. cut contact and tell him you're doing that. If he REALLY and i mean REALLY wanted to be with you, he'd come after you. He's not doing that so to be honest, i wouldn't hold your breath for him.

    Cut contact, it's tough but necessary


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