is 13 years a big age gap??

síofra

I'm 23, he's 36. any opinions?

Dudess

You're both adults and if you're really into him, go for it! My fella's over 12 years older than me. No complaints whatsoever...

Miss Fluff

If it feels right go for it:)

StormWarrior

I don't think it's a problem.

MAKE MY DAY

Dudess wrote: »

You're both adults and if you're really into him, go for it! My fella's over 12 years older than me. No complaints whatsoever...

Me 2 ! and I agree :D

lushballs

He's a person not a number!

Victor

What are your expectations? If its a fling, go for it. If its something more serious, think about where you both want to be, but don't take that as no.

chuci

talk to him about what you both want for a relationship and see. but if ye both want the same things then there shouldnt be a problem ye both grown ups.

daiixi

If you have to ask, then it's a problem.

customer

When there is a doubt, there is no doubt.

Nikster

I think it might be a bit difficult, being at completely different stages of your lives. Just speaking from my own personal experience, thats all

Reku

lushballs wrote: »

He's a person not a number!

Indeed, I regularly get told I was born old.:(

You'll get some teenagers who can be mature far beyond there years, and you can get some people in their 40's who still act like kids. As long as you both relate, and feel you're on the same wavelength & at similar stages in your lives you have just as good odds as if you were actually the same age.
Even if you don't entirely sync up for some of these things just make sure you both lay out your expectations as regards any possible relationship so everyone knows where they stand and if can better evaluate whether they want to proceed with things or call it a day and find someone who is seeking the same as them.

holdups

you are mad to be with someone that age

topper75

You are an adult now and can date any other adult you want. It could work OK.

Personally I would have difficulty, not that there is anything wrong with it, just that cultural references can be a little different between age groups and this can impact conversation negatively. I love to amuse myself talking about stupid retro stuff from my childhood and a person 10 years my junior would be like WTF? I would never say 'Whatever' or 'we are so totally not going there'. But I do like talking about wanderly wagon!!

I once saw 34 old lady when I was 22 but she was Spanish so the cultural references were never going to be in common anyway. We broke over different priorities - I wanted fun and freedom - she wanted to settle down.

Give it a shot - there is nothing to lose if it doesn't work.

Loomis

síofra wrote: »

I'm 23, he's 36. any opinions?

When he was 23 - you were ten.

tth?

Puffin

as others have said, it isn't about age it's about life stages. have a think about what you want, then have a talk to him about what he wants and see if they match, or if they clash.

i-digress

Puffin wrote: »

as others have said, it isn't about age it's about life stages. have a think about what you want, then have a talk to him about what he wants and see if they match, or if they clash.

I agree. It depends on whether you want a short term or long term relationship, and then whether you want the same things in the appropriate time frame. And do what makes you happy, not everyone else.

stek

they say age gaps should be no more than 1/2 his age +7= your age or less.
eg. 36/2 +7= 25
sorry but your too young by 2 years!

Thats just BS anyway! I always thought that once i got to about 23 i stopped caring what age people are in general. I only found out recently that a friend of mine is 4years older than me and i always though I was the eldest!

Dudess

I know this doesn't apply to you stek, but any grown man or woman (even very young) who actually pays heed to that "half your age plus seven" thing is... rather dumb really.

Tigger

Dudess wrote: »

I know this doesn't apply to you stek, but any grown man or woman (even very young) who actually pays heed to that "half your age plus seven" thing is... rather dumb really.

i represent that comment

Overheal

Half your age plus seven is just a rule; not a law.

nevaeh-2die-4

síofra wrote: »

I'm 23, he's 36. any opinions?

thats fine good luck to ya
i
just ****n hate those pedos thats do be like 36 and start going out with 17-18 yr old girls.

the GALL

The lucky b**tard
but seriously my wife is 8 years younger than me (Im 36) we dont have a problem and never did, if the shoe fits wear it.

Dudess

Overheal wrote: »

Half your age plus seven is just a rule; not a law.

It shouldn't be an anything.

nevaeh-2die-4 wrote: »

thats fine good luck to ya
i
just ****n hate those pedos thats do be like 36 and start going out with 17-18 yr old girls.

Hmmm... Depends on how mature the girl is. And remember she wants it too.

Fad

for hopefully the last time ever in this forum. age is irrelevant (unless he's 80 then itd be just odd)

Oryx

The only time Ive seen that kind of gap being an issue if the older party has come out of a marriage/relationship and has kids, or other baggage. That can cause issues as its a tie on the parent involved, or just the extra emotional layer of an 'official' ex may cause issues that the other younger person may find frustrating. And with an age gap, when things get serious involving future plans thats when differences may show. A 40 yo man with half reared kids may not want to start again, or a 25yo girl may not want kids yet when her older man is thinking now or never because he's older. You can reverse the gender but its the same idea.

rohe

yep would have to agree with the above post

theres a similar age gap between myself and my bf, and the kids stuff can come into it, whether you want or he dont want em, or he does want kids and you dont, but if sit down and talk at the start about what you both want, it shouldnt be a problem really

it's never bothered me the age gap between me and my bf, so if your happy why not go for it

best of luck