Blushing problem :(

LegacyUser

Ok it may seem stupid and like something i can live with and "get over" but it's getting me down.

I go red at any social situation...it's mortifying It's a viscious circle, I talk to someone, think I'm going to go red, then I go red, and then I think about how red I am.........and it gets worse! It's only happened in the last 5 or so years, I'm 20. I would've considered myself shy before, but now I feel like "the fear of going red" is making me seem shy. I'll hold back from saying something, because I know I'll go red...it's stupid I know, but it's really upsetting me lately.

I know of the operation (not going to go that drastic) and hypnotherapy, but I was wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and has any tips that helped them overcome it.

Much appreciated, cheers

Sprouts

We all have our little quirks, I too go red if I feel embarrassed not as bad as I used to though so I think you may grow out of it too. At your age I was worse, I used to go really red and worse still, I used to get so knotted up I used to sweat like a madman, no hiding it. You'll get to a stage where you won't be too bothered what other people think of you in social situations, you accept that you are what you are and relax.

cjmcork

get that green stick thing in boots - I haven't a clue what it's called, but there was a girl in school with me about a thousand years ago and she had the worst cheeks I'd ever seen and she started using this - a wonder of modern make up

Overheal

Well from the perspective of someone who rarely ever blushes, I kinda like when I do. Its an interesting feeling I don't get very often and I'd never know what sets it off. Most of the time its when I'm with a girl worried about making a fool of myself - which never happens of course

I guess if you aren't worried by what other people think it won't happen as often. When it does happen try to find the silver lining: its cold outside and I love the extra warmth on my cheeks.

Tzetze

OP, I know exactly what you're going through. I don't suffer it as bad as I used to, but the symptoms are the very same when it does happen. Start going red, "Oh noes, I'm going red", gets even worse, and then I begin to feel the beads of sweat bubbling out all over my bald bonce. Horrible feeling indeed, and when it happens I wish the ground would open up and swallow me whole. I'm in my mid-30's now, and although it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be, it can and does still happen occasionally.

It will become less frequent in time, but will never disappear completely. Not exactly what you want to hear, but that's just the way it is.
Maybe someone else can give you (and me) some confidence boosting tips.

Xiney

I feel your pain, when I blush it's not a cute rosey cheeked effect - it's more of a hideous all over peeled beet effect. Even the tops of my ears go bright red.

That said, it has improved in the last few years. I'm more confident, and less likely to let things get under my skin. That doesn't mean I don't still blush, but when I do I have the confidence to usually keep it from getting too bad, unless I've done something seriously stupid.


I don't know how comforting that will be to you, as there's no quick fix to confidence.

tread_softly

exact same thing happens to me, i HATE it. and once it happens it takes ages to go down and you can't stop thinking about it and that just makes it worse.

i tried green concealers but i find they make you look washed out. now i SWEAR by Benefit You're Bluffing!



it's yellow and really easy to blend in under make up, it's a lifesaver.

Neil_Sedaka

Happened to me for a spell many years ago. I found that taking a breath and holding it for a few seconds, stopped it in it's tracks.

Hope you get over it soon, I remember it was a very unpleasant feeling.

Alice Junge

In our group of friends, we do this thing to annoy one another we say "look your going red, look how red your going' and when we say this the person goes red,its really strange its like a self-consciousness thing!!

grendo89

i haven experienced it but i know of people who do. It was because of confidence i think becasue when it happened they were just really shy or embarrassed, or else it would be in school when saying something in front of the class. What makes it worse, it seems is the knowledge and hence, fear of going red and the fact that your thinking about everyone else noticing it too. That will just make it worse. So i think the best bet is stop letting it get you down. People actually admire it believe it or not. Its part of who you are, so be comfortable with it and it might ease away.

Bluebells

Im going through exactly the same thing! It started getting worse over the last 3 / 4 years and its horrible. I find if im distracted with something else (eg rushed off my feet at work) the cycle of 'oh no im red' doesnt get a chance to start. Im hoping it will just settle down in its own time, maybe google breathing excercises or visualisation to relax you when your going to be in awkward situations? Im not sure if this has anything to do with it or will help at all but you could try creams that stop general redness?

colly10

Used to experience this, it's horrible but it will eventually go away. I wouldn't say im totally not self conscious now, it got really bad for a while and now I just don't care any more. When I stopped caring then I was ok. I don't think this is something you can control but it is something you will grow out of

JOHNPT

Basically suffered the same prob for years i know its crap read loads books. read charlotte joko beck- livin zen, or anthony de mello, or echkarrt tolle. Loads go books out there about learnin to stay present in moment if thought comes into your head(i going to blush) u can stay present watch the thoughts. Brillant read them takes practice and u need to be brave but if read them u will understand wat i mean. My email is jjrjjjr@gmail.com if anyone wants any more advice. I no expert i just learned from reading books how to deal wit problem
Goodluck

*dolly*

tread_softly wrote: »

exact same thing happens to me, i HATE it. and once it happens it takes ages to go down and you can't stop thinking about it and that just makes it worse.

i tried green concealers but i find they make you look washed out. now i SWEAR by Benefit You're Bluffing!



it's yellow and really easy to blend in under make up, it's a lifesaver.

do you put that all over your face??
looks kinda heavy?

embarrassment isnt the cause of this for me anymore thankfully. but if i get too hot i glow like a tomato!! hate it!