Boyfriend called me wrong name

monters

iv been seeing my boyfriend for over a year and am really into him.
the other night we were talking about ex's - really light heartedly...nothing serious was discussed
then about half an hour later he called me by his ex girlfriends name
he said it was an accident because we had been talking about people we'd went out with before
but it broke my heart
surely it shouldnt just slip out when wev been goin out this long
and even tho we had been talkin about it- it never crossed my mind to call him by my ex's name
please help -any advice
anything he says or does now makes me paranoid that hes thinking about her

nice1franko

try not to worry about it. i did that to my gf once. we were going out about a year too and we'd just been discussing my ex too (she knows her too). it meant nothing... really. we're together 8 years too know.

edit- she went nuts about it too mind... took a little while to get things back to normal but that we did

fits

I'm quite sure that I've called my OH of 5 years by my dogs name more than once

(maybe that warrants a thread all of its own)

What I'm trying to say, is it easily happens, especially when its a habit. At least it wasnt during sex. How long was he going out with this girl?

(no I didnt btw)

Doctor DooM

Forget about it. Of course he was thinking about her, you were just discussing her! He is only human.

Sherifu

Can see how it could easily happen after you talked about her. If it happens during sex then be worried.

suzy5978

id say ur hurt but try not to tink too much into it.id say it was just a slip of the tounge.i put my foot in it all the time but theres never anything in it,my boyfriend knows im a scatter brains!!

Tar.Aldarion

Nothing to worry about, these mistakes happen. I don't think you should be angry with him.

kelle

I called my husband by my ex's name a few times purely by accident when we were together a while. I was so upset every time I did it, and so was husband but I think he learnt to ignore it. It certainly wasn't because I loved my ex more, it was just a slip of the tongue. We're together 14 years, married for twelve and I still love him to bits.
I wouldn't get upset about it, especially as your OH has only done it the once.

monters

thanks guys....that makes me feel so much better!!! and god yea - i think hed be well on his way to dumpsville if he said it during sex....! so i spose it cuda been worse!

Thanks again for the quick replies!!! XXX

stepbar

fits wrote: »

I'm quite sure that I've called my OH of 5 years by my dogs name more than once

LOL Sorry that made laugh.

seahorse

fits wrote: »

I'm quite sure that I've called my OH of 5 years by my dogs name more than once

(maybe that warrants a thread all of its own)

Maybe it does! Ha ha ha

OP I agree with the other posters, honest to God there's nothing unusual in this, we've all done it.

Nevyn

Ok it happens but it's not like you were enguaged in sex acts and he started to climax and started using the name of his ex.

Squeeonline

fits wrote: »

I'm quite sure that I've called my OH of 5 years by my dogs name more than once

(maybe that warrants a thread all of its own)

funniest thing I have read in a while!

I call friends my GFs name or my sisters name all the time. For me, the name that I use most comes to the front first and has caused some embarressing situations to say the least.

May I draw the parallel with calling the teacher (Miss), Mam, or mammy?

randylonghorn

OP, sounds like something I would do! Probably because at some stge I would probably think "God, wouldn't it be awful if I ...", and then ten minutes later that is exactly what I would do!

Sometime I think my sub-conscious is out to get me, tbh!

Abi

Sherifu wrote: »

If it happens during sex then be worried.

Agreed.

OP, you have been together a year. It sounds like things are going solidly. If you let this go, Im sure you will be a lot longer together. But it does sound like a slip of the tongue, you have to trust him here.

Dont get me wrong, I'd feel exactly the same. A little tweak of jealousy, but theres no way in hell he meant to say her name, given what you had just been talking about. He is with you now. That is the bottom line here.

Myself and the Mr have been together a long time, (some may not agree with me on this) but we dont really discuss who we were with before.

We are a new chapter, theres nothing to talk about to be honest. It only gives way for bitterness and insecurity imo.

Nightwish

Both myself and my OH have done this to each other before. Its no big deal really, especially since you were talking about exes.

Creamy Goodness

the same difference as calling your teacher mum in primary school tbh.

MLE

Im terrible with names aswell, I often call guys in work my husbands name. Ive called my husband my brothers name. Ive called my mam my husbands name and in school I put my hand up and called my religion teacher Dad, to the amusement of everyone.

It just depends who I talking too last or something with me.

But I can understand what your saying, I would be upset if my husband called me some other girls name. He only did it once, I had just given birth to my son and he said 'Claire isnt he gorgeous' and I said 'Im not Claire!'... luckily for me Claire is our daughters name so it was very forgivable.:)

chuci

i wouldnt worry about it TBH sure ye were talking about each others exs so just got confused. easily done. i called my boyfriend the wrong name for the first month we were going out and we still together.

K-9

monters wrote: »

anything he says or does now makes me paranoid that hes thinking about her

There's your problem there. Paranoia!

dresden8

My current calls me by her ex's name still, and it's been twelve years. I'm not paranoid and insecure though, maybe that's the difference.

You should really only start to worry if he starts calling the dogs name during sex.

Susannahmia

monters wrote: »

iv been seeing my boyfriend for over a year and am really into him.
the other night we were talking about ex's - really light heartedly...nothing serious was discussed
then about half an hour later he called me by his ex girlfriends name
he said it was an accident because we had been talking about people we'd went out with before
but it broke my heart
surely it shouldnt just slip out when wev been goin out this long
and even tho we had been talkin about it- it never crossed my mind to call him by my ex's name
please help -any advice
anything he says or does now makes me paranoid that hes thinking about her

Meh I have been going out with my bf three years now and I have called him every guys name under the sun, I still do sometimes especially if we were talking about someone else previously. I was thinking of ringing my Mother the other day and I ended up calling him Mam!

I think you are over reacting and over analysing here.

Actually for the first week or three that we were going out I kept on calling him Bernard, and once randomly shouted "bye David!" Neither are even close to his name, and I dont even know anyone by those names!

mcguirkj

Look, OP.

So he called you her name. Ask yourself why.

Thinking about his ex probably made him remember all the nice thigs about her, - how comfortable they were together, how he could tell her everything, - you know the deal.

The fact is that with you, he probably feels those exact same things, - you make him feel just as happy as she did. You are both very important people in his life, he loved her, and now he loves you, because you both made (in your case make) him happy. His calling you by her name should reassure you that you're just as "good" as her, though why you women get so bloddy insecure about this **** I'll never know.

He loves you. He used to love her. Give the guy a break.

Bottle_of_Smoke

called an ex by my (hot) friends name one night. Was the same night she met that friend also. Got pissed off at the time but copped on eventually.

The fact that it was half an hour later means talking about her reminded him of her, was perhaps thinking about her because of same so nothing to worry about

Teddi

Purely a mixture of paranoia and a slip up from your b/f

Heres a good example...

Im not sure about you..but I know this happens to alot of people...as my friends have told me..


have you ever been writing something..with either the radio on..or the TV?....have you ever wrote down a word that you didnt mean to write down? like..you were writing a letter to your friend..and you end up saying..."hey...how are things down in the country?.....how are your mom and dad?.is the weather bananas good? (that person had been listening to a fyfes banana ad on the tv.....

this kinda thing happens to me alot on msn..my brain will hear a word ina song..and if im typing a response..that words sometimes ends up in the sentance..

You guys were talking about ex's...saying their names no doubt....his ex's name would have been freshest in his mind...and its just your brain short fusing for a second.

wouldnt worry about it at all..its in your head ..................... (wow..i had just typed hair a second ago there....instead of head....was watching america's top model...lol...manly..I know )

randylonghorn

OK, now that the OP has been sufficiently reassured (I should hope anyway!!) ... I am madly curious to know what Fits' dog's name is?

fits wrote: »

I'm quite sure that I've called my OH of 5 years by my dogs name more than once

fits

randylonghorn wrote: »

OK, now that the OP has been sufficiently reassured (I should hope anyway!!) ... I am madly curious to know what Fits' dog's name is?

Buster:D

smiler26

fits wrote: »

Buster:D

LOL:D

randylonghorn

fits wrote: »

Buster:D

Meh ... not so bad! I was kind of hoping you had a toy poodle with a fancy-pants name like "ChiChi" or some such ...

LegacyUser

monters wrote: »

iv been seeing my boyfriend for over a year and am really into him.
the other night we were talking about ex's - really light heartedly...nothing serious was discussed
then about half an hour later he called me by his ex girlfriends name
he said it was an accident because we had been talking about people we'd went out with before
but it broke my heart
surely it shouldnt just slip out when wev been goin out this long
and even tho we had been talkin about it- it never crossed my mind to call him by my ex's name
please help -any advice
anything he says or does now makes me paranoid that hes thinking about her

I'd be worried if you were talking about sports or something completely out of the park when he said it. But you were talking about them specifically: it calls up old memories. The brain can work like that sometimes. I wouldnt give it any further thought.

John Mason

Totally over reacting, i celebrate if i get anyones name right. I have called my boyfriends all manner of names at some point. May be if you are that insecure about a slip of the tongue, maybe you have deeper problems in your relationship

milod

Perhaps the OP is worried that it might be a Freudian slip as opposed to a simple mistake?

Freudian slips happen all the time and can be more or less significant depending on the context, but it doesn't always indicate a desire or need - it can be a simple confusion of ideas.

For example a few years ago, over breakfast with my ex-wife, I meant to say "pass the salt", when what actually came out was "you've ruined my entire f**king life, you complete and utter b*tch..."

See?, a simple slip of the tongue etc etc :-D

egan007

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGtkNJ_DyOk&feature=related