gf troubles

LegacyUser

hey, ive been going out with the same girl for a while, but we went out drinkin together for the first night recently. when she got drunk she became a lot more open about things. mainly things about sex, which we normally dont discuss. we were talking about our sexual preferences and she let slip, she loves anal sex. so when we went home that night, she tried some of the things i mentioned and then we commenced with the anal sex. she obviously really enjoyed it, but it hurt me a lot. she obviously wants it again in the future, but i cant bear the pain.

what should i do?

im goin unreg, as my family and i are very catholic and my siblings use boards.
please help, i want our relationship to continue. she is funny, cute and sucks like a pro.

Irishcrx

Hi mate,

My ex was the same she loved anal sex, I wasn't that into it really but did it for her and all that, basicly just chat with her about it, tell her it uncomfortable on you, next time use plenty of lubrication before entering, visit a sex shop and you'll find plenty to help you along the way, above all talk about it to her don't say nothing and hope it will go away the longer relationships go on the more sexually open they become.

bombidol

Stall the feckin ball. Whos pitching and whos recieving here?

Nevyn

Used more lube, take more time to ease her open, buy sex toys to stretch her slightly and to for fill her wants until you get more comfortable being in her ass, make sure you take the safety measures required for safer sex and to stop cross infection.

bombidol there are men who don't like anal sex with women and they find the grip to tight and uncomfortable in comparison to the vagina.

helimachoptor

Irishcrx wrote: »

Hi mate,

My ex was the same she loved anal sex, I wasn't that into it really but did it for her and all that,

B*stard and OMG WTF not???

Op Lube is your friend take your time find a good position and you wont look back... Unless your catching then you will

Bottle_of_Smoke

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she obviously wants it again in the future, but i cant bear the pain.

The only time I did it she used a lot of lube & a condom was used. No pain for me at all. Ensure you use a condom, would imagine it makes all the difference

Talliesin

Would you say the pain was mainly a matter of pressure or friction?

Friction would be reduced by wearing a condom and using more lube.

Pressure is a matter of the sphincter pressing against the penis. Using toys can help here, as can stimulating the area with your fingers and/or tongue.

If pressure is the problem it's important to talk to her about it. She may be deliberately trying to keep the pressure strong on her sphincter because of how it feels for her (stronger stimulation and also she may like a degree of pain) and also because of how she hopes it feels for you (up until the point were it hurts many would say the stronger the better). If you don't talk to her then she's could keep doing so, in the belief that it will make it better for you.

SheRa

sexpertwanted wrote: »

she loves anal sex... she obviously wants it again in the future, but i cant bear the pain.

Apologies OP if Im wrong but I smell a troll.

sexpertwanted wrote: »

and sucks like a pro.

Jesus if this is a real post, what a way to describe your girlf!!

Nevyn

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