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Did it make you happy?

  • 14-04-2008 9:46am
    #1
    Velvet Vocals
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,345 ✭✭✭


    Ok.... I'm a person who doesn't like the idea of marriage.... but I'm also a person who see's the benefits of it... legally you're more secure and stuff...
    I do think the idea of spending the rest of your life with one person is lovely (while it might not be realistic) but I just hate the idea of that "BIG DAY"
    So what I'm asking of all you that have taken that walk down the isle or registry office corridor...... did it make you happy? and I mean apart from the giddy, it's my day, everyone's looking at me and it's all about us, happy that you felt on the actual day. I mean really happy, content... we'll be together forever happy?
    Please answer honestly

    Did it make you happy 6 votes

    Yes, eternal bliss is ours
    0% 0 votes
    No, I'm stuck with this freak!
    100% 6 votes


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  • #2
    Das Kitty
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 17,231 Mod ✭✭✭✭Das Kitty


    Surely if you're getting married you're already happy, no?

    I am looking forward to being his wife but I have to say I doubt very much there'll be a huge difference in our relationship from what it is now. Other people will probably see us differently though (not least the government and the law!).

    Friends of ours aren't into the whole marriage thing either, when they decided to have kids they went to their solicitor to see what they needed to do, turned out that the easiest way to ensure everyone's rights would be looked after longterm was to get married. And they did. They're delighted they did now as baby #1 is on his way. Maybe they were just closet conformists all along! :)


  • #3
    VeryBerry
    Closed Accounts Posts: 81 ✭✭VeryBerry


    Funnily enough, I was one of those people who didn't believe in marriage, never wanted to get married etc. However, my husband and I decided to get married after we bought our house, because in the long-term it just made things a lot easier from a legal point of view. We got married in a registry office, and I truly believed it was all just a formality, and a "piece of paper" wouldn't change anything.

    But tbh, it has changed things, (in a good way!), which neither of us were expecting. I suppose the big thing that's changed is how we think about each other, and our relationship, and our future together. We have grown much closer, and feel more like a family now; which was very unexpected having being together for 8 years and lived together for 4.

    Maybe it was before marriage that on some subconscious level we both felt we could just walk away if things got really hard, but that's not an option anymore. Or maybe it's just that having your relationship formally recognised and protected in law make you feel very secure with each other.

    I can't really explain it any better than that, sorry. :o


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