Going to wedding alone...:(

MollynOlly

I'm invited to a friends wedding soon abroad, and am really stressing about it, as I think I will be going alone..Most of the guests are people myself and this friend went to school with, who she has kept in touch with but I have not..And this is adding to the stress of it..I really don't know anyone going to the wedding very well, and the thoughts of going alone, and the fact that its away is terrifying me..I am currently single, and I don't think any friends would accompany me, as they don't know her either..
Has anyone been in this situation before?I've mentioned to her that I am worried as I am going alone, and her answer is that there will be lots of single men at it! My main concern is that I will be on my own, not men!
help?

**Timbuk2**

Technically you won't be on your own

There will be lots of people there. They won't be all just in their 'know-each-other' groups. It's a wedding - everyone mixes with each other

You can spend the majority of the wedding dinner talking about the friend getting married, which you all know about

Believe me, it will be OK. It's very unlikely to be singled out at a wedding!!

MollynOlly

thanks..
I have been out with some of the people before in my friends group and I find that they are a little closed,cliquey etc..And this is adding to my stress. I know I am a grown adult, but I feel like I am reverting back to that awkward teenager stuff that we all struggled thru when I am around this crowd!! as silly as it sounds..:rolleyes:

Mad_Max

If they're closed and cliquey and wont make an effort with you at a wedding then I wouldnt worry what they think, as cliche as it sounds.

I always find that nights you might not be excited about or worried about are usually the best ones! Have fun

DU.LLAHAN

is it somewhere warm try and talk one of ur friends to go with ya if it is everyone loves a sun holiday

Dudess

Maybe say this to your friend again and see if she could possibly fit you at one of the tables near her. Going to a wedding where you don't know anyone except a member of the bridal party ain't nice - or for that matter any event when you only know the person at the centre of it all.

I'm having my 30th in Cork soon and only one guy who was in my class on a postgrad course in Dublin can make it. I think he feels obliged to go but I keep telling him that I'll be the only one there whom he knows so he really shouldn't feel under any pressure to go.

I wouldn't like it myself and I'm certainly not shy and find it easy to get chatting to people I don't know. Do say it to your friend again and nicely ask her to put herself in your shoes.

LegacyUser

Having done exactly that multiple times, you'll have a blast - as long as the reception has a bar, of course

You'll likely spend half the time playing catch-up with all the old people you lost touch with (which may get a little boring, since you'll repeat yourself like 10 times. Come up with some colorful anecdotes, now). Your friend may even arrange a singles table or two for yall. Some of the single men, once they figure out you are a single girl, will spend time flirting with you. Honestly, your friend you'll probably barely see (she'll be busy with everything everywhere). And everyone has at least one wacky old aunt/uncle that's a hoot to hear their stories (cause you ain't heard them before).

Kelly O'Malley

Going places alone is the best way to go!You meet people that way.No one talks to people when they're in pairs but a solo gets all the attention they could possibly want.You won't be alone at the wedding for long!Have a ball.

July

Is there a hen party before the wedding? You'll get to know people there.

I'm facing a similar situation. The people I will know at the wedding aren't going to the hen party so I'll be 'on my own' there. It'll be a great opportunity to get to know some of the bride's other friends though because I know I wouldn't make enough of an effort if I didn't have to i.e. if mine and the bride's mutual friends were going.

Teddi

well...if you have a friend who is truelly a friend....he or she wouldnt think twice about accompanying you to something like this surely? knowing that you'd be stressed out and worried?

just thinking of the amount of times my sister has brought along friends of hers to events like this...they didnt know the people involved...its not a preresquite to do so...

Im sure if you asked a good friend of yours OP....I think you'd be surprized

This is also a perfect oppertunity to ask someone to be your date to the wedding if there has been someone recently that you've been interested in?

Id be chuffed if someone asked me to a wedding, a reason to get into my tux! hehe

hope you feel better about it OP

RedXIV

Teddi has it nailed. If there's anyone you're interested in, this is handing you an opportunity on a silver platter.
If not, well go anyway. I got brought to a few by gfs of the past where i knew noone and had more fun than at weddings where i knew EVERYONE. Go out knowing that chances are you won't see many of these people again so feel free to be bold, forward and charismatic. Don't think of this as a bad thing, it's an adventure!