Going to wedding alone...:(

MollynOlly

I'm invited to a friends wedding soon abroad, and am really stressing about it, as I think I will be going alone..Most of the guests are people myself and this friend went to school with, who she has kept in touch with but I have not..And this is adding to the stress of it..I really don't know anyone going to the wedding very well, and the thoughts of going alone, and the fact that its away is terrifying me..I am currently single, and I don't think any friends would accompany me, as they don't know her either..
Has anyone been in this situation before?I've mentioned to her that I am worried as I am going alone, and her answer is that there will be lots of single men at it! My main concern is that I will be on my own, not men!
help?

Bagheera

Don't stress. Do you have a good friend that could go with you given that it's abroad? If not sure would you not think it's a good opportunity to get to know other people? While it might seem scary to go it alone, you'll probably meet loads of people and have great craic.

orestes

I'll go with you if you like

daiixi

Ask a friend or two. They might say yes!

Otherwise you have two choices (1) go; or (2) don't go. If you don't go are you going to miss out on things all your life simply because you won't know people? Sounds a bit sad to me.

iguana

Do you have a friend that you might go on holiday with? If so you could incorporate it into a holiday with them. I can see why they wouldn't want to pay for flights for a wedding of someone they don't know. But if it could be organised as a weeks/fortnights holiday with a wedding thrown in it would be more appealing.

MollynOlly

iguana wrote: »

Do you have a friend that you might go on holiday with? If so you could incorporate it into a holiday with them. I can see why they wouldn't want to pay for flights for a wedding of someone they don't know. But if it could be organised as a weeks/fortnights holiday with a wedding thrown in it would be more appealing.

Yeah I've a couple of friends who I could ask to do the holiday thing, the only thing is the wedding is end of bloody january,when everyone is just over Xmas, which is just a terrible time for everyone financially,so I think it would be a big ask of someone to go to a wedding of someone they dont know at that time..
Whats really bothering me, is that the friend and her group are not the friendliest bunch of people,happy in their clique which I think is quite ignorant etc..Anyway, venting here!!

barbiegirl

Doesn't sound like you really want to go either!! So don't. Due to the timing and the fact it is abroad your friend will be expecting a certain number of refusals so don't worry too much.
Or if indeed you do want to go, try your mates, given enough notice they may be able to go.
This really comes down to do you want to go or are you using the "single" thing as an excuse. Don't worry if you are we all have at some stage or another.

MollynOlly

barbiegirl wrote: »

Doesn't sound like you really want to go either!! So don't. Due to the timing and the fact it is abroad your friend will be expecting a certain number of refusals so don't worry too much.
Or if indeed you do want to go, try your mates, given enough notice they may be able to go.
This really comes down to do you want to go or are you using the "single" thing as an excuse. Don't worry if you are we all have at some stage or another.

Yeah it doesnt sound like I want to go at all, prob cos I dont...!! She would be my oldest friend, not necessarily my closest and I wouldnt be fond of the company she keeps really. But it wouldnt be very forgivable if i didnt go either..I think that would be awful to do..
unless i had a good friend or partner with me, i think i would get thru the day ok..I am kinda bankin on befriending her crowd a little more on the hen night etc. to break the ice etc.

Endaaaagh

The same thing happened me last year. I was invited to a friend's wedding and had nobody to go with. I didn't want to go cause I thought I would know nobody there. It turned out she had invited a few folks from where I work (people I didn't know that well). I found the church bit a bit awkward till some other folks sat in beside me and I started chatting to them. I ended up going to the pub with them for a pint after the wedding and they even gave me a lift to the reception. At the reception I got chatting to the folks from work that I didn't really know and started having the craic with them. Long story short..I ended up having a great night.

I think you should go. As you said there will be some people you went to school with there so it could be a good chance to get back in touch.

dermy

Hi there,

I think you should go too. I'll bet there is more than just you in the same boat, maybe just ask your friend if one of her other guests will be solo also- and then go for a drink the three of you.

Or bring a friend or a sister for the holiday who doesn't even need to attend the wedding, that way if you are having a bad time you can show your face and still have someone to run back to for a more friendly glass of wine!

But even just go on your own, weddings are full of people that barely know each other. You'll have a good time and even if it is a disaster at least you still will have had a bit of a break (make sure the wedding is not the only thing you have on your itinerary while away), and your friend will appreciate it.

hope this helps!

db

tomo75

You should go. There has to be more people other than her friends there. Anyway, nothing ventured - nothing gained. Who is to say that you won't have a ball. If you don't go you will spend time thinking that you should have gone......

TutuKaka

Go. Its an old friend of yours and besides once everyone has a drink in them it'll probably be a bit of crack. Ask her to sit you at a table with people she thinks you'll get on with or have something in common with.