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best mate no more?

  • 08-05-2008 6:12pm
    #1
    d-gal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,787 ✭✭✭


    I have been best mates with a guy for over 6 years, got on so well together, helped each other thru so much sh*t but things have changed ova da last 2 years.

    Might aswell start the story...
    We both started going out with 2 girls at the same time, i broke up with mine and my mate was mad for his. i started goin out with another girl which his girl didn't like so a bit of bitchin came about so we decided to keep them apart as they could not work it out. So we saw each other not as regularly anymore, i had finished the leavin cert and in college and he was doin his lc so he had very lil time between study and da girl. In college i met a load of new lads who i became very good friends with and was always out on da piss with like the regular college stuff. My college friends had never met my best mate. My best mate from my talkings thought they were great crack and he had just broken up with the girl so i suppose he was now 'free'! I was (and still am) going out with my girl who he had no real prob and he got on quite well with her.
    so one night my best mate, me and college mates all met up and everythin was a success which i was delighted with. we did it regular but there was still the separation but all of sudden my college mates and best mate became real gud friends and started meetin up. I was the only 1 with a proper girlfriend as well. Now over the last year they have become closer and closer and I am now being left out and my best mate does not chat with me at all enough anymore. I confronted him about it and he said it was all in my head and not to worry, i noticed a big improvement for a week or so then it went back to normal...now i feel like i have no real friends anymore and its making me depressed. Feels like all i have is my girlfriend who i am crazy for and thats it.
    By the way i always try to make an effort constantly ring/txt but they don't and if i leave it they don't contact me.

    Help!


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  • #2
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    I think it's normal for childhood friends to drift apart as they get older. We change when we go to college, and we change again when we leave college. If we're seperated from our childhood friends during these changes, it's very easy to drift apart and lose common interests.

    I have introduced friends to other friends of mine, and in some cases they've developed stronger friendships than I have with them! That's just the way it goes.

    Do you spend a lot of time with your girlfriend? Is it possible they feel you would rather hang out with her than with them, so they've drifted off as you're not really part of the group anymore?


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