Men staring at chest!!

Quality

I was just in a meeting there and this fella I was with kept staring at my chest, This really pisses me off, If I had have been in any other situation I would have left rip, but because I am in work I have to put up with this!!

Any help to get me through this situation again?

Theres a dirty aul lad in our local does the same!!

ShaneU

Quality wrote: »

Any help to get me through this situation again?

less cleavage?

private_joker

Quality wrote: »

I was just in a meeting there and this fella I was with kept staring at my chest, This really pisses me off, If I had have been in any other situation I would have left rip, but because I am in work I have to put up with this!!

Any help to get me through this situation again?

Theres a dirty aul lad in our local does the same!!

Two threads? Annoys ya that much yea?


Wooly jumper might help! Or try the non verbal route by staring him out of it until he cops on.

citytillidie

Quality wrote: »

I was just in a meeting there and this fella I was with kept staring at my chest, This really pisses me off, If I had have been in any other situation I would have left rip, but because I am in work I have to put up with this!!

Any help to get me through this situation again?

Theres a dirty aul lad in our local does the same!!

Should have made him blush by saying with a polite smile my eyes are up here

MLE

was it just yourself and this guy in the meeting or were other people there?

If it was just the two of you you could make a comment like hello Im up here! to embarass him.

If there are other people there, are there other women and has anyone else noticed. Is there someone higher up you can mention it to?

I was on a one day course when I first started my job and the guy giving the course (I was the only one on the course:eek:) spent the whole day teaching my chest SQL Server with VBA!

I did nothing about it ( didn't have the gaul (spelling!)). But I did tell everyone and we had a good laugh behind his back. He was a sad geek tbh

Quality

Deleted User wrote: »

Two threads? Annoys ya that much yea?


Wooly jumper might help! Or try the non verbal route by staring him out of it until he cops on.

Whoops didnt realise I posted twice, Accidental!!

Gurgle

Quality wrote: »

I was just in a meeting there and this fella I was with kept staring at my chest, This really pisses me off, If I had have been in any other situation I would have left rip, but because I am in work I have to put up with this!!

Why not get your tits out, jump up and down a bit then put them away and ask if they're ready to have the meeting?

First item on the agenda: "I'd like a pay-rise"

Have you not yet perfected your "You have fifteen seconds until I rip your balls off with a blunt spoon" death ray stare.

If they haven't an ounce of sense and give you lip because of it.
Smack them.

I have never had to progress this strategy any furthur.

Quality

He is one of our suppliers, late 40's, you'd think he would know better.

Sherifu

Quality wrote: »

I was just in a meeting there and this fella I was with kept staring at my chest, This really pisses me off, If I had have been in any other situation I would have left rip, but because I am in work I have to put up with this!!

Any help to get me through this situation again?

Theres a dirty aul lad in our local does the same!!

Tell him. It's good to get these things off your chest.

Agreed, death stare works wonders

I have had to make eye contact with and say "excuse me" to a couple of managers in my time
They think because of my age and experience that I won't pull them up on it.
Its really low and its made my blood boil on occasion.

ntlbell

chungfellit's today wha Qual, no class hun!

It's ok. You won't be in work too much longer.

Untill then, cover up or don't complain when they look.

Sigh.

Quality

ntlbell wrote: »

chungfellit's today wha Qual, no class hun!

It's ok. You won't be in work too much longer.

Untill then, cover up or don't complain when they look.

Sigh.

Go away troll...:p

citytillidie

Moonbaby wrote: »

Have you not yet perfected your "You have fifteen seconds until I rip your balls off with a blunt spoon" death ray stare.

If they haven't an ounce of sense and give you lip because of it.
Smack them.

I have never had to progress this strategy any furthur.

Quickley diverts eyes away from Moonbabies chest

6th

ntlbell wrote: »

It's ok. You won't be in work too much longer.

Why wont she?

Stark

Quality wrote: »

Any help to get me through this situation again?

Get a higher cut top.

Quality

Stark wrote: »

Get a higher cut top.

I am going to leave a polo neck in my drawer for the next time he calls!!:D

Or maybe I will get a fecking hijab!

drunkmonkey

ahh take it easy on the poor fella....I don't think he meant any harm.....could you not look at the other side of the coin and see it as a compliment....you obviously had the best boobs in the room.......I bet there's a thousand girls wishing they were in your position.....

ntlbell

6th wrote: »

Why wont she?

A real rain is going to come 6th, do you know what real rain does to the streets?

HBK

at the risk of getting full wrath here....

OP you must have a nice set!! :P

Stark

ntlbell wrote:

A real rain is going to come 6th, do you know what real rain does to the streets?

Makes them wet?

Quality

ntlbell wrote: »

A real rain is going to come 6th, do you know what real rain does to the streets?

Everybody meet Ntl Bell, My personal stalker & abuser,

Ntl Bell meet everybody....l

ntlbell

HBK wrote: »

at the risk of getting full wrath here....

OP you must have a nice set!! :P

The guy was over 40 man.

If she had too fried eggs he would still be drooling.

ntlbell

Quality wrote: »

Everybody meet Ntl Bell, My personal stalker & abuser,

Ntl Bell meet everybody....l

Hai.

Who's abusing who? you me or me you?

Eithier way..

It's hot.:p

HBK

ntlbell wrote: »

The guy was over 40 man.

If she had too fried eggs he would still be drooling.

good point!

WindSock

Remember to think of the children! behave.

DJ_Spider

Just look intently at his crotch ! If he says anything just ask him how does he feel being stared at! Either that or run over to him and bury his head in your chest, hopefully smothering him! :eek:

citytillidie

Hang on we need to see pictures to make a judgement lol



Sorry Miss Quality

Macha

Ugh ignore advice to cover up - this isn't Saudi Arabia last time I checked.

Stare right back until you make him feel uncomfortable. The addition of a somewhat confused look on your face helps as if you're not quite sure why he's wearing that awful shirt. Or tell him he has something in his teeth or hanging out of his nose - works every time.

Edit: God I just love the predictible whore/virgin male responses of either:
a) cover up
b) show me

ntlbell

taconnol wrote: »

Ugh ignore advice to cover up - this isn't Saudi Arabia last time I checked.

Stare right back until you make him feel uncomfortable. The addition a somewhat confused look on your face helps as if you're not quite sure why he's wearing that awful shirt. Or tell him he has something in his teeth or hanging out of his nose - works every time.

Edit: God I just love the predictible whore/virgin male responses of either:
a) cover up
b) show me

The advice is not to cover up it's cover them up if people looking at them annoys you.
If i walk around with my man hood floating about people will stare (not laugh!) and I'd be very proud and enjoy as the onlookers cheered.

But if it annoyed me I obviously wouldn't walk around with it flopping around!

It's easy!

GuanYin

ntlbell wrote: »

Hai.

Who's abusing who? you me or me you?

Eithier way..

It's hot.:p

This is why you'll die alone.

BigglesMcGee

I sometimes find myself staring at a girls chest if she has a nice one or has none. When i realize i try to stop but its just natural that your eyes go towards smething you are attracted to or somethnig that you find is funny or ugly too. Cant be helped. Sometimes you would be staring at them thinking, how ugly, or what a waste having them on her, or wow. God knows

Sometimes i have found myself talking to people with an ugly nose or something and have to keep telling myself - dont stare man.

Its just natural that people stare at something that they find repusive or attractive and shouldnt be staring at.

Im sure he will be more embarrassed than you if you pick him up on it though. But then he'll probably tell everyone you caught him so he can laugh it off and next thing the whole building is staring at them behind your back or in front of your face to see what he was staring at.

Hard to know what to do.

WindSock

Won't someone please think of the children? And stay on topic. Don't make me shake my fist.

Macha

ntlbell wrote: »

The advice is not to cover up it's cover them up if people looking at them annoys you.
If i walk around with my man hood floating about people will stare (not laugh!) and I'd be very proud and enjoy as the onlookers cheered.

But if it annoyed me I obviously wouldn't walk around with it flopping around!

It's easy!

Ok first of all you're assuming she has her chest on display. As BigglesMcGee just conveniently described, men are known to stare at women's chests regardless of whether they're covered up or not.

So the answer for women? Why should you change your behaviour/the way you look when its his behaviour that is unacceptable & should change? No prizes.

Either Ireland has adopted the hijab lately or I'm just out of the loop.

Running Bing

Im a man and I have faced a similiar problem.


Last week I wore a bannana hammock into the office and the women would not stop staring at my crotch:(



Summer holidays are over, send the twins back to boarding school, cover up.

SarahSassy

Deleted User wrote: »

death stare works wonders QUOTE]

Agreed but another one would be to click your fingers in front of your boobs. It will certainly catch his attention and should embarass him.

SarahSassy

BigglesMcGee wrote: »

Its just natural that people stare at something that they find repusive or attractive and shouldnt be staring at..

Not its not!!! It's just bad manners.

echosound

ntlbell wrote: »

The advice is not to cover up it's cover them up if people looking at them annoys you.
If i walk around with my man hood floating about people will stare (not laugh!) and I'd be very proud and enjoy as the onlookers cheered.

But if it annoyed me I obviously wouldn't walk around with it flopping around!

It's easy!

Agreed. If you don't like people staring, don't show a sea of cleavage and wear a top that looks professional. De-emphasise the cleavage.
If you're wearing a top that emphasises the boobies - low cut, clingy, fitted under the boobs etc, well then it's only doing it's job of attracting attention.

I have a pretty substantial cleavage myself and there are days I enjoy flaunting it, and others where I am happy wearing a collared shirt/jumper thus minimising the effects of them.

If a chap walked round with a shirt open halfway down his chest with a lovely shiny medallion to draw attention to his hairy chest, chances are you'd stare too, not necessarily because you are attracted and are busy perving over him, but just because the combo is doing it's job - drawing the eye.

ChewChew

Ah lads stop being brats. Leave the boobs alone!! teeheehee

Being a very lucky, large breasted young woman, I have to admit that I LOVE guys staring at them. It's a great booster to the aul confidence etc. Although can get tiresome every now and then. my old boss was a twat, and he had a gawk one day, but it went on and on so I just started touching them. poor man didnt know where to put his eyes after that!!

or if you dont want to be that forward, just snap your fingers right in front of your boobs, then when he catches your eyes, talk to your boobs and tell them you will find a nicer set of eyes and your sorry they had to go through that!!!

Works every time ladies!!!

:D:D

Mr. Presentable

Ladies, ladies, ladies. Why does it bother you? If a chap stares at your face, does that not bother you too? What if he stares at your feet? These are also parts of the female form some men find sexually attractive. Try to think of it as complimentary.

OP, are you particularly spectacular? Are you uncovered? Or are you dealing with a very short man?

Mr. Presentable

echosound wrote: »

If a chap walked round with a shirt open halfway down his chest with a lovely shiny medallion to draw attention to his hairy chest, chances are you'd stare too, not necessarily because you are attracted and are busy perving over him, but just because the combo is doing it's job - drawing the eye.

A 1970's lady, eh.

Jimbo

ChewChew wrote: »

Ah lads stop being brats. Leave the boobs alone!! teeheehee

Being a very lucky, large breasted young woman, I have to admit that I LOVE guys staring at them. It's a great booster to the aul confidence etc. Although can get tiresome every now and then. my old boss was a twat, and he had a gawk one day, but it went on and on so I just started touching them. poor man didnt know where to put his eyes after that!!

or if you dont want to be that forward, just snap your fingers right in front of your boobs, then when he catches your eyes, talk to your boobs and tell them you will find a nicer set of eyes and your sorry they had to go through that!!!

Works every time ladies!!!

:D:D

Pics please

ChewChew

My pics are far from suitable for boards. they are all secretly stashed away on my bebo. hahahaha

echosound

nipplenuts wrote: »

A 1970's lady, eh.

heh!
Either that, or it's the car-crash effect - you can't help but stare even though you might want to look away and are in fact slightly repulsed.

Perhaps the OP has a similar problem the guy wasn't perving, just going "yeeeeuuuuuccchhhh" but unable to avert his gaze.

SarahSassy

jimbo78 wrote: »

Pics please

Oh, change the record please :rolleyes:

Jimbo

SarahSassy wrote: »

Oh, change the record please :rolleyes:

Jealousy will get you nowhere woman

SarahSassy

jimbo78 wrote: »

Jealousy will get you nowhere woman

I know a song about that - its called 'in your dreams mate'

WindSock

There's a difference between looking and staring. There's also a code in which you conduct yourself in a professional manner in the workplace. That means no leering, and it also means wearing appropriate clothing.

ChewChew

WindSock wrote: »

There's a difference between looking and staring. There's also a code in which you conduct yourself in a professional manner in the workplace. That means no leering, and it also means wearing appropriate clothing.

You are actually kinda right. hmm. There is nowt wrong with guys having a look, but a long endless stare is crappy. but if you wear something THAT revealing then your a wee gluton for punishment.

BigglesMcGee

SarahSassy wrote: »

Not its not!!! It's just bad manners.

It may be bad manners but it is a human reaction.
If it wasnt there would be a law against looking at parts of peoples bodies.
Show me a case of anyone that got fired for looking at a part of anothers body in Ireland .... ever. In fact if i was brought up in front of the boss for staring at anothers body part, man woman or beast, i'd say 'sorry, didnt mean to cause offence. Didnt realize i was staring. Anything else?' . And then i probably would end up sub conciously staring even more. Along with everyone i had recounted the story to.

A wormate of mine has one arm. People stare all the time. They dont mean to but they just do. It doesnt bother him. He knows this happens and doesnt complain about it.

It happens, get over it.
The example another poster given of the man with the shirt open and the medallion is bang on.