Bad reading ...

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I've been walloped with depression this past 18 months and am seeing a therapist. We (therapist and I) felt I'd broken the back of it and was about to stop my sessions. Then I went to see a fortune teller in Clondalkin. I'd been to see her before and she'd been very accurate in past readings.

On this occasion she told me that I'd be stuck with my depression and also said that one of my siblings was not my dad’s, rather, my mother had had several affairs and passed one of my siblings off as my dad’s child. I should add that my sister looks nothing like the rest of us. She concluded to say that someone on my mother's side of the family would be struck with cancer by the end of the year, the message came from my maternal grandmother who died of cancer.

I've been very down since the reading and my old depression symptoms have reared their ugly head again.

A good friend of mine has recommended that I have an angel reading for healing, but I don’t know if I can bear to hear anything else bad or have what the fortune teller has said confirmed.

Any thoughts you have on this would be very welcome.
Thanks for your input.
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Nevyn

How irresponsible of her.

Seriously you have free will and you make the choices in your life dont' let her claptrap set you back.

Oryx

I think the main focus of a reading should be to provide support and advice for the sitter. Not to fill their head with doom and gloom. We do enough of that on our own. All very well if theyre accurate, but that is not the sole ambition of a reader. What point is 100% accuracy if its doing harm? Thats not to say a reader should lie, or always be jolly, but they do need to have good judgement about what they say, and if they must deliver hard news, they should do it in a careful way, and filter information, based on sensitivity to the sitter.

All that said, a reader is essentially giving an opinion, a trend towards the future when predicting. It may not come to pass. Also her ideas about your family may or may not be accurate. Only pursue, and discuss it at home if you feel its needed or beneficial. If you think it would open a can of worms, then go on as if you never knew, or assume its not true. Regardless of whether it is or not, your family are still the same people they were before the reading, all that has changed is your perception of the situation.

A reader is just a reader. A person with opinions. Dont give anyone else so much power over your life that it makes you depressed.

Good luck

DANNY22XX

getting a reading when you are feeling down is a very bad idea,,,
even if you feel great it takes one little thing that can bring back a memory to send you back a worse state.
my advice would be stay away from the readings of any kind for now untill you get youself sorted,,,then when you are ready,,,try it .but for me personally i wouldnt based my life around what someone else says,,,no matter how good they are ,,at the end of the day its down to you ,
just my 2 cents. but good luck what ever you decide.

6th

Going for a reading or anything like it while suffering depression isn't exactly the smart choice. Of course no one wants to here bad news but if you are going for a reading be prepared to hear something that you might not like.

MLE

I kind of agree with the last two posts that it wasnt the best idea going for a reading when your in a more delicate frame of mind.

Ive never had depression myself but I have been affected in a negative way by a reader aswell and tbh it has put me off readers alot.

I can understand you going as if your feeling negative or down its only natural to want someone in the 'know' to tell you that 'Everything is going to be allright!'. Its unfortunate that the reader gave you such a negative reading, sometimes I think it would be kinder if readers say that they can't do a reading at that time, which some do do if they sense that the recipient is not in a position to hear the reading or the reading won't be good.

I dont really have any advice but if I were you I would avoid all readers (angel or otherwise) for a while and try and focus on yourself and getting yourself better. Wish I could say something more helpful.

kshiel

A reading should leave you feeling uplifted and with hope not feeling worse than you were before the sitting. If these predictions are given they should only be taken as an opinion and they should certainly be given with more sensitivity and tact than what you received. Life never stops changing as we dont stop changing, we make decisions everyday that change the course of our life hopefully for the better, even if it doesn't feel like it at that time.

Maybe it wasn't the best time to go for a reading in a depressed state but thats when a lot of people do as they are looking for hope and its at this point you really need to be careful who you choose to read for you. I think you need to concentrate your time on getting over this bad time in your life by surrounding yourself with people who care and understand what you are going through and just take each day, hour or minute at a time and try and stay poistive and take small steps towards healing yourself.

Leave that negitive reading behind you and move forward and if some of the predictions do come to pass just remember what we are given in life is given because you have the ability to cope with it and come through the other side for the better.

Stoner

personally I think all readings are a bad idea, unless you are a person who understands the process fully and understands the limitations of such sessions.
Regardless of how strong a person is, the information given in a reading will play on their mind. In this day and age we have enough to be worrying about without adding additional worries to the pot.
Why give such news to someone? will it help? or will it make things worse.
I think KtKs comment on how readers are only people with an opinion is very apt here.
It's a pity that such seeds were planted IMO, very irresponsible.

ladybirdirl

While I agree in principle with many of the posts here, I think telling the OP that it's not a 'smart choice' to go for a reading when suffering from depression is absolutely un-necessary.

OP, what Thaed & KTK say is true.

Perhaps looking back you now realise that the reading wasn't the way to go....hindsight is 20/20 isn't it?

What I would say to you is that you control your own future at all times, these things may or may not come to pass. The thing with your sister, don't bring that on yourself, be a little selfish & take care of yourself first

Finally I wish you well on your journey, maybe try some mediation or something relaxing like reflexology instead of an angel reading when you feel you need something for yourself

Good luck

Ladybird

stevenmu

Very well said LB.

OP I think it's also important to point out that most people who believe in the accuracy if readings also believe that what they predict is not set in stone. Rather a reading only predicts based on patterns and extrapolates possible outcomes. A predicted outcome could only cone true if certain things happen or if things continue as they are. If a reading comes across negatively to you then you should see it as an oppertunity to avoid those negative outcomes, and certainly not something fixed that you can avoid.

Like the others I'm surprised your reader didn't point this out to you.

Oryx

I once described the future to someone as the branches of a tree. So many possibilities spreading out from this point. Your reader is trying to give you a likely outcome, but it is not the only one. Im always at pains to point this out, as giving the impression something is fixed is removing someones free will to change things.

celtic1888

Very interesting reading in this thread folks.....

puts a lot of things in perspective with regards the future & what psychics predict....sure if you look at the meaning of the word "prediction" in a dictionary it sums it up albeit in a simplistic manner....

also would i be right in saying that say you were told "something wouldnt happen or unlikely to happen" in relation to a third party is it entirely possible that if you changed your "patterns" in relation to the situation that its entirely possible that the initial prediction could do a 180 degree turn & become the prediction down the line?!? ive started to use any prediction i get now as invaluable information to change my path to my desired path as opposed to sitting there & waiting for things to happen (that mighten anyway) & that might be "bad"

Oryx

Someone posted on a thread here in the last few days, seeking a fortune teller to advise them on a court case. I did that once. Went to a guy and asked him how something would pan out. Looking back it was a daft thing to do really, imagine if hed told me something harmful? But desperate times bring desperate measures. Anyway, they guy was a gent, and he told me that I would need to work through it and it would be tough, but within a few years it would all be done with. Of course thats advice you could get from anyone, its pretty bland and could fit any situation. But it was helpful to me, in that it gave me the feeling that I would survive this situation, without swaying me one way or another. And it was tough, but it is now done with.

Readers need to be more like counsellors really, and hold the wellbeing of their client above any point scoring accuracy.

kshiel

I remember years ago going for a reading and the whole reading was negative in that a lot of not so nice experiences would be coming my way. I still left that reading with the knowledge I could handle what ever was to come and not in a negitive frame of mind. A lot of what this person told me did come to pass but weirdly enough that reading helped me deal with what came to pass......