your idea proposal ladies??

mollybird

it's something i haven't stopped thinking about and i still have no idea what i would like my man to do. i def know i would not want anyone to know first but i kinda like the idea of him asking my dad for permission first.

do ye have any idea's on what ye would like if ye are like me and still waiting for that special moment

xzanti

Ah has to be the old cliché Eifel Tower job.. At night of course, after a nice dinner and before *ahem* desert in an ideal world of course, but once he had put thought and effort into it I really wouldn't mind where he did it as long as I loved him awe

I want someone who thinks the world revolves around me and would do anything for me, with me.

I couldn't give a monkeys about the other details.

Thumpette

Did ye see that programme on RTE where that blond yoke helps the guy with the proposal- and then at the end when they are having their private moment she pops in with her big mike and her 'I'm blah blah from RTE'

I would hate to be asked with a big audience- let alone a silly tv presenter and the whole country watching. I'd say no just for the hell of it! :pac:

Abi

xzanti wrote: »

Ah has to be the old cliché Eifel Tower job

Good God no. I'd fall over the side with mortification. :pac:


It was broken slowly to me in the comfort of our own home. Then I drank some wine. Then I said ok then, lets do it!

But only four will be there, I said. And two of which are you and me. Hasnt quite worked out that way though.


Plan phailed.

barbiegirl

My guy had the ideal planned, he gave me picnic basket with champagne and a voucher for a romantic Italian themed picnic at a venue of my choice. I picked the Iveagh gardens, then it never stopped raining, so was given pressie in June, but was the end of September when he finally did it in Crete in a gorgeous bea\ch side restaurant by candle light. Can't say it was a surprise at that point though cause we'd booked the venue in July. Still it was special to us cause I have the best guy in the world :-)

Nevyn

A weekend end away in a hotel room with a huge bed and a huge bath and to do nothing but eat, drink and make merry and ever leave the room....

oh you meant like a wedding proposal set up.
Can't say it's something I have ever put any thought into.

Silverfish

My idea proposal would be


'We just won 5million in the lotto! I propose we go shopping for tvs, cars, and games! In that exact order. More tea?'




I think if anyone asked my poor Dad for permission he'd say 'What? She stopped asking me for permission when she was 17. Sure I'm only a portable ATM machine."

kelly1979

also like the idea of when the time came that my partner would ask my dad's permission 1st, think its a nice tradition.
As far as the proposal goes, i'm not sure; wouldnt be too fussy, would like to know that he made an effort though, maybe a picnic or on a lake in a rowing boat except i'd probably fall off the boat in shock:eek:
Definitly would NOT like an audience i'd prefer it to be private.

Reku

Silverfish wrote: »

I think if anyone asked my poor Dad for permission he'd say 'What? She stopped asking me for permission when she was 17. Sure I'm only a portable ATM machine."

So the correct thing for him to do would be to ask your dad for permission to raid your dad's account to pay for the wedding so?

Dudess

Sorry, but asking your dad's permission... why?

Silverfish

farohar wrote: »

So the correct thing for him to do would be to ask your dad for permission to raid your dad's account to pay for the wedding so?

Nope, that was a joke. I'm my own person, I don't need money from anyone but my job

Also I would never expect my parents to pay for my wedding, should I ever go down that road.

CathyMoran

I liked the idea of my husband asking my dad and mum, more in that it was seeking their formal approval of him (which I knew that they would give). My parents did help a bit towards my wedding also, I know that seem un-pc now but it meant that we did not get into any debt over our wedding (I should state that it was done to minimum expense and that we plan a big re-newal of vows for our 5 years together which we wlll pay for ourselves).

In terms of proposals - as long as he really means it, it does not matter when or where it happens.

kelly1979

Dudess wrote: »

Sorry, but asking your dad's permission... why?

because i think its a nice tradition and as cathy said above, its getting the formal approval from your parents, in some ways i guess it shows respect to your family's feelings.
each to their own

Dudess

kelly1979 wrote: »

its getting the formal approval from your parents, in some ways i guess it shows respect to your family's feelings.
each to their own

Well your dad's approval and feelings anyway...

kelly1979

Dudess wrote: »

Well your dad's approval and feelings anyway...[/QUOTE

saying that if my dad didnt approve i still have a mind of my own and would say yes despite this, i'm not some 'daddys girl' who has to seek his approval for anything.
its a tradition that i PERSONALLY approve of.
i'm not here to force my beliefs on others the question was about 'our ideal proposals'

John Mason

seriously, do girls actually think about these things ??? how strange

kelly1979

kelly1979 wrote: »

Dudess wrote: »

Well your dad's approval and feelings anyway...[/QUOTE

saying that if my dad didnt approve i still have a mind of my own and would say yes despite this, i'm not some 'daddys girl' who has to seek his approval for anything.
its a tradition that i PERSONALLY approve of.
i'm not here to force my beliefs on others the question was about 'our ideal proposals'

I have no issues with peoples personal preferances.
But was that really a tradition? Did your father ask your mothers parents?
Or is it just wedding schmaltz?
It certainly didn't work that way in my family.
My parents have always told me, when you commit your life to a partner.
They are your top priority, second to none.
They certainly wouldn't appreciate their approval being sought by an intended.

irishbird

irishbird wrote: »

seriously, do girls actually think about these things ??? how strange

I do think of children things, like how will I cope if they turn out to be smelly boys.
What kind of school I am going to send them to, names etc.

Hrududu

because i think its a nice tradition

But I think the tradition has gotten a little mixed up. The actual tradition was for the man to ask the woman. Then when she had accepted he went to the father to ask for her hand. But for some reason it has now become the man asking the father before he asks the woman.

tallaght01

Yea, it would be pretty embarrassing if her dad said yes, and the girl said no.

Lots of the ladies here are hoping for pretty hardcore proposals.

I wasn't aware it was so important. If I'm ever gettin married I was just gonna do it by text message or whatever

Dudess

irishbird wrote: »

seriously, do girls actually think about these things ??? how strange

Of course. Why think outside the box when there's a bunch of pre-determined rules you can follow? The easier option is the better one ultimately - it doesn't upset the apple-cart.

John Mason

Dudess wrote: »

Of course. Why think outside the box when there's a bunch of pre-determined rules you can follow? The easier option is the better one ultimately - it doesn't upset the apple-cart.

errr...i am a little confused by your response Dudess

sure my dad has been trying to sell me off for years, so i am sure he couldnt careless

but do people actually think what they want their proposal to be like, jaysis, talk about setting yourself up for a fall. what if it isnt what you expected? would you make him do it again in the way you want? or do you tell them exactly what and how you want it?

i have never once in my life thought about what a proposal senerio. hmmm, i really think i am missing some girl genes

Rob_l

Moonbaby wrote: »

I want someone who thinks the world revolves around me .

You want someone from ancient times when we still thought the world was flat perhaps, i suggest for your next date a time machine

Malari

irishbird wrote: »

but do people actually think what they want their proposal to be like, jaysis, talk about setting yourself up for a fall. what if it isnt what you expected? would you make him do it again in the way you want? or do you tell them exactly what and how you want it?

Ever see that episode of Scrubs, where Elliot gets yer man to propose again because he didn't do it right the first time?:D

John Mason

Malari wrote: »

Ever see that episode of Scrubs, where Elliot gets yer man to propose again because he didn't do it right the first time?:D

No, havent seen that one but there was episode of friends on last week where phoebe got her bloke to propose in loads of different ways. all a bit stupid if you ask me

monkeyfudge

I once saw a guy propose to his girlfriend in Captain America's. He had the music turned down and everything. She ran straight out of the place.

Reku

Malari wrote: »

Ever see that episode of Scrubs, where Elliot gets yer man to propose again because he didn't do it right the first time?:D

If I remember right Veronica's Closet also had something like this where the guy proposed midway through sex so she let on like she didn't remember so he'd propose again as she wanted a story she could tell her mum.

and2

being a bloke i technically shouldnt be in here but came in for advice and have to say brillaint... planning to propose over next few weeks, Gonna ask the dad for permission as i know thats what she wants, well her mother does!! What do you's think of this.. I know i wont pick the perfect ring so is it ok to buy say a trial model like a swarovski and let the lady in question pick her own?? is that tacky or thoughtful??
keep coming with proposal ideas.. i havnt a clue how im gonna do it.

Lockstep

Moonbaby wrote: »

I want someone who thinks the world revolves around me

Lol

kickoutthejams

kickoutthejams wrote: »

Lol

Famous last words.

No1XtinaFan

As long as he puts a lot of thought into and I am completely surprised by it

I want him to ask my Dad- I like that idea, I'm a real daddy's girl and I think it's nice- It's like he's saying- I promise to look out for her and love her forever!

This isjust MY ideal proposal I am my own person and it's not like I NEED someone to look after me foreever, I just think it's nice...

Oh and he has to get down on 1 knee!!!

Ginny

A proposal would be a start...:D

Lockstep

Moonbaby wrote: »

Famous last words.

How so?

kickoutthejams

kickoutthejams wrote: »

How so?

Your day will come, and you'll fall off that edge.

Lockstep

I seriously stare at my monitor in confusion at your posts sometimes

Yes I think we are best avoid each other from now on.

Lockstep

Black Swan

Thaedydal wrote: »

A weekend end away in a hotel room with a huge bed and a huge bath and to do nothing but eat, drink and make merry and ever leave the room....

They did this in an old film... I think it was called "Barefoot in the Park," starring Robert Redford and Jane Fonda. But came after the proposal and wedding.

ams

and2 wrote: »

being a bloke i technically shouldnt be in here but came in for advice and have to say brillaint... planning to propose over next few weeks, Gonna ask the dad for permission as i know thats what she wants, well her mother does!! What do you's think of this.. I know i wont pick the perfect ring so is it ok to buy say a trial model like a swarovski and let the lady in question pick her own?? is that tacky or thoughtful??
keep coming with proposal ideas.. i havnt a clue how im gonna do it.

I think thats pretty thoughful unless you are 100% sure you could pick out something that she'd like