I've done something terrible...

LegacyUser

I started a facebook account for a joke with some fake pictures because I liked an application and wanted to play but don't like social network sites so didn't want to use my own pictures. Anyways they were just photos I got on google images, made up a stupid fake name and didn't think it would do any harm.

Through the game I started making a lot of friends and I thought it was obvious it was a fake account. We were just chatting and having banter about losing and winning. a bit sad, I know but I've been bored a lot lately. anyways one guy and I started chatting, really basic random stuff, I wouldn't tell him any details but all of his were on this facebook.

we started chatting on msn and ended up having five hour conversations and we got on so well. It's the most random thing in the world but it got out of hand so fast and I found myself really liking him. He suggested meeting up but because I'd have to admit I was that model in the pictures I made excuses. He asked me for my number and I bought a fake sim card cos I didnt want him to have my real number. It's so crazy cos I can really be myself with him but I also know in person he probably won't like the real me. We have talked about everything and have the same interests in music, sports, life attitudes, relationships, we just seem like we would make great mates if there was no attraction and he said the same.

but I cant tell him. I have to stop texting him I know but it hurts as much as a break up as pathetic as that sounds. I'd love to meet him but he'll think I'm a total fool. As he said its hard to find soul friends and we really do have that connection. I have never smiled so much as the past month and a half.

I don't know what to do ... admitting the truth is going to ruin everything. Getting rid of the sim card (I deleted the facebook account) is going to break my heart I'm so confused and angry at myself for letting a bit of harmless fun get so serious.

justsomebloke

Dear god just tell him the truth and be done with it. Just make it light hearted and go well as "I told you before the pics on facebook aren't real so can I send you some real ones"

I don't understand, you won't tell him the truth for risk of losing all contact with you so instead you are going stop all contact seriously WTF

Singer73

Op,
Hit and run is terrible. Rape and murder are terrible. This is harmless fun - get over yourself and tell him. What's the worst that can happen? Noone is getting hurt here...

junior_apollo

yup - agree with jsb...

Just tell him and be done with it.. Your afraid of rejection and wont take a chance...

Tell him - There is two outcomes - Works out... It doesnt work out...

But you wont know unless ya try - so grow a set and give it a go

Kelly O'Malley

You're not a liar,you were just having fun.He's got a sense of humour I'm sure.Anyway it's your 'soul' he's fallen for isn't it?

Drift

OP, I was in a similar situation before (I was the guy) and when I found out that the girl was a fake I was pissed off and hurt that she led me on. My reasoning was how much could she really have liked me if she was happy out lying away to me. I did try to be friends afterwards but it didn't work out because it was hanging over us.

There's 1 major difference between my experience and yours though. That is that I found out about her being a liar from other sources. You have the opportunity to tell him now. If you don't tell him this will all end badly, if you do tell him it may still end badly but at least there's a chance he may still want to be your friend.

Btw I disagree with people who say it's harmless fun. I have no problem with it on a superficial level for shooting the breeze and talking crap. Buying a second sim card is a reasonable precaution in this day in age too, but I think at the stage where you wanted to start chatting on the phone it was time to come clean.

nevaeh-2die-4

Just think you were lying and messing about your identity saying you were some body else this person is prob doing the same, there prob like that frizel chap 75 years old, just playing you along. Steer clear.

Velvet Vocals

totally! Just tell him. If he's really a good guy then he'll understand. Be prepared for him to possibly be hurt that he's been fooled and you haven't told him the truth before now, but if you explain that it wasn't malicious he'll understand.
Go for it... then post back and let us know what happened... I always want to know how these things turn out (I've my fingers crossed for you lady!)

Skadi

Yes I would just tell him. If he asks why - just tell him you like your privacy and are not willing to share it openly with strangers, but now you feel like you trust him and this is why you are being open.

nkay1985

Yeah definitely. Just go and get it over with. In fact, this second pick up your second phone and phone him and say "I told you before the pics on facebook weren't real so can I send you some real ones" like has been suggested, or "I don't really look like the pictures you saw. Sorry about that, but I think we get on well and it'd be worth meeting up for real. You can decide either way, but I know which way I'd like to go" and leave it tohim.

Worst case scenario, he says no. Best case, you two go on and make sweet love, have loads of babies and live happily ever after.

In your current situation your best case scenario is you keep talking for another while until he starts assuming you're a man because you wont meet up with him! No good can come from how you are now.


Go do it, and come and tell us how it goes.

GOod luck!

anonymous_joe

Tell the truth, say you'd like to meet up, and see what happens. Seems the best idea anyway.

kittensoft1984

Skadi wrote: »

Yes I would just tell him. If he asks why - just tell him you like your privacy and are not willing to share it openly with strangers, but now you feel like you trust him and this is why you are being open.

+1

This is the way to go i think.

LurkingLady

First off, OP - you have NOT done anything terrible. Stupid and childish sure, but not terrible

One question, for you. While the two of ye were chatting, did he ever refer to "your" photos? Complimented you on them or something? If so and you did not admit that they weren't yours then, well, your in trouble. The guy will probably feel cheated and hurt and might begin to think "If she lied to me about that what else did she lie about?"
If the photos were never mentioned in your conversations then I'd say your safe - as long as you come clean now, that is!

And a tip for the future - don't pretend to be someone your not on the Net. You never know, you might meet your other half in the cyberspace and wouldn't it be a pity if he passed you by just because he thought you were somebody else?
Take it from someone who did find love through facebook

Stench Blossoms

Ah come on. I thought this was going to about you killing someone or something.

Just say that you didn't feel comfortable putting your picture on the net for everyone to see.

If he gets annoyed or anything just forget about him.

Plenty more fish in the sea etc etc.

AngryBadger

In all likelihood if you reveal the truth to him he won't want to meet you.

And to be honest can anyone really blame him?

Fair enough you set up a fake account, there's no law against that, but then you went to the trouble of getting a fake sim card just so you could keep stringing this guy along.

And you completely fail to realise that you're not actually being yourself when you're chatting to this guy on msn because
1) Even with a real facebook/bebo/whatever you basically have anonymity.
2) His entire impression of you is totally coloured by the content on your fake account, whatever feelings he may/may not have developed are baseless since they're based on a completely fictional person.

Tell him and be done with it. Don't expect him to stay in touch, but think about it this way, what other choice do you have? Keep stringing him along but never meet him face to face in the hope that he'll settle for e-romance?

EDIT: Apologies if I seem harsh OP, but to me you went to fairly extreme lengths to dupe this guy, and I think anything but the truth is just building your hopes up. Maybe I'm wrong, the only way to find out is to tell him and see.