what to do next in my life?

LegacyUser

Hi there..

ok.. im 32 and for the past 3 years been living in part of the country that i'm not a huge fan of. i bought a house just after i moved here.. and that is pretty much my only responsibility. i'm single..
anyhow i dont particularly like my job.. but at the same time do have happy days in it.
but recently i've been trying to work out what to do next with my life..
part of me wants to return to my home county where all my family and friends live. but the thought of this kinda scares me as this will be like coming home to roost.. the final move.. for life!
the other option is to maybe just pack up and go.. live/work somewhere different,
when i was 24/25 i did the whole year out thing and travelled to oz and new zealand and a few placed in between.. i then moved to Fance for a couple of years.. so i've been on the go pretty much since i was 18.. and while packing up and leaving really excites me and scares me.... I feel like maybe its about time i grew up.. and stopped acting like i was 25.. that said im afraid i'll wake up in about 5 years and regret not just heading off!!
so any advice would be much appreciated..
thanks...

johnnyskeleton

There is no script or checklist.

You don't have to say that you have spent a gap year in oz, lived in france for a year, worked abroad for 2 years etc, just because these are common things that other people do.

So what do you want to do?

Marksie

wheretonow wrote: »

I feel like maybe its about time i grew up.. and stopped acting like i was 25.. ...

Why? what makes you think this...
Its an important question to ask as if you detremine why you believe you must be doing something, then you can determine actually whether you should be doing something.
If it helps at 33 i packed up a good job and house to move over here, take your chances, listen to what you are really tellng yourself. Hell, now at nearly 44 i am making plans to do some pretty life changing stuff.
Age is not a barrier to doing what you want to do. If you are comfoartable settling then fine, do it. If not, then list what you want to do and do it.

wheretonow wrote: »

that said im afraid i'll wake up in about 5 years and regret not just heading off!!
so any advice would be much appreciated..
thanks...

Its all about conscious choices in the end. We get one crack in this life, its a journey or should be. Too many people become stuck, drift or fall for what we are told is the right way to do things.
TBH i was no different.
THink outside the box and you will realise that life isnt a series of one way streets or closed doors. But many many paths and as one seems to disappera another will be found if you choose to look for it.

Bottom line, listen to what you are really saying to yourself. Then go for it.

smash

Buy a Lotus and go have some fun!

Lenny_mc

steve06 wrote: »

Buy a Lotus and go have some fun!

take up something fun. I would buy the lotus and have some fun!

siralfalot

just chillax, don't become a sheep like everyone else in suburbia, like the lads say, buy a Lotus Elise and have some fun!

Romer

Ye can't buy better advice than that.

Marksie

where did this talk of a lotus come from??

Can we have it back to some useful advice folks?

hungryhippo

Definitely what I would do.

AngryBadger

As has been said, there's no script.

So you own a house where you are, so sell it, or get a letting agency to handle renting it out for you.

My point is you're in a great position to do whatever the hell you want. You have a house, which is a huge asset, and you're only 32 FFS, you have anywhere from 60 to 100 years of living to go, what's the rush to make any kind of concrete decision?

If you want to ravel, go travel. If you want to move back to your hometown then do it, moving back home doesn't mean you're "roosting" it certainly doesn't mean that's it, no more living. You can move back out just as easily.

I'm in a similar situation in that my career requires me to work/live where I am, and I live with some cool people, but would much prefer to be down the country in Waterford or COrk for example. So if I was you I'd be moving home.

Marksie

Hungry hippo infracted, ignoring moderator warning and unhelpful posting.

Can we deal with the OP issues please

Lenny_mc

OP - you could buy a bike. best thing i ever did and feel so alive when riding!