Am I a terrible person?

LegacyUser

There's this guy who went to school with me and he was always absolutely terrible to me. Anyway, after the leaving cert we went our separate ways but ended up in the same college, although I only ever see him in passing and have never had the displeasure of speaking to him since before the end of school.
I've never credited him with an overabundance of brains and I've been waiting for him to drop out of his course ever since I found out what he was doing.
I just found out last week that he'd finally had enough and dropped out. Heard through the grapevine that he's going to study something else next year, but elsewhere.
I think that I'm inappropriately happy that he couldn't cut it and I'm over the moon that he's finally gone.
Considering that he's an out and out prick, am I a terrible person for being so happy that he had to leave?

seamus

The very fact that you're even considering feeling bad about your schadenfreude, indicates to me that you couldn't possibly be a horrible person.

It's a fairly natural thing to be happy about something which benefits you, even if it's to someone else's detriment. There's no need to give it much thought. Your life has been enhanced - who cares what happens to him? You didn't cause his misfortune, so feel free to be happy.

Dudess

Well you're definitely not a terrible person if that's all it takes to make you feel guilty.

Now if he was rendered paralysed from the neck down in a serious car crash and you had a right old laugh about it and didn't even feel a twinge of sympathy for him, then you might have something to get concerned about. Although even if that scenario did arise, I wouldn't blame you for speculating as to whether karma had anything to do with it...

cowzerp

Not at all, if he is an arsee then your right to be happy,

all the stars

muchtoohappy wrote: »

There's this guy who went to school with me and he was always absolutely terrible to me. Anyway, after the leaving cert we went our separate ways but ended up in the same college, although I only ever see him in passing and have never had the displeasure of speaking to him since before the end of school.
I've never credited him with an overabundance of brains and I've been waiting for him to drop out of his course ever since I found out what he was doing.
I just found out last week that he'd finally had enough and dropped out. Heard through the grapevine that he's going to study something else next year, but elsewhere.
I think that I'm inappropriately happy that he couldn't cut it and I'm over the moon that he's finally gone.
Considering that he's an out and out prick, am I a terrible person for being so happy that he had to leave?

Considering your only experience of him is negative, i'd be surprised if you felt any other way - naturally you dont want unpleasant people near you! I'm the same - have quite a few of those ****ty people from school and every time i see them i still want to tell them to cop on.. As far as i'm concerned they will always be ****ty people , and you know, 10 years since my first encounter with them, and they are just as ****yy as the first time i met them!:rolleyes:

So, dont feel bad - no need!:)

~nop~

I wouldn't say terrible. Maybe slightly obsessive..

Clink

You're absolutely not a terrible person, it's natural, he's an out and out prick you say, so it's a type of self preservation- relief that you know you'll never have to see or deal with this horroble person again.

Tigger

thats a happy story
not as if you made him fail he's the bad person you're grand

StandnDeliver

its natural to wish bad things on people who made your life a misery. Your just watching your back also,and i guess now he is gone and out of the picture you can be more at ease and enjoy your course.I think you wasted enough time on this person,time to move on and be happy.:o

beautiation

I thought after the first sentence he was gonna end up dead, and even then i wouldn't have blamed you much. Happy he's dropped out, that's nothing. You should be as carefree as :pac:

davyjose

seamus wrote: »

The very fact that you're even considering feeling bad about your schadenfreude, indicates to me that you couldn't possibly be a horrible person.

+1, a lot of people wouldn't even question this. The very fact that you are feeling betrayed by your own feelings shows that you're almost certainly a super-nice person.
I wonder if maybe you feel you're stooping to the level of said person by taking some level of glee from their misfortune, but trust me, you're not.

Grawns

I'm delighted for you! but I'm not worried about being a bad person;)