partner get erection when you want?

santiago123

Hi Ladies,

I am wondering if your sexual partner is able to get an erection everytime you desire it? Just that recently my partner does not seem able to get an erection when we both desire penetration. Maybe this happens once or twice a month. Just wondering from your experience if this is normal with your partners?

High blood pressure can cause ED. I don't know if would be classified as ED though.

Pj!

Beer can cause ED. :rolleyes:

Abi

santiago123 wrote: »

I am wondering if your sexual partner is able to get an erection everytime you desire it?

Sure he can, and everytime I don't too! :pac:

Try not to take it personally Santiago. Have a think back over the last month or two, has anything changed? Is he working late? Under a bit of stress? family or money problems? If none of those work, go after the health. Again, over doing it on the sauce can have an effect, does he smoke? does he exercise? There is any amount of things that it could be. Best thing to do is get him to pop down to the GP if lack of sleep or too much stress doesnt solve it. Tell him to go for a general check-up, and during it just get him to mention what is happening. If he would normally be embaressed to talk about it, tell him doctors pass no judgement, and there will be no laughage. They have to be professional about it. If you think he mightnt go through with asking about it, go with him.

When it does happen, whatever you do dont make a big deal out of it. The problem has nothing to do with you, he will just feel worse if you look sore about it.

rediguana

Everyone has off days. If he's in his forties or older it wouldn't be a surprise. Any younger and he should take a look at his general health and energy levels. If his diet is poor and he drinks / smokes a lot, that might impact on it. Is he diabetic?

All just speculation really. Basically, it's not unheard of for a man's member to fail him. Once or twice a month? That's fine if you're doing it twenty times a month. But if you're only having sex a handful of times per month and he's frequently having problems you should both investigate it further...

Black Swan

Have read that too much booze, depressant drugs, fatigue, poor physical fitness, and stress can all contribute to this problem.

StandnDeliver

have you considered maybe he aint turned on! do it somewhere new,different position,maybe he needs a hand so to speak.

are you talking about babies or kids that can be a turn off to some guys.

Wibbs

What rediguana wrote. If it's happening with any regularity maybe get it checked out. I remember reading somewhere that men, even quite young men(well under 30) can have some physical issues in the old member. This goes double if he's unfit, overweight, smoker, drinker etc. Stress can do it too.

jellie

when i want, when i dont want, pretty much any physical contact whatsoever. but hes 23..

Lockstep

Maybe he just doesn't fancy you?



Seriously though, does he still get a "morning glory"?

If so, it might be stress.

GrumPy

sar84 wrote: »

when i want, when i dont want, pretty much any physical contact whatsoever. but hes 23..

sounds familiar!!

HoLLLLLaments

saddening. try ice cream

congo_90

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Abigayle wrote: »

When it does happen, whatever you do dont make a big deal out of it. The problem has nothing to do with you, he will just feel worse if you look sore about it.

+1 abigayle.
You raised good points there. It could be many factors. I noticed another poster saying he may not be turned on. This isn't the case. sometimes men can be turned on but things don't 'happen'

also another poster says it can affect men under 30. this is also true.

As abigayle says in my quote. Try not to make a big deal out of it. When it happens to a man its extremely stressful and upsetting. Try to just reassure him its normal to happen.

imeddyhobbs

I'm gonna be honest here

Call it ed if you like but i cant get an erection with a woman that does'nt turn me on.