Anniversary Recognition

ChewChew

Hi guys, here's the thing (apologies mods if this is in the wrong forum) but its almost my parents 30th wedding anniversary. I have 2 older sisters and we never were alowed to acknowledge our parents anniversary (they just thought it was a waste of money) however they did buy each other gifts.

However, for their 25th ann. we threw them a small surprise party and it went really well, but now we have their 30th coming up but there is a spanner in th works. . . So here is where I need help. . .

My dad actually passed away 3 years ago, so now we dont know what to do about the upcoming anniversary. I know its going to be super difficult for my mum but do we acknowledge or ignore it?? Do we buy her something?? Do we just give her a card?? Or what. ..

Please help!!

Miss Fluff

Sorry about your Dad. I wouldn't go buying a card or any extravagant gift or anything. Just be there for your Mum and make sure she knows you are there for her if she wants to talk. It will probably be a tough day for her so maybe do something nice to keep her mind off it.

SarahSassy

Would you find a nice photo of him or them and give it to her in a nice frame???

Keano

SarahSassy wrote: »

Would you find a nice photo of him or them and give it to her in a nice frame???

I would agree with Sassy or if possible a picture from their wedding day.

Sorry about your Dad. I too lost mine nearly 11 years ago and I still see how much my mother misses him - as we all do obviously.

Dizzyblonde

SarahSassy wrote: »

Would you find a nice photo of him or them and give it to her in a nice frame???

This is a really good idea

ChewChew

Thanx a mill guys.

I've already done the picture thing for mas. I got a photo of the 2 of them, and got a professional artist to do a pencil portrait of it, so i'm not so sure about the photo??

SarahSassy

Well 'pearl' is for your 30th wedding anniversary so would you consider buying her some pearl earrings / ring etc....

star-pants

Hun my heart goes out to you - cuz it will be hard for your mother on that day.
I know you've done the picture before - but any chance you can find one of them before they got married?
I got one for my parents for their 25th (silver) of them on a beach the year they got married and put it in black and white, and got a silver frame.
Or maybe a collage of pictures from before and around the time they got married?

Sassy's a good idea too - pearl earrings.
It is a tough call though pet

justsomebloke

Also try and arrange Dinner. That way your mam has the support of all of yous on the day

SarahMc

Whilst my mam was alive, it was wreath for my dad's grave and bringing my mam out for a meal (or having her round to mine).

Now, I still mark their wedding anniversary with a wreath.

ChewChew

star-pants wrote: »

Hun my heart goes out to you - cuz it will be hard for your mother on that day.
I know you've done the picture before - but any chance you can find one of them before they got married?
I got one for my parents for their 25th (silver) of them on a beach the year they got married and put it in black and white, and got a silver frame.
Or maybe a collage of pictures from before and around the time they got married?

Sassy's a good idea too - pearl earrings.
It is a tough call though pet

Thanx Darlin.

Yeah its really early days and things are slowly gettin back to a bit of normality. So I dont want to overdo it by keep gettin pictures.

Plus their house burnt down 3 months after they got married, so I've never even seen them at their wedding day.

I'm really lost as to what to do, cause I only have a week to get something together!!

jsb wrote: »

Also try and arrange Dinner. That way your mam has the support of all of yous on the day

Thats actually a good Idea.

We have alot on in May that is going to be difficult for us as afamily to overcome. I have only 2 sisters so the 4 of us are extremely close. And we that the first communion of the only grandchild my Dad met, and also my oldest sister is getting married. So there is an awfull lot to focus on without it getting overwhelming.

Lizzykins

When it was my mother in law's 50th wedding anniversary I got her a bouquet of golden flowers delivered to the house. My father in law had been dead 15 years at that point but I felt it was appropriate to mark the occasion.

Beruthiel

ChewChew
On such a day it's difficult not to dwell on it. Get her out of the house and occupy her time.
I believe you live in Celbridge?
If so, why not spend a part of the day at a lovely restaurant?
The Lyons Demesne is a wonderful spot with great food.
Nice for a little walk before or after dinner as it has a long drive way and there's also a spot to sit outside for a drink if the weather is nice.

You could spend a good part of the afternoon there if you go for lunch.
They have two restaurants, The Cafe and The Mill (more formal and expensive).
Personally I love the spot and it's only 5mins drive from Celbridge.
(You need to book a week in advance to be sure of a table)

Whatever you decide to do, I believe getting her out of the house and helping her through the day, is the best way to go. I'd be thrilled if my daughter did that for me.

ChewChew

Thanx a million guys for your help & advice.

Beruthiel, yeah I'm here in celbridge. But I have hit a few obstacles. I have only the 2 sisters, and the oldest lives up north so she wont be about to make it down for the day. My other sister is currently tied up with a house move and I am the only one living with my mum, so at the min its looking like its being left up to me. I will have to try to do something myself, and after speaking with my sisters, we've decided to buy here a bunch of her favourite flowers, just for recognition. and then on the evening of the anniversary I will try to get her to come out with me for a while.

We really cant think of anything else, it should be easier cause my mum is such an active young woman (she's only 50!) but trying to pinpoint the right thing to do is the problem!!

Clare Bear

I think the main and most important thing on that day is to spend time with her ChewChew.

ChewChew

Thanx Clare, I think your right. :rolleyes:

ChewChew

Hey guys, just a quick update on this. . . so sorry for bumpin' it! :rolleyes:

Today is the anniversary. Mum is doing exceptionally well. She's in great form. I ordered her a huge bunch of lillies (her fav. flowers) and when I came home I gave them to her, she was chuffed. We had some dinner and then went up to my Dad's grave and put some nice flowers up there too. Then we went for a drive.

Just home now, and all is good. So thanx a million to everyone for your help and advice!! The day, so far, as been very pleasant!

Dizzyblonde

I'm glad the day went well, for your mum and you