Too Soon?

berno17

Hi,

I posted a few weeks about about an impending split with my girlfriend of over a year. Well, I broke it off a few weeks back and although it has been an upsetting and strange time I know it's for the best.

I was out at the pub with my mates for the first time since it the other night and got chatting to this girl who was a friend of one of my mates girlfriends. She seemed a nice lass and everyone had a good night. I didn't think anything of it but she must have got my number off someone and she has sent me a text asking if I fancy going out for a drink with her sometime.

Now, I'm going off on holiday for a few weeks so I wouldn't be able to see her for a few weeks anyway. What i'm wondering is should I or should I not? She was a really attractive lass and we seemed to have a fair bit in common. What I don't want is another relationship, part of me is saying it's too soon to be doing anything like that while the other is saying that I need to get used to being single and what harm will going for a few drinks and having a nice night do ?

Anyone have any thoughts? I suppose I need to get myself out there again and enjoy my summer but there are feelings of guilt and worry. I suppose this is normal? Ive just never been in this position before.

Thanks for reading

RedXIV

Go out with her and don't think of it as the start of a relationship. you might want to slip in at some stage in the night that you're heading off for a few weeks and who knows, she might even be just what you need when you get back

best of luck OP

Red

JDLK

Square it with your mate before you do anything with her

Edit: Sorry I misread that, I thought you said it was one of your mates Ex's.
In that case just go with what feels right, no harm in testing the waters

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I don't remember your last thread, so this may not be relevant.

But, do you have any feelings for your Ex? Strong ones, ones where you'd drop the new girl if the old one came back?

If you do, then don't string this new girl along.

If that isn't relevant, then ignore it.

Also, fair play to her, it took some cajones for her to get your number and text you. If you like her, then go for it. Tell her you are heading for a holiday for a few weeks, and you'll be in touch when you get back.

And then get in touch when you get back.

Actually.

When are you going?

Would you be able to arrange something for before you go, that might be better. The you can be in touch while you are away too, and meet up the night you arrive back. That would be a sweet night I'd say.

If you have no feelings toward the ex, then definitely go for it with this new girl. Don't let opportunity pass you by brother, you'll only regret it.

berno17

Thanks guys.

I don't have any desire to get back with my Ex. At the same time she would be devestated if she were to see me out and about with another girl, she's taken the break-up quite badly. I'd feel bad if I were to bump into her but I don't have any romantic feelings for her, no.

It's only a drink I suppose, should go and have a fun night and see what happens.

thanks everyone for their advice, always great to come on here and get helpful replies so quickly!