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Regarding premature ejaculation

  • 24-05-2008 9:47am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I am a registered user but i have an embarrassing problem, hence me asking this question anonymously. I have on a few occasion had problems "holding back". It doesn't happen all the time but it happens enough for me to be concerned about it and it causes me anxiety any time i have sex. My reason for asking for advice is because of an incident that happened to me recently. After a few drinks out i hooked up with a beautiful woman and went back to her place. Things proceeded very well but even before we got to it i lost my stamina. She didn't take it well, in fact she outright laughed at the situation. I am now moreso than ever anxious about this problem. It really hasnt helped my confidence in being forward with women. Can anybody out there help me please


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    I see no reason why ye cant approach it as two mature individuals and at least speak about it. If she laughed about the thing at the time she may be a little immature and insensitive... was there alcohol involved?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    I really think some women ought to be a whole lot more understanding about male sexuality. Sometimes guys climax too early, it's just nerves and excitement. You just need to practice more.
    If you either on your own or, as a couple just relax and play around bringing yourself to the edge until you figure out how to cool off before you go past the point of no return where you climax. You basically just need to learn to 'manage' your orgasm.
    Also, if you've a lot of bottled up drive i.e. It's been a while since you've last climaxed you might consider taking action into your own hands.
    As for your girlfriend, if she's going to laugh at you because of something like that I'd dump her! It's VERY insensitive.
    Sex and The City has a lot to answer for!


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Tell me this, ignoring suggestions about a pre-match masturbation (which never helped me, it don't take care of the nerves which is the real problem), after your initial orgasm would you then be relaxed and able to perform better 2nd time around? This used to happen to me, I would last only seconds, so I just figured rather than stress about it, why not turn it to my advantage?

    Try and integrate the PE into your seduction. I.e. as you are undressing each other make your partner feel that she has driven you so sexually crazy that your first orgasm of the night is only seconds away, maybe get her hand involved and just let yourself come as soon as possible. Then, get to work on her whilst the little man recharges. Hopefully, you'll be relaxed enough 2nd time around that things will go smoother, plus you'll up her horniness levels, making her think she's so overwhelmingly sexy she was able to do that to her man.

    Worked for me anway, and with my current g/f it stopped happening at all after a short while.


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