another lonely nite

eire-kp

basically heres the story just in from another crap nite out. im 22.i was goin out with a girl for 3 years there. we split up beccause she was goin to college about 9 months ago and didnt want to be tied down. so after another night out here i am on my own again. i havev been with one girl since but it never felt the same. i have a good job (electrician and a fairly big farm) nice car, building own house. and i feel like i have a lot else to offer othewise . i tried internet dating but most women seem to be from the cities not rural ireland. where could i meet women. niteclubs just isnt my thing. i have never felt so alone... thanks for any advice

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Hobbies and clubs, basically. What are you interested, find club, join, chat up other members.

I'm told mixed gyms are very good for meeting women too, but being a fat ugly fecker, I don't know for sure...

Beyond that, try not to feel to pressured into having to go out for the sake of it. So what if you're 22 and single? You're not the only one...

steve927

Dude, please dont let the situation get you down. You're only 22 and by the sound of things you really have a lot going for you regarding your work and house etc. I think you should relax and let things happen for you, let fate take its course for a while and see what happens. I know you're saddened by the break-up of your previous relationship and that things look bleak for you right now but there are very few people on these forums who haven't been in the same situation at one point and who now look back at that time and think that things weren't actually as bad as they felt at the time.
Everything happens for a reason in my opinion and who knows what or who is waiting for you around the corner. Keep dipping in and out of the online dating, go to some clubs and activities like the previous poster suggests, maybe go on a singles holiday in the summer, book it now and it will give you something to look forward to.
Be as positive as you can be, people can pick up on negativity and its not attractive. Most importantly you should realise that every "single" woman in the world is a potential future girlfriend/lover/wife of yours. Think about it - its a fact!

YogiBear

Last posters right, you're really young. Don't dwell on it, go out there and make friends for a start! I think the best way to meet a girl/boyfriend is to make friends first. My housemate is 23, he used to feel the same way only 6 months ago and I was telling him to go out and join a gym and clubs etc. He got really involved in a club he enjoyed and ended up meeting a really lovely girl and they're really happy! Six months ago, he was so pessimistic he'd never have believed it and he's a totally different person now.
I'm 31, I'm single!!! Think how young you are & just enjoy life! I think you'll find when you're enjoying life and not dwelling on what you don't have, you'll find people are naturally drawn to you.. like a big loving life magnet
(Did I just write that? ).. Anyway, best of luck, don't be upset or sad about not having someone at the moment, save your loving for someone special and instead of thinking what you don't have at the moment, think positively of what you have to look forward to!!

I know it's different in rural areas but it's not impossible. Definitely try to join a club that interests you... reading/art/photography/self-defence... you'll end up having a bigger circle of friends too which is always nice.
You're not the only one anyway, like my housemate and millions of peeps, so get out there and be positive.*

*I hope I don't sound like Dr. Phil or something!

Corcaigh abu

Hey your still young but guess its difficult when in rural area. Why not join a group like Macra www.macra.ie they do loads of activities and social stuff and a great way to meet new people or even though I know you are in Sligo you could check out a crowd called www.dinetomeet.ie they are in galway and organise dinner for group of 4+ people just to get to know people and not necessarily for dating. Good luck I'm sure you'll have loads of opportunities:)

LegacyUser

Im practically in the same position only Ive been single a lot longer. I dont live in a rural area tho but even in the city its just as hard to meet someone. IMO meeting people in nightclubs is a waste of time and as for online, seems to me that everyone on it is either not my type or just plain weird. I know how it feels to have a lot to offer also, Ive a good job and am quite financially stable even though Im only 22 but men I meet find this intimidating even tho to me it doesnt matter how much or how little they have.

The only advice I can offer is to wait and see, you never know whats around the corner. Also once you stop focusing on meeting someone chances are you will! Its only been six months so focus on enjoying having a bit of freedom and doing things you enjoy, enjoy spending time with mates, afterall 22 is still very young, you have the rest of your life to settle down!

Best wishes and stay posititve!