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wedding presents

  • 25-05-2008 8:23pm
    #1
    auditek923
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 313 ✭✭


    we are getting married in august. we have our own house for 3 years now and it is fully decorated, so we dont really want presents as such. we would prefer money. how do we get this message out to the guests we are inviting


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  • #2
    CathyMoran
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    We didn't ask or expect to get anything - in the end we got a car (a few family members gathered together) and some money. May have seemed a bit lax but we just wanted to be married and did not care about anything else. Good luck on your big day.


  • #3
    auditek923
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 313 ✭✭auditek923


    i know its rude to expect to recieve but we kinda need some funds for spending money on the honeymoon and to go towards the costs of the big day.


  • #4
    CathyMoran
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    Why don't you just ask for money then - the year after we got married there were about 5 weddings we were invited to, we would have been glad to give money! Its not shallow, its just being realistic nowadays. Weddings are so expensive.


  • #5
    barbiegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,846 ✭✭✭barbiegirl


    You don't have to say anything to the guests, just say it your parents and when anyone askes them what you'd like they'll just say money. Plus if anyone asks you just say well we have everything for the house and then they'll automatically give money. Most people do now anyway.
    Don't worry about how much or anything else treat anything you get as a bonus and don't worry, everything will always work out.


  • #6
    PmcG01
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23 ✭PmcG01


    Let other people get the word out and it'll spread. On no accounts do what I heard some friends of friends do. They mentioned in their invites that they only wanted 'Cold Hard Cash'. To say it didn't go down well would be an understatement.


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  • #7
    iguana
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,917 ✭✭✭✭iguana


    A friend of my parents got a wedding invite last year not only specifying cash gifts only, but stated a minumum of €250. They turned the invite down.


  • #8
    NinjaTruncs
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,528 ✭✭✭NinjaTruncs


    iguana wrote: »
    A friend of my parents got a wedding invite last year not only specifying cash gifts only, but stated a minumum of €250. They turned the invite down.

    That's just made my day, how can people be so rude(the couple not your folks) fine if you want cash say it, but to actually put an amount to give is unbelivable. next thing they will be tellign each person exactly what to buy.

    I'd turn an invite down like that even if it was from a close friend or family member.

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  • #9
    Aquitaine
    Closed Accounts Posts: 123 ✭✭Aquitaine


    I would't worry - most people are in the same position as you - have a house and all the furnishings.most people will give money anyway. and its always nice to get some presents also!


  • #10
    mydarkstar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 249 ✭✭mydarkstar


    auditek923 wrote: »
    i know its rude to expect to recieve but we kinda need some funds for spending money on the honeymoon and to go towards the costs of the big day.

    One of my friends got married last year and they set up an online account with Trailfinders who they had booked the honeymoon with. They put a note/flier from Trailfinders about the a/c in the envelope when they sent the invites out. Any surplus over the cost of the honeymoon is kept on their account till their next holiday. To be honest everyone was relieved they made it so easy to know what to give since they already had everything they needed.


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