Should I be wary?!

BlackMamba

Okay, here's the deal.

I've been going out with a lad for a few months. It's going great, haven't argued yet!:p

Anyway, ever since we've been together there's this girl that always tries to chat him up. They have the same group of friends so they'd be out regularly. It has happened many times and all those times I haven't been out with them. She's slightly stalkerish (she knows what I look like after looking at photos on Bebo:eek:).

He says he's not interested her at all!! And I believe him. But should I be worried about her?! Being all stalkery and stuff?!

Oh and forgot to mention...she's really pretty!:mad:

Duff

Just go up to her and lay down the law ( in a non violent way ofcourse!)

Nerin

nah dont worry. if hes trustworthy, thats the end of it.
you say you trust him, so dont worry.
and she doesnt seem that stalkerish.

b3t4

If your boyfriend is a decent and loyal guy then it shouldn't matter how many women hit on him.

If you're worried about her then I'm afraid it doesn't show that you have much trust in your boyfriend.

A

dresden8

At some stage, up to you to decide, you can ask him to tell her to **** off.

This is not normal behaviour. But, if too early on you lay down the law, you may end up looking like some kind of possessive control freak.

If she's that determined, she needs a slapdown. From him, not you. You will end up looking like a skanger.

BlackMamba

Thanks for the replies!!:D
And he has told her to **** off....many times. She's just no getting the message

K_P

Well if he's told her to **** off you definitely have nothing to worry about. She's only making a fool of herself if she's persisting after that. Don't make an issue of this, he sounds like he's well able to handle the situation himself.

Drift

I know a guy who was STRONGLY hit on twice a week every week for the entire of last summer by a very good looking girl. He has a girlfriend who he loves though so completely ignored her.

Men are often protrayed as randy horndogs who'll jump in bed with anyone or anything that offers. In the vast majority of cases this is completely untrue.

dresden8

Drift wrote: »

I know a guy who was STRONGLY hit on twice a week every week for the entire of last summer by a very good looking girl. He has a girlfriend who he loves though so completely ignored her.

Men are often protrayed as randy horndogs who'll jump in bed with anyone or anything that offers. In the vast majority of cases this is completely untrue.

Of course unless they promise some really dirty stuff.

Sorry couldn't resist.

AngryBadger

b3t4 wrote: »

If your boyfriend is a decent and loyal guy then it shouldn't matter how many women hit on him.

If you're worried about her then I'm afraid it doesn't show that you have much trust in your boyfriend.

A

+1

littlefriend

Drift wrote: »

Men are often protrayed as randy horndogs who'll jump in bed with anyone or anything that offers. In the vast majority of cases this is completely untrue.

Ah come on now!!

tbh

this is the difference between saying you trust someone, and actually trusting someone. It's easy to say you trust them, but hard to do it. You need to give to get. What you give: you put yourself in the position where someone/something you can't control hurts you terribly. What you get: hopefully, a connection with one other person that's unique to the two of you.

In short, you're specifically fixating on this issue, but it's a bigger issue really. You need to let go a little.

LouOB

Keep your friends close
and your emenies closer

Wibbs

Drift wrote: »

Men are often protrayed as randy horndogs who'll jump in bed with anyone or anything that offers. In the vast majority of cases this is completely untrue.

Very true. While there are gits out there, loved up guys are largely blind to the charms of other women. OK you may say to yourself "damn she's hot, I would" and even like the ego boost, but that's as far as it would go in most cases.

Guys that would jump at the chance are usually immature or just plain fools, so it's a good litmus test.

chuci

if it really bugs you ask your boyfriend to say something to her or say it to her yourself. not in a threatening way or anything take her aside in a club or wherever she comes onto him next and just mention it to her that it bothers you.lay down the law for what is acceptable.and if he has already told her to leave him alone maybe bring that into the conversation too,