gf is off with me

LegacyUser

right im with my girlfriend 3 months fell in love straight away . love her to bits will do anything for her .

right dunno wat happened the weekend she barley spoke to me then monday i said i was going out with some friends nd she said she wud like to go out aswell but she has no money so i said id bring her out . we went out she barley spoke barley even looked at me , next day she says im sorry for being OFF with u last night i asked why she was , she says i just go like that sometimes(first time she's done it in since we met).

we would always txt each other for most of the day anyday then tuesday she barley txt me didnt reply then today send me one message to reply to one i had sent her as i got up she says oh was just about to txt u then noting still waiting for a reply 4 hours later. and i kno shes not doing anything becuase she has no job and she said she wasnt doing anything today.

i cant think of any reason why shes off with me, i dont think ive done anything wrong i just feel like we might be drifting apart for some reason or another. wat do you guys think?

TEH REAL CDP

Give her space lad, if you don't - it won't work.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

What age are you btw?

I'd leave it be. Let her make a move. Don't force it.

LegacyUser

im 19 shes 20

colly10

Couldn't be growing apart, your only with her 3 months. Your waiting on texts etc, think the TEH REAL CDP is right, she needs more space than you give her

MCMLXXXIII

Sometimes people need space, but this probably isn't the case since it was so sudden that she turned you off. I hate to say it, but she probably has done something bad and feels ashamed and guilty. It could be anything from cheating to taking something of yours. I'm not trying to be mean, but in my experience...it's never good when your gf turns off like that.

Rev Hellfire

Sounds like she's a bit self absorbed and only ignoring you to get an reaction.
Personally I'd say dump her if she can't interact with you in a normal consistent manner.

Mazeire

I would say that maybe:

A) She really DOES get like this sometimes and maybe now she is getting comfortable enough after 3 months with you to really be herself around you, warts and all.
She is going off you.

You really need to speak to her. But if its A and it bothers you this much, then you need to decide to you want to stay in a relationship with someone who behaves like this from time to time.

tbh

some people withdraw from time to time. You know your girlfriend is like this. Can you handle it? If not, break up. No big deal, the world will roll on, don't worry.

Balmed Out

dont read too much into it. she might have a problem thats nothing to do with u so ask is everything ok with her. It could also be as simple, and this happens surprisingly often, that she had a dream in which u did something bad and shes got some sort of hostility towards you since.

Miss Fluff

No point in trying to speculate, as hurtful as her behaviour is. I advise giving her a wide berth for now and let her get in touch with you when she has worked through whatever is going on in her head. No point in guessing what the problem is tbh, hope it works out and she just has an awful case of PMT or something.

RedXIV

there is alot to be said about giving people their own space. the thoughts of having to text my OH every hour of the day would annoy the crap out of me. I'm all for having casual chats and all but i hate being in the middle of something and having to pause every 5 mins to reply to a text and being rang if i didn't to "check" on me

TEH REAL CDP

At the end of the day OP, and I don't mean to sound patronising - because when I was your age I thought it was - but you're only 19 and love is quite a tricky thing.

I've noticed that lads around this age fall insecure at the slightest thing... trust me OP, just chill. You trust her don't you. Seriously man, go out with your own friends. Don't become a doormat waiting at her beck and call. You have your own life to live so go out and just live it. If something is going on, well then its gonna happen and nothing you do will prevent it. If its meant to be, it will be.

Absence-makes-the heart-grow-fonder.

There's a lot to be said for doing your own thing. She obviously is. SO GIVE HER SPACE. Switch off your phone for a few hours and go out with some mates, go for a swim, a game of footy, whatever. Just enjoy your own company for a while.

Its generally a hard lesson to learn so learn it the easy way. Give your gf space. You don't have to spend every waking minute with her as some of the other posters have already eluded to. Don't read into it, just enjoy the free time!

Hate to break it to you man, but I was in exactly the sam position as you. You'll find who is right for you. Just have an open mind, be accepting of change and you wont get hurt. Accepting that something may not be meant to be will not stop you loving someone and you'll be rational.

Now just stop looking into it, go chill for a while. believe me, it is not worth the stress.










It isn't.

missingyou

She honestly just sounds like she needs some space, maybe she is upset about something and needs to think about it. Or could be absolutely nothing. best not to worry about it too much and distract yourself. Get a few friends over and watch a dvd or something. Just keep youor mind off it! When she needs to talk she will.

You havent been in the relatioship long and maybe its something really personal she just feels she cant talk to you about yet. A family thing or anything.

I hope everything works out for you though

LegacyUser

Fell in love instantly? It's called the honeymoon period...!

Sounds like she could be depressed she has no job and is just sitting at home. If your confident and happy with yourself, maybe she could be intimidated by it...?

Also, there is the possibility she may just be getting fed up with you but i strongly doubt it...i reckon from the little info you have provided she may be fed up she has no job, or else is just jealous of your confidence (if you have any) OR she could just be getting fed up of u! But then again...if she is not wb to you...???

Does she have other friends? Is she busy doing stuff or is she always kind of depending on you?

Ickle Magoo

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right im with my girlfriend 3 months fell in love straight away . love her to bits will do anything for her .

Could you be too...well...intense for her? Maybe she wants a bit of space. If a guy I'd been dating for 3 months was that "bend-over-backwards-for-you-because-I'm-sooooo-in-love-with-you" way, it would actually put me off a bit. Some people grow into a relationship & getting too serious too quickly can make them nervous or even put them off.

Overheal

right im with my girlfriend 3 months fell in love straight away . love her to bits will do anything for her .

Sounds like smothering.

we would always txt each other for most of the day anyday

Give her breathing space.

i kno shes not doing anything becuase she has no job and she said she wasnt doing anything today.

Stop worrying about it.

LegacyUser

Tanx for the replies .for all who said about txting all the time i dont mind doing it neither does my gf shes the one with the bill fone and im on the pay as u go so. we both kinda hang around with the same people . i lft earlier to go to work after i first posted got 2 txts nd then ignored . dont kno wether to leave it and let her reply whenever or txt her and ask is there something wrong that she wants to talk about ?

Iluvjazzmasters

OP- believe it or not i was about to start a new thread about the exact same thing! Looks like youve beaten me to it! Ive been goin out with a girl 3 months too and the past few days ive gotten the exact same thing you have!I know this because the same girl broke up with me for no real reason only to come back a week later! ( i know she must be confused)

The only advice i can give you is the same as the other posters here, absence makes the heart grow fonder! Give her ,her own space, there may be many reasons why she hasnt texted you, u say she has no job?? Maybe she's flat out of credit or is busy doing her own thing?? Your better off doing something to occupy your time because you'll only worry over small things, i know this cos i do the exact same thing! Women are a special species, from my own experience i dont think they can always see the logic in their immediate decisions/actions, but when they think about it they usually see the logical route

LegacyUser

Sounds like your to clingy bro which can happen your young so these things happen easily

iI would follow these rules give her space and that includeds texting and phone calls see her maybe 3 nights a week, take it slow.

She's probably feeling a bit bummed out that your paying for her all the time etc which is very admerable, but not allways the best thing st slow down and take it easy and just give her space and dont text her all the time eather or be eager with the texts like the second you get a text you must reply because that just shows your eager and texting all the time is boreing, save the talk for when you see her at least then youle have something to talk about... txt her emaybe 3 times a day.

thats what i do . not because im trying to be cool but because i dont want to bore the girl ....

LegacyUser

to the OP, went through an almost identical situation myself... maybe a little bit longer then 3 months but went from being totally in love with each other to her just blanking me for awhile.
It turned out in the end she had problems of her own and ended up taking it out on me as I was the only one who would take the abuse. It was hard and confusing at the time but you learn from things like this..I know how it is when you're in love and it's great but you have to remember it's only been 3months, it's not the end of the world if worse comes to worse. It does sound like somethings wrong maybe she does need more space or maybe an issue totally unrelated to you is bothering her.. All you can do is try you're best and at the end of the day if "the honeymoon is over" so to speak then move on. good luck!!