Intrigued by a guy I just met...Problem: I didnt' have his number!

LegacyUser

Hey there!

Ok, so last weekend I met this really nice guy and I really enjoyed his company. We chatted for a few hours and as far as I could tell, he seemed to be having a good time as well. Now, I'm usually a bit shy around guys, especially those I find particularly interesting, and I have to admit it doesn't happen that often, and I assume that if a guy is somewhat interested he'd ask me for my number. However before he left, he hugged me goodnight, said something about us probably meeting again and left. A few moments later I realised that neither of us had each other's phone number and that since we didn't have any particular friends in common (although we met at a friend of a friend's party) there wasn't a high probability of us running into each other again.

I tried to think about how I could contact him, not having his phone number (...I know, I should have asked him for it in the first place and if he weren't interested he would have just said so and I'd have left it at that). Knowing most young Irish people have a bebo account, I searched bebo to see if he had a public account through which I could send him a message. Knowing what he looks like and his name, his profile wasn't hard to find, so I decided to send him a message, thinking I got nothing to lose just letting him know I had a good time and giving him means to contact me if he wanted to keep in touch. However after I sent the message a thought crossed my mind: would he find it kinda creepy, a girl he had just met looking him up on bebo to contact him? I mean I'm not chasing the guy or anything but I admit I was intrigued as it's been a while since I met a nice guy like him. I don't know if he's in any way interested even if just for friendship.

I haven't received a reply yet (although it might be too early to expect any?) so I'll naturally assume that if he's not going to reply it's either because he's not interested or else he didn't like me searching for him on bebo, although his profile was public.

I know everyone's different, but guys, what would you think if you were in this kind of situation? If a girl you met takes the initiative to contact you, whichever way she chooses to do so, would it scare you off? Do you think I might have misinterpreted him seeming to have had a good time as well?

I'd really appreciate any views you might have.

Thanks

AngryBadger

I wouldn't see a problem with this. In fact if I met someone out and didn't get their number I'd be impressed if they showed this much initiative, certainly it's be unusual for an irish woman to make this much effort

Anyway, I don't think it makes you look like a stalker, the only question is whether he feels the same attraction or not. Best of luck.

Idbatterim

you did the right thing, its better than wondering what if! did you send him a pm or a normal post?

Marksie

personally i would be delighted. It would mean that the person i talked to had a good time talking.

Balls in his court now though. It is always tricky when its a PM or mail as you are never quite sure when they can reply or even if they have read it yet.

Just don't keep checking your mails every 5 minutes

seahorse

mmm... wrote: »

I'll naturally assume that if he's not going to reply it's either because he's not interested or else he didn't like me searching for him on bebo, although his profile was public.

If you don't hear from him I don't think these need to be the first explanations that cross your mind. It's always possible he has a partner, which would explain his not having asked for your number in the first place. Good luck with it anyway.

Faith

See, I'd do that kind of thing too (find them on Bebo), but I'm paranoid that it looks like stalking too. I generally just content myself with finding their profile, I don't usually have the balls to go any further. I'll be really interested to hear if you get a reply and what it says, OP!

LegacyUser

AngryBadger wrote: »

In fact if I met someone out and didn't get their number I'd be impressed if they showed this much initiative, certainly it's be unusual for an irish woman to make this much effort

In fact I'm not irish and that's why I am not so familiar with bebo, I didn't even have an account until a few days ago. I wouldn't normally take all this initiative but I haven't met a guy like him in a very long time, so I thought I should stop being shy (I usually wait for the guy to make the first move if he's interested) and just do something about it myself for a change.

Idbatterim wrote: »

you did the right thing, its better than wondering what if! did you send him a pm or a normal post?

I sent him a message, which as far as I could tell, it's something like an e-mail, am I right? The only alternative was to post a comment, which I didn't want to for obvious reasons.

seahorse wrote: »

...It's always possible he has a partner, which would explain his not having asked for your number in the first place....

As with him being single or not, he told me he was single and as far as I could tell he seemed to be telling the truth, as there was no reason for him to lie about that I guess.

valleyoftheunos

Sorry OP but I'm not sure you're on a winner here.

the fact that he didn't exchange numbers with you is one think bt that he left it as vague as probably running into each other again might well mean that he isn't too interested. He didn't do very much to make sure you saw each other again.

Of course I could have it wrong, he could be shy, in fact if he was the shy type it might be just the sort of thing he could say if he wanted to see from you.

As regards the Bebo thing, fair play to you, he ought to respond to you either way, if he's as nice you said he is I'm sure he will.

Drift

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest OP. I'd be chuffed. If I didn't want that sort of thing to happen my bebo would be private.

Zippitydoo

Has happened to me before to and left me very chuffed, I'd often to forget to ask for a number, or just feel like there was never a 'right' time to ask for one.

Only problem with the bebo mail thing is that people don't get an email to tell them they have new bebo mail, like they do with comments- and not many people check they're mail often! I'd leave a comment if I were you, even just pointing out that you left him a mail.

RedXIV

Had a girl do the same for me before. felt great to know i left a good impression. hope ya get a good reply, and hope ya asked for a number too

is_that_so

valleyoftheunos wrote: »

Sorry OP but I'm not sure you're on a winner here.

the fact that he didn't exchange numbers with you is one think bt that he left it as vague as probably running into each other again might well mean that he isn't too interested. He didn't do very much to make sure you saw each other again.

Of course I could have it wrong, he could be shy, in fact if he was the shy type it might be just the sort of thing he could say if he wanted to see from you.

As regards the Bebo thing, fair play to you, he ought to respond to you either way, if he's as nice you said he is I'm sure he will.

I have been known to walk off forgetting to even ask someone's name so I think it's a good move. Who's to know what he was or wasn't thinking.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies!

Zippitydoo wrote: »

Only problem with the bebo mail thing is that people don't get an email to tell them they have new bebo mail, like they do with comments- and not many people check they're mail often! I'd leave a comment if I were you, even just pointing out that you left him a mail.

It's a good idea, but I think I'll wait a week or two, as I don't want him to feel suffocated in case he has already read my mail and is still thinking about whether to reply or not.

Trapattoni

A young lady did the same thing to a friend of mine a while ago - tracked him down on the internet - I thought it was a little over the top, so did our friends but he was over the moon and so was she....This is what counts I suppose!:D

finbarrk

Still, if he was intrested he would have got the number.

yawnstretch

you know what's funny? When you come across something random like this on the web and it's about you XD

I know your name begins with A and I did get your message! I will reply but if you're still reading at least you know I got it

LegacyUser

yawnstretch wrote: »

you know what's funny? When you come across something random like this on the web and it's about you XD

I know your name begins with A and I did get your message! I will reply but if you're still reading at least you know I got it

Yeah you're right, it IS you Anyway, take your time, at least I know you got my message.

Mezcita

All hail the interweb!!!!!!

Hope you are not telling porkies yawnstretch and fair play to the OP for making the effort.

Take note ladies!

yawnstretch

Swear to God it's definitely me - hilarious stuff. I'm one of these people who loves it when threads get a follow up so I had to post.

lifeisgood

yawnstretch is right, it IS him and I'm pleased to let you all know that I got my reply.

Cheers to all of you for your replies.
A

finbarrk

And they lived happily ever after!

BraziliaNZ

I would imagine if this was the other way around, most Irish women would be totally freaked out nay?

passive

I was going to suggest finding him on bebo/facebook, but then realised you'd done that already. No loss even if it doesn't work out, and it's generally better to try these things than wonder about them *looks sadly at his pile of "never tried" interests, gathering cobwebs in the corner*

Worst case scenario is that he'll not reply, or reply but not seem interested. Then you get on with your life and someone else will come along. Don't worry about it too much, you already took the jump that most people here would have advised you to take, given the situation described in the first half of your post.

passive

hold on, what? wow.. Jesus. Post back in a few months and let us know how it all played out :P

minidazzler

Now that is oddly Romantic.

electric69

i wonder if i was the only one to check out yawnstretches profile to see if he had a link to his bebo! we want pics of mmmm!

minidazzler

Well Google exists too you know!!!! I found it after your message electric69 because you got me curious!!!

lifeisgood

Since it seems like you all got the same impression from what I said, I felt I should probably clarify what I meant by my previous post, to avoid any misinterpretation, at least out of respect for him. I wanted to let you know I got my reply and without going into any details (lets say it was a fairly neutral reply), that was fine for both of us.

Cheers!

JackieO

finbarrk wrote: »

Still, if he was intrested he would have got the number.

I kinda think if he was really interested he wouldn't have left without your number.

But maybe I am wrong.

Hopefully you do hear from him - please come back and let us know.

justsomebloke

you haven't read the whole thread have you

dbs_sailor

guy probably opened and said "sweet, free lay."

wp. nh.

celt262

mmm... wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies!



It's a good idea, but I think I'll wait a week or two, as I don't want him to feel suffocated in case he has already read my mail and is still thinking about whether to reply or not.

Don't do that or he will think you are stalking him. You will be fit to tell from his profile when he has been on last and he will know when he gets new mail so if he doesn't reply don't bug him.

OmegaRed

Grrrrr read the whole thread!!!!!!

JackieO

Sorry, missed about half of the thread.............don't know how that happend.

That is so funny!!