Things are better, but..........

LegacyUser

Hi again boardsies. I posted a few weeks ago after a big blow out with my partner after Mothers Day.

I got lots and lots of really good advice, and have taken a lot of it on board and actually used it.

We sat down and really talked things out, in particular his cannabis usage. And shock horror, he has actually stopped (with the exception of a joint or two at party on Paddy’s weekend). I thought he would just cut down, but he knows if he has some in the house he’ll just give in and smoke it, so he’s not buying it anymore.

I was so happy, and I still am, I’m just finding it hard to cope with the mood swings. They are just phenomenal at the moment!

I guess I’m just looking for some support here, has anyone out there been through this? How long will it take for the moods to settle down? Is there anything I can do to help him?

I’m so proud of him for this!!

And huge thanks again to all who helped me get this far.

Beetlebum

Does he smoke cigarettes too or was it just joints? Even if it was just joints he'd still be addicted to nicotine

LegacyUser

He hasn't given up smoking, he still smokes the same amount of ciggarettes as he normally would.

It's just the weed he's given up.

Mr. Incognito

I remember your last post- you were upset as he didn't go buy you a present for mothers day. Kudos to him for coming off the gange. I think that the best way to curb the mood swings is to sit him down and explain that that behaviour is unacceptable and taking out his mood swings on you is both immature and unfair. If he is having a bad day encourage him to go for a walk or take up something that will release tension like painting or a musical instrument.

Overheal

Its true, when you have it you want it. When you don't have it you couldn't give a ****. It's like Coca-Cola actually. My black sugary liquid of woe. Alack, it mocks me on my kitchen counter, but I mustn't!

I never used Cannabis for any great lengthy periods so I can't say I ever noticed mood swings. You are talking about his brain getting used to producing dopamines without its favorite catalyst though. I'll take a stab at the dark and given what I recall of your husbands using habits he will balance out before too long. I cant say for sure because I'm hardly a doctor. I imagine it couldnt be longer than around a month. Perhaps longer if he weens off it. So good for him for stopping altogether.

As far as the mood swings though you're really just in the thick of it now I'd say. They'll settle out in short order.

Bravo to him for quitting altogether: here all i suggested was quitting for 1 day a week

Miss Fluff

I had an ex who gave it up for a period and he was an absolute nightmare to live with, he turned into a complete moody and erratic freak when he came off it. It will take a few weeks but it will be well worth it. Just support him as much as you can and if he is amenable he should think about taking up yoga or meditation to help him chill out. Glad things are improving for you OP.

tbh

Overheal wrote: »

Its true, when you have it you want it. When you don't have it you couldn't give a ****.

very very true. He's done the hardest bit already if you want my opinion. As for what you can do, two words: Positive reinforcement. Glad things are going well for ye.