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  • 07-03-2008 12:10am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok heres the story, Im in my mid 20s and I feel completely lost in life. I recently thought I got it together and applied to college, worked in a fantastic job, saved money for what I wanted.

    All was grand

    Until I attended the college and to put it polietly the course just wasnt what I thought it was, Id given up the job to attend the course with no hope of returning (its not steady work) so I dropped out thinking its better to not go then make myself totally miserable. Im now unemployed and I just dont seem to care about anything. I havent a clue what to do with my life and I feel like its all such a waste. Ive spoken to friends about it but tbh I just annnoying them at this stage because I cant find any solution. I've changed as a person because Im so miserable, Im normally fairly upbeat and laid back but now Im snappy and I feel like I moan all the time, I keep trying to pull myself out of the rut only find myelf back in it again


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  • #2
    Drift
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,395 ✭✭✭Drift


    Hey OP I think part of the problem you're having is that you associate your failure to like your course and then your current unemployed status with your self worth. You see yourself as useless or no good because you didn't like your course and you haven't got a job. This isn't the case. Before you started the college course you successfully held down a job you enjoyed. This shows you that you were valuable to the company you worked for and indeed were very worthy.

    I think it might help if you dissociate your employment status from how you feel about yourself. Having/not having a job does not in itself make you worthy or unworthy. It might help to pick up a sport - i find that a tough hard training session makes me feel great in myself afterwards. I think if you can increase your image of yourself and your abilities you'll find it easier to get pull yourself out of the rut and more importantly to stay out of it.


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Does the course not provide you with the qualification you wished to receive initially?

    Its never like you expect it to be. I have yet to meet anyone who can honestly say there course was exactly how they pictured it. But they still finish, get their degrees and move on.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Overheal wrote: »
    Does the course not provide you with the qualification you wished to receive initially?

    Its never like you expect it to be. I have yet to meet anyone who can honestly say there course was exactly how they pictured it. But they still finish, get their degrees and move on.

    No, the course didnt really give me a qualification that I could use at the end. I honestly dont know what to do, I know I shouldnt pin my self worth on it but I feel like a failure both to myself and my parents, I feel like Im capeable of so much more but I just dont know where to turn.


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