Am i an awful friend?

Mixedup

I fell out with my best friend this morning and i dont know how to fix it..

We've been best friends for about four years, since we started college together, and never really rowed before but i cant decide if i was in the wrong here.
He's always been a charmer, never treated women well at all, not like other guys who sleep around, he's always been in relationships since ive known him, but never faithful to anyone. He was in a serious relationship when we started college, and he started roaming as soon as he got in the door, he got so involved with one of the girls in college that it was hard to decide who was the real girlfriend! now ive never commented, not my place, as a mate like whats it to me, having only met his girlfriend a few times and being quite close to him, it was almost entertaining to watch him, a one man soap opera.

we got drunk one night years ago and ended up kissing, repeated the mistake a few times but stopped coz i knew i was being an idiot, didnt stop me falling for him in a big way tho, and so our friendship drifted for about a year, i never told him this tho, didnt want to get hurt or embarrassed, and i knew what he was like at the end of the day. So he carried on doing what he did, and never did i comment, again not my place, but to some of my close friends outside college, who didnt know him, i felt free to rant and rave about what was killing me at the time, since i was hung up on him in a big way.

I got over it tho, and he eventually dumped the girlfriend, and all the others, and started over with a lovely girl, and things settled down, i was happy out and our friendship has been sound since.

He got a job after college in a place he didnt know anyone so i introduced him to a very close friend of mine's older sister, i know them since i was about 5 and i knew she'd look out for him and help him settle in. he did more than that and he's been seeing her on the sly for the last 8 weeks or so, and i knew, kept it to myself since i really didnt want to get involved, but my close friend caught the two of them and hit the roof, since she was one of the people i ranted and raved to about him way back when...(hope this makes sense)

She doesnt want him near her sister, the family have been to hell and back this year and the last thing she wants is her sister hurt more. I never opened my mouth before it came out, and all i said to her was please leave me out of it, i know where you're coming from i wudnt wish him on my sister either but what can ya do. But she's throwing everything she knows about him at her sister to put her off him and im terrified some of the things i said about him back when i was purely being a jealous girl, will come out now and our friendship will be over..

It got back to my best friend anyway that i'd said some things and he's gone mad sayin who am i to bitch about him to girls he's into blah blah..
but i would NEVER open my mouth to a girl about him, it just happened that he's playing a bit too close to home for my liking now, and i wouldnt like to see him hurt someone i know well like..not to mention his girlfriend, who he hasnt broken up with..

im afraid my big mouth will come back to haunt me, is there anything i can say to salvage the situation or should i even bother, its such dawsons creek rubbish when i think about it but i dont want to lose my best friend over this...

Zen 2nd

If what you said about him was true I don't see the problem here. If he shifts the blame onto to you, he is looking for a scapegoat because the true side to him has been revealed. He was cheating, so it's his problem if he is found out.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Ok, if I understand this correctly, you introduced male slightly immature friend to female friend coming from a hurt place, and female friend's sister got high and mighty? Are we talking about adults here?

1) Indroducing the two of them was, admittedly a bit short sighted.
2) Tell friend's sister to butt out - they're adults. If she a problem with the male friend, tell her to take it up with him, not you. Use the magic phrase "you're an adult".
3) Tell male friend to stop running away. If he doesn;t want to be bithced about then behave himself. Again, use the magic phrase, "you're an adult.