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Honestanswer

HI, on a related topic... I suffer from jealousy. I really cant help it and it makes me feel awful. I have no reason to distrust my girlfriend but sometimes i just get jealous. She is not the type of person who would cheat (even though i know anyone can make mistakes, if their not careful not careful). I get jealous when I think of her previous experience, even though she would have more to be jealous about in this area. I know its unreasonable. My heart even gets a little quicker and i feel uneasy if she mentions that somebody on tv is attractive. I don't want to be this way! it causes slight problems so far but i know her patience will wear thin eventually. Does anyone have any advice on dealing with this? Anyone feel the same. I don't really know how to sort it.

Marksie

Honestanswer: I copied your post and made a new thread for it so that it doesn't clutter the previous one.

It will help you get the right advice.

Which i belive stems from your own insecurites and not what your g/f is doing.

Its important you look at what in yourself is causing this jealousy, whether its past experiences, being insecure, frightened of losing her etc etc...

Beruthiel

Marksie wrote: »

i belive stems from your own insecurites and not what your g/f is doing.

That is quite obvious from this comment:

Honestanswer wrote:

My heart even gets a little quicker and i feel uneasy if she mentions that somebody on tv is attractive

If you were secure and confident in yourself the above would not bother you in the slightest.
Look inwards and see what it is that stops you from feeling good about yourself.

LegacyUser

I do exactly the same. I feel sick when I see my bf's ex, even photos. I've had loads of bfs and he only had one gf before me, so it really is irrational.

RedXIV

jealousy is something that everyone has even a small bit of. Thats understandable, everyone wants to be the sun moon and stars to their other half and when something threatens that, jealousy rears its ugly head. The most important thing is how you deal with it. some people barely register a jealous vibe in their lives but the ones who feel it alot, keeping it in check is important. Don't let jealousy start to dictate how people should live, in these cases, your other half is with you for a reason, keep telling yourself that if you feel jealous

Xavi6

I was a bit like that when I first got with my gf. Used to hate it when she went out without. I'd be sendin her texts, waiting up and making sure she rang when she got home etc. It wasn't healthy for me or us and it's not for you guys either.

Basically I realised that she was with me and not the people she went on night's out with (or the people on tv in your case). It's purely an insecurity on your part and hopefully you'll come to your senses soon. I did.

Sherifu

Trust is what any good relationship is built on. If you don't trust your gf OP then that's something you have to work on.

tread_softly

It's nothing to do with your gf, it is your own problem that you're like this.

you need to sit yourself down and tell yourself not to act like this. if your gf didn't find you attractive or fun to be with, she wouldn't be with you.

i was in a relationship like this for 2 and a half years and it was only when i left it and started dating again i realised how horrible it was.

the more you feel like this, the easier it will show itself, whether you give out to your gf for commenting on someone on tv or if you're out for a drink and she's talking to an attractive man. that's when the problems will start and she'll grow more detatched.

you need to nip it in the bud while it's not as prominent as it could be.

of course, everyone is a little bit jealous, it wouldn't be normal otherwise. but when it borders on the irrational and angry side then you need to address it.

ashy28

If your girlfriend loves you & treats you well like you said then you should have no reason to be jealous. You need to have more confidence in yourself. Realise that your girlfriend obviously sees something in you that makes her want to stick around.