I know the medical advice, this is a personal thing

LegacyUser

Hello everyone. This might be long so apologies in advance. I would like to clarify too with the mods that I am not looking for medical advice. In fact I admit and may be quoted in the future as saying, the only sane thing is to go back to the doctor but that is the problem...
I am 30, a non smoker, non drinker (for the last few years anyhow). I am not a regular visitor to the doctor, in fact I haven't been sick really for many years.
But, about a year ago, I started getting a discomfort in my lower left abdomen. At around the same time, I noticed (don't ask me how!) that I could kind of seperate my left testicle. By that, I mean that it felt as if it had a little part seperate to it. I went to my GP, perhaps the nicest fella I know by the way. I told him about the abdominal discomfort and mentioned the other thing but refused to show him. He had a good feel around the abdomen and gave me some tablets for gastric upset. We made a deal that if I continuing problems, I would come back and would show him the other thing. The tablets didn't make a difference.
Fast forward a year now. Give or take a month. The thing floating next to my left testicle hasn't mushroomed or anything but it is about the size of a large grape now and has a tail on it running into my body. It is mostly as soft as a testicle although has a bit like as hard as a fingernail and maybe the same size. I feel no pain there. Only discomfort in my abdomen and down along my left leg as far as my knee. Rarely, depending on how I lie, the pain in the abdomen can be unbearable. Thats rare though. The only other thing is that for as long as I can remember, I have been a waist size 32. Now my clothes are very loose and the belt I've had since school has moved in two notches. And alot of people have mentioned this to me.
I know that I should go back to the doctor. I know that he has seen everything like this before. I know it could turn out to be nothing. But I can't put myself to going back to him. Not because I'm worried about hearing bad things. But because I really couldn't bare him to be feeling there. I actually thing I have an irrational phobia about it. I can't bring myself to go back to him and expose myself.
So my questions are (1) can you go to like a specialist for this sort of thing without going first to your GP? (2) Can I go to somewhere for this phobia (3) has anyone else heard of a similar problem (4) what in god's name am I going to do?
Thanks if you reply. I don't know how to reply to replies so maybe I won't be able to.

Drummerboy2

OP I have to say that I would be very worried about your symptoms. An examination will take a few minutes. Its not pleasant but reasonably quick. You could go to a different doctor. There is no getting away from it but you will have to go to a doctor. Failure to do so could cost you dearly. Sorry for being so blunt.

LegacyUser

OP I would jump on board the general consensus and say to go to a doctor. I had a similar worry a few years ago and went to my gp. he's been my doctor since i was born and so I had no inhibitions in allowing him to examine me, its embarassing alright but it's worth it for some form of peace of mind. I subsequently got referred to a specialist who found there was nothing to worry about and sent me on my way.....go to your doctor, put your health before your inhibitions...

LegacyUser

Get to the doctor!

I was in a similar situation to you and put it off for ages due to embarisment. But at the end of the day you are just get more and more worried and even if its nothing or something small or big the stress over it will do harm. In my case I had a lump, and a serious family history of cancer, and ended up having a penial biopsy. It turned out to be nothing serious but now I'm lump free and bloody glad I got it seen to and not having to worry about it any more.

At the end of the day your's wont be the first or last set of genitals your doctor will have examined! They have seen it all before and will see it all again. Which is worse the fear of letting a doctor examine you or the fear of this being something that needs attention and just getting worse from lack of it.

You dont want to loose anything down there so get thee to a doctor!

(1) can you go to like a specialist for this sort of thing without going first to your GP?
Dont think so you will need to be refered to a urologist(spelling) by your GP.

(2) Can I go to somewhere for this phobia
The doctors and face it!

(3) has anyone else heard of a similar problem
See above. While not the same it was the same area and with family history taken into account could have been worse.

(4) what in god's name am I going to do?
Go to your GP!

Marksie

Go to the doctor.

Do not keep putting it off

Beruthiel

Go to the doctor.
Today!

dory

Are you gone yet? Go go go!

Tails142

eh... having a third testicle is not good

to the doctor with ye!

kmick

Getting him to have a look down there is grand. How many do you think he has seen over the years - thousands probably. Its just a piece of meat to him but its part of your body which may need some attention. So seriously get your butt to the the doctor now and stop being childish.

Jimmy Bottlehead

Its never as bad as you imagine, just go and you won't have to worry about getting it done tomorrow.

Sam Vimes

i had a bit of a pain in a testicle and went to my local gp. the examination was over in 20 seconds and luckily i was fine. they spend 5 years completely disecting cadavers before they're allowed touch a person. they've seen it all. your cock is no different to the hundreds and possibly thousands of other one's he's seen.

of course what you describe is completely different to what i had. i know we're not really allowed say this and may get me a ban but i'm hoping to motivate you a bit. you almost certainly have testicular cancer and will almost certainly die soon if you don't get up out of that chair right now and go to a doctor. not tomorrow, not after lunch, now

you don't want "he was too embarrassed for the doctor to see his willie" on your gravestone

TheDriver

Go!!! It amazes me the amount of people who won't show the Doctor things, particularly genitals. Nothing they haven't seen before, everyone should be having their Doctor checking their testicles/smear tests as its always something they recommend checking

Drift

Is it the thought of another man touching your testicles that upsets you OP or is it the thought of anyone touching them?

Do/would you let your girlfriend play with you balls? If you do then rest assured that the doctor can hold onto you balls for days on end and it still won't "turn you gay"!!!!! That's not how it works.

If it's a thing that you don't want anyone touching them then it's a matter of sucking it up this once or having the very real possibility of dying. So weigh up the discomfort of having a qualified professional touch your balls for two minutes versus the pain and heartache of your family standing by a coffin knowing that you knew about your problem for years and decided that in order to avoid a small bit of awkwardness for yourself you put them through this pain and suffering.

Overheal

Thats like, every guys worst nightmare. You really have no better choice than to buck up and go.

Went for physical examinations when I was a kid. No harm in it.

She Devil

Silly Silly Silly guy ....
My boyfriend was like that last year, kept putting it off to go to the doctor, aww sure help us the embarrassement, by the time he was diagnosed with Cancer and had his testicle removed i'd say he wouldnt care who would look at it now just to have it back and not to have gone through all that. The longer the leave it the worse its going to be, and not just for you OP for your loved ones also. We all have phobias but common sense kicks in when we hve to overcome them to save our lives. Get to the doctor again please.

Bethany

RING THE GP'S SURGERY , TELL THEM IT IS URGENT!!! The examination will take about two mins and then he will refer you for a testicular ultrasound. That is a scan, non painful , takes about ten mins. I understand your concern but your genitalia to a doctor are as commonplace as the S bend of a sink is to a plumber.GROW UP OR YOU WON'T GROW OLD!!!

Drummerboy2

Hopefully the OP has taken the advice here.

JackieO

This really could be a matter of life and death. I find it hard to believe you are willing to put your life in danger for a few moments of unpleasantness.

The doctor has seen it all before a hundred times and won't be looking at your bits and pieces.

Think of all the women who have to have babies every day of the week and this involves plenty of embarassing examinations.

Please go and do it.

Testicular cancer is probably one of the most treatable forms - and the earlier its detected the better the chance of a good outcome!

Please come back and let us know when you've been to the doctor.

prentice

go to the doc. I have been with the Bits a few times, like some else said,

we are just like cars to a mechanic , and a mechanic doesnt care if he is looking at a fuel pump or a catalytic converter.

NextSteps

Find a female doctor if you'd be less inhibited. Really, it would be the height of stupidity to put yourself at risk because of this.

Could you forgive a loved one for taking chances like that if it was them?

Commonsense

[QUOTE=She Devil;55679892 common sense kicks in [/QUOTE]

thats my cue
get to a doc

LegacyUser

I worried about something similar for a good 18 months before a work medical spurred me into action to go and see a GP (I didn't have one up until then). Since then I had two doctors examine my balls and the impending relief of knowing what's up far outweighs any awkwardness. Believe me. Could be something very simple, as it was in my case, but you won't know until you see the doc.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Ok the guy has a phobia so there's no point just saying go to a doctor.

OP - You asked if you could go straight to a specialist? Why would this be different?

Have you considered a female doctor - might that be easier?

Perhaps talk to a counseller or a friend first, you might be able to "grasp the nettle" if you hear your own thoughts being told to someone else.

Pub07

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Ok the guy has a phobia so there's no point just saying go to a doctor.

There is every point in saying go to a doctor as that is exactly what he needs to do. Of course no-one likes having to get this stuff done but it HAS to be done, so just go and get it out of the way. It's not even gonna be painful like surgery or something, it's pure embarassment that is preventing you from getting it checked. As soon as this simple check is done you will wonder what the big deal was about getting it looked at and why you wasted so much time worrying about it.

Victor

Unreg887733 wrote: »

Rarely, depending on how I lie, the pain in the abdomen can be unbearable.

If you haven't been to the doctor yet, go to A&E now.

tk123

Unreg887733 wrote: »

Can I go to somewhere for this phobia

I know its not the same but I have a thyroid problem and a phobia of anybody touching my neck. The first time I went for an ultrasound I had to tell the guy cos i was freaking out and had to take a break (even thou the exam took like 5 mins:rolleyes:), when I had to get a biopsy the guy asked was there something wrong with my spine cos I was rigid with fear and then i nearly fainted after it lol :rolleyes::D The last time I got an ultrasound it was grand thou - you'll get used to it and once you've had one exam you'll know what to expect from the next so they're wont be a fear of the unknown. As others have said the doctor's seen it all before so there's nothing to be embarrassed about. If all else fails do what i do and bribe yourself - go to the docs and get yourself a present afterwards!

Sam Vimes

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Ok the guy has a phobia so there's no point just saying go to a doctor.

OP - You asked if you could go straight to a specialist? Why would this be different?

i suppose a specialist would have seens tens of thousands of penises, rather than just thousands

maybe it's that his GP is the family doctor. i had a fleeting feeling of awkwardness when i decided to have my test done because my whole family have been going to the same doctor for my whole life.

if that's it, maybe go to a different gp?

OK-Cancel-Apply

It's all 9-5 for a doctor. He's probably thinking about his golf swing all day, or his kids school work. I know it's a weird thing to go into a nice clean office with a man who looks like a professor and whip out your balls, but that's what he's there for! At the start of each day, he knows full well that he's going to have to put his fingers into people, squeeze breasts, balls and dicks.

As many others have said, they really have seen it all. They do at least a year as an intern in a hospital and see guts and insides, as well as people dying right in front of them. Your GP was probably frustrated that you wouldn't let him examine you. No point literally dying of embarrassment.

pebbles21

A friend of mine lost her 21 year old son to testicular cancer last summer because he was too embarrassed to see a doctor because of the lump on his testis and dull pain in the same area that lasted for over a year ,it was only when he collapsed at home and rushed to hospital he told a nurse about his problem ,turned out it had spread throughout his body and there was nothing they could do for him,so if not for yourself go see a doc for your family!

Gordon

Get a second opinion from someone, being: a doctor.

The Sweeper

OP:

Call the surgery.

Ask to speak to your GP.

Take a deep breath. Then say "I have a lump on my testicles, but I have a serious phobia of being examined and I don't know what to do."

If your GP is any good he'll be able to put you at your ease and hopefully you'll be relaxed enough to allow an examination.

Tar.Aldarion

I understand that you may be reluctant to go, but you really want to keep your package. As somebody that has to run in and have 4 women stitch up my cock half an hour before an exam, you get over any reluctance fast if the little guy may not make it. You'll be glad it is sorted.

Meteoric

Honestly if it syour doctor that you have a problem with do go to your local A&E. I know that's not going to be popular with the 'do things by the book people' but it is SO much better than doing nothing

b3t4

Op, follow Minesajd's advise.

Call your doctor, speak with him and tell him your woes.

This will not get better by ignoring it. You know that. You know that not only have things not got better the longer you've left it, things have in fact got worse.

I can understand why you are putting this off but I know that you can and will get over this because the thing is you have to.

It is, extremely, important that you go to the doctor as soon as possible.

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Bethany

Am still thinking about you and hope you have either gone to GP or made an appointment. Think of the relief you will feel when you have gone. This is as likely to be something not serious such as a hernia as it is to be something serious. Best of luck

Thephantomsmask

OP, ring your GP and explain the situation - would a home visit from him help you relax more? Doctors have seen willies thousands of times, it's another body part to them but if you feel that strongly then I'm sure a solution can be found, a few sessions of hypnotherapy may help with your inhibitions. At the end of the day constant pain should really be ringing alarm bells, for the sake of your family at the very least do the right thing.

ibh

Had to get the ol spuds examined twice by two different doctors at different times after suffering a blunt trauma to the balls. The first time it was the college doctor (man) and it was weird as fcuk but he was pretty cool about it, and as someone else said here, its hardly the first or last sensitive examination he's ever done.
Second time was 2 years later and a female GP examined it cause there was still an abnormal shape and was sensitive. Again, she was super professional and it wasn't really that weird.

It's better to just face it and get it done and deal with the embarresment (all 2mins of it..) and at least have put your mind at rest.

Bethany

Hope the ORIGINAL POSTER HAS GONE TO THE DOCTOR!!!!!

tinkerbell

I think you should definitely go to the doctor asap. However, I think your CHOICE of doctor is important, go to one who is known to be damn good at their job. I know plenty of GPs who couldn't diagnose something if it hit them on the head. You also need to go to someone who will take your worries & the actual problem seriously.

chuci

with your symptoms id be one worried dude. i hope you got yourself to a doc pronto.