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  • 27-03-2008 11:18am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Im 22 and generally a really out going and chatty girl. Why is it when Im around this one guy I really fancy I close up and cant think of things to say?! When Im around him I kind of wait for him to speak first and once he does I respond and thats it. There are times when we have the banter but its usually after about an hr or 2 of being around each other when I feel more comfortable. When Im left alone with him I feel self concious and tense up, Im afraid I will say something stupid or make a joke that he wont find funny. I dont have this problem with anyone else but him, thing is he's really out going and chatty too yet Im sure Im coming across as either boring or a bit thick!!

    Need some tips on how to be more relaxed and just be myself around him cause its drivin me mad! Is this normal? Anyone got any simular experiences?


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  • #2
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    You're thinking too much because you like/fancy him.

    Forget about what he might think (because you're not him and you might be wrong).

    Be yourself; if he likes it, great, and if not you'll have a better night out and you won't end up with someone that doesn't like the real you.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP,

    I'm in exactly the same situation as you, with the exception that I'm a 23-year-old guy. Like you, I'm generally outgoing and chatty around people, probably the last person you would ever guess is shy, but whenever I'm around this one girl I like I tend to close up and can't think of things to say. Likewise, I don't have this problem with anybody else, and get on really well with everybody I meet which, as I'm sure you can relate, makes things all the more frustrating. There are times when I chat to her but, like you, it can take me time to get comfortable. The worst thing is that I'm a really nice, fun guy to be around, and I know that she's a really nice, fun girl, but how do you show that to somebody when you're shy around them? I agree with Liam that it comes down to thinking too much, and also that you should try to forget, or at least think a little bit less, about what he thinks, although I know from experience doing this is easier said than done. I know that the girl I like tends to talk much less than usual when I'm around - does the guy you like tend to be quiet or shy around you? Perhaps he likes you too, but is too shy to say anything.


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