annoying boyfriend

Lizard Queen

I am currently doing my final ever exams for my degree at the moment. My boyfriendis away for the week for work. I have been studying ever day till late and i am extremely tired at night. While he is away hes staying up late and when i want to talk to him at night he can't talk or he will call later. When he calls later i cant talk cause i have to get up in about 4 hours to study. I think he is being very inconsiderate as its my finals , any thoughts ?

HBK

OP,

Your fella sounds like hes a little inconsiderate tbh...he shud be supporting you all he can...i think just talk to him when YOU can,if he says he cant then point out that you fone will be off later as you need sleep...

McGinty

I would second HBK's advice, but sometimes it is better to show a person how they are acting rather than tell them, if he can't talk say okay, hang up (hard as this sounds) and when you need to sleep switch your phone off, he will get the message fairly sharp and make time to talk with you, if he doesn't do that then you may need to reconsider things with him.

Lizard Queen

i had alresdy spoke to him earlier this week about it . He said he would let me know if he is going out or call me before hand either of them has happened. It has really effected my study today and last exam is tomorrow. I bet that if i give out to him about it that he will turn it back on me saying that he cant rearrange himself around me.

Nevyn

If he does not ring at a reasonible hour then tough, turn your phone off.
Stop being so advialible you have to but your study and exams first for a while.

Ickle Magoo

Have you told him when you can take calls? Maybe just set out that he can phone you between X & Y & for Z mins at the mo, outside of those times you will have your phone off/not be taking calls.

Lizard Queen

i have been calling him when i am finished study for the night so its noy so much him trying to catch me but me trying to catch him

JDLK

Had a similar issue with my Ex GF, she was getting pissed off that I needed to cram for my finals and we werent spending enough time together, problem was the little time we did spend together she spent it moaning about my finals- in the end I got sick of listening to her, gave her the elbow- studied my ass off and got a 1st class in my degree, looking back I dont regret it one bit, she was putting me under added pressure at a time when I was under alot of pressure already which just proved she wasnt the girl for me

Ickle Magoo

Lizard Queen wrote: »

i have been calling him when i am finished study for the night so its noy so much him trying to catch me but me trying to catch him

Well, tell him that you can only call between X & Y for Z mins & if he's unavailable then you'll speak to him another day/week.

davyjose

I make it clear to my gf that when I'm in work early, I WON'T be contacted, and put my phone on silent. She lives with it, so do I

Overheal

Exams are a high stress period for anyone. Your boyfriends being a tit and its de-railing you: you're best off to shelf him between here and tomorrow and then that will be the end of it. Turn the phone off.

Love the screen name btw. Best Lisa quote ever.

john_aero

i know where your comming from. my ex used do it all the time. she would ring late or during my study and expect me to talk for ages.

you just have to explain to him you need set time aside both of ye when you are both going ring so you can arrange your breaks together.

chances are they will not realy understand as unless you have been in college very recently you will not realise what badgering some one will do.

best of luck with your studies

Sam Vimes

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Have you told him when you can take calls? Maybe just set out that he can phone you between X & Y & for Z mins at the mo, outside of those times you will have your phone off/not be taking calls.

i agree with this advice. you should tell your boyfriend that you will be available at a specific time agreed beforehand. if he's away with work mates and trying to be sociable, you can't expect him to be sitting by the phone all night waiting for you to call


and maybe you could talk earlier. he's away in london with work mates so he's going out and enjoying himself so late night is not a good time for him. maybe you could take a break before he goes out and have your talk then. you'd get more sleep that way too