Girl on top

LegacyUser

Have been dating someone for a few months and recently have taken it to the next level so to speak. All is good but now he wants me to go on top. I'd never done this before, tried lastnight but just couldn't get the hang of it and ended up just saying my back was hurting Any tips on how to get it right? I didn't know where else to put this, I hate putting it in PI as it's not like it's really getting me down or anything but at the same time I'm disappointed after lastnight and I'm nervous about trying it again.

Any advice would be appreciated, thanks (not a troll by the way!)

Marksie

What was the issue? Was it the angle, getting into position (legs in front or on knees, crouched, squatting) or penetration itself? or even what to do after

Could you give us a little more information on what part was causing the issue?

LegacyUser

Hi Marksie. It was the penetration that was the issue I suppose....sounds silly but is it forward and back or up and down? Just couldn't really get the hang of it and it was more like he was doing more work than I was.

Kelly O'Malley

Start 'normal' way up and roll over (both of you) while 'connected'

Tell him you haven't done it this way before and ask for his help (men LOVE inexperienced women)

Marksie

girlontop wrote: »

Hi Marksie. It was the penetration that was the issue I suppose....sounds silly but is it forward and back or up and down? Just couldn't really get the hang of it and it was more like he was doing more work than I was.

Can be either or both or even circling around. (I am thinking here that initial penetration was not an issue, if it was use your hands to guide)

Your position itself can determine to an extent..i.e crouched forward so he has the hip movements.
Or squatting or sitting (legs out front or knees bent under)fully down so that he is deep and you have the hip movements.... then you can play with rocking forwards and back or circling.
If you are leaning back its a rocking or cicling motion.
I also assume you were facing rather than reversed...

There does tend to come a point in my experience where the women leans forward, at that point the guy can take over.

I dont think there is anything too muhc to worry about... did you tell him that you havent done that before?
If you havent then do..and tell him you want to learn together .

In the end there is no "right" or "wrong" way, there is juts learning what feels good for you both.

Look at it as exploration. Its all practice and practice can be great fun

LegacyUser

Thankyou Marksie. I know I should just go with the flow, think I just panicked when it wasn't really going the way I imagined it would. Thanks for the advice, I'll just relax the next time and try not to think so much about it. Thanks

Mr. Presentable

Just move as feels good to you - pretty much guaranteed he'll enjoy it also.
Leaning back a little can also allow pressure to your G-spot, just not too far back too quickly or he'll squeal!

Petrolium Hat

You're overthinking it. Trust me there isn't really a wrong way just do it whatever way floats your boat. And if your or his "boat" is not "floating" then just keep experimenting with different types of movement, don't look at it as a set of instructions that must be followed or else the recipe isn't going to work. It's not like your man is going stop you half way through and say "what the hell are ye at, get off me ye freak". Chill and take it slow and don't worry about it, and even more importantly enjoy yourself!!

pwd

sounds like a pervert. girls don't go on top. Run away before you get sucked in to his twisted lifestyle.

Victor

Behave.

SheRa

One thing OP. Dont sit up too straight on your partner, as it may be uncomfortable for you if he is too deep inside you. When you first straddle him lean slightly forward and then gently lean backwards to where it is comfortable for you.

Have fun and remember he is prob just as nervous as you are and no doubt delighted to be sleeping with you in the first place:).

Marksie you seem to have a lot of experience in this field.. would love some more advice But that would be a different topic.

Just discuss with him that you are not used to going on top. Every girl should though as the guy shouldn't be the one left to do all the work.

vincenzo1975

rremember, one of his big thrills here is seeing your boobs, so every now and again lean over and let them bounce on his chest....

once you get to a position that feels comfotable for you, eveything else will work, remember he will enjoy it anyway, as someone else said.,

Lollipops23

OP just remember what Tommy Tiernan said about his drunk wife getting on top and trying "to rub him out"!!!

don't feel self-concsious when you're up there, guys think it's the cheese seeing a gal in all her glory!just get up there and do what comes naturally to you, relax and you'll enjoy it!




PS:once you get into the swing of things you'll realise that it's one of the best positions for women;)

singloud

my girlfriend is a huge fan of this position.

Means shes controlling the rhythm and tempo etc etc

also its erotic to look up and see a woman staring down at you

^^