Feeling down

Numpty

I am feeling down as I have had a lot of time to think about my life lately. Normally I work a lot of hours in a hard job which suits me fine as it gets me along from day to day. But now I have had some time off where I could analyse my life I realise that it is quite empty. Whether work or home life, it just seems pointless. I am a 26 year old guy but I feel like I have run out of options as to where to go with my life and currently it feels like everything is falling apart.

I wouldnt like to go down the professional treatment route as I wouldnt want to risk people finding out this part of my life. I have worked hard at hiding this by in the main pretending to be a normal happy person which is difficult because of peoples endless "questions" about my personal life.

My problem now is trying to deal with this on my own which is proving to be difficult. I have tried getting out more but when you are on your own its awkward especially when it comes to pubs or clubs or whatever. I have travelled a bit to see if that would help. I even tried alcohol as a solution but it does nothing for me.

The only thing that has worked so far as I said has been work but that is losing its effect.

Does anyone have any advice on what I can do or where I
can go from here?

Apologies for the long post.

RedXIV

Find something you can be passionate about and follow it. set goals for yourself. I've set myself the arduous task of getting a six pack for the new college year so when ever i can't think of something to do, i work out.

Something similar may help you? be it education, sports or anything?

Collie D

I'd agree with Red ther. From your post you seem like you need something to occupy you so why not set yourself some kind of goal whether it's a six pack or building the Taj Mahal out of matchsticks. Maybe you should talk to someone too

yermandan

Hi OP,

Sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. I am also a 26 year-old guy and I have suffered from depression pretty much all of my life for one reason or another.

I have found that counselling was the best route to go down and it is 100% confidential. There are qualified counsellors available all over the country and unless you were to give it a try, you'll never know if it will work for you.

Keep the chin up.

PM me if you want help in finding a counsellor near you. I'd highly recommend it.

Take care

Dan:cool:

Gummy Panda

RedXIV wrote: »

Find something you can be passionate about and follow it. set goals for yourself. I've set myself the arduous task of getting a six pack for the new college year so when ever i can't think of something to do, i work out.

Something similar may help you? be it education, sports or anything?

More good advice from Red.

Take Red's example, you could have that task and be at the gym. Regulars will get to know your face around and you might make new friends. This could be applied to education and sports aswell.

What interests did you have when you were younger? or is there any goals you never achieved?

DEEMAR

Sorry to hear you are feeling so down Numpty. The only thing that I could suggest is that maybe there are issues from your past that you have not dealt with yet which make you feel uncertain about the future? Just remember that we all feel bad about ourselves at different times in our lives. You are very young and believe me, things will get better. Best of luck to you.