Graveyard rememberance

Rob_l

Brought on by peared's Question about grave lights. :eek:
What are peoples opinions on visiting graveyards, burial sites?

I believe there is no reason to go to a grave to remember someones life in fact I think it is the opposite when I think upon those I loved who have passed away I do not want to think of the moment their body was forever encased in the earth when their lifeless body was lowered into the soil.
I want to think of the happy times the fond shared memories and experiences I will go to places I visited with the person while alive or go to places they loved to visit. Or even go to their old home and remember their life.

Am I alone on this do people still like to visit graves?

Peared

Full of Rob eating ghosts, graveyards are.


Waiting for the you wouldnt catch me dead comment....

Susannahmia

No I have lost some very close family members and the grave means nothing to me. The places I associate with being with them in life mean a lot more to me.

Dun laoire

I go up every few weeks to visit my dads grave but my mother still cant bring herself to go. Well she's been very very seldom but everyday she talks about him. Every second minute of everyday she talks about him. She doesnt need to go to the graveyard to remember. In fact she just breaks down when she goes so she's better off not going.

EamonnKeane

I suppose a graveyard is somewhere quiet and peaceful where you can think on somebody in silence. Also, being in such surroundings reminds you that death is part of everything, the one thing that unites us all

ojewriej

In Poland, every year on 1st of November we go to the graves of our closed ones and light candles. It's a bank holiday, and practically everyone does that, graveyards are packed, theres alway extra buses and all. It's not really a sombre occassion or anything, more a chance to meet your uncles and aunties you don't really get to see for the rest of the year.

It's also an amazing sight, passing by a graveyard with thousands of candles on it.

I quite miss that actually.

Apart from that, not really, wouldn't be into visiting graves.

Pighead

Pighead doesn't tend to visit graveyards that often. They seem to attract nutjobs and lunatics. About this time last year Pighead was walking through his local graveyard admiring the vast array of marble headstones when he seen these two blokes carrying a coffin.

Thought nothing of it and continued on up to the top of the graveyard. Had a copy of Nuts in me pocket and for a split second thought about doing the unthinkable, but upon reaching Granny Pigheads grave, snapped out of that particular mood quicksmart. Heard a noise behind and looked back. It was the two blokes with the coffin again.

Done about 6 laps of the graveyard and every fcuking time, bumped into the two oddballs carrying the coffin. Pighead felt a bit unnerved and started mumbling to himself as he headed for the exit "Lets go buddy, these two fcukers have obviously lost the plot"

Dun laoire

Pighead wrote: »

Pighead doesn't tend to visit graveyards that often. They seem to attract nutjobs and lunatics. About this time last year Pighead was walking through his local graveyard admiring the vast array of marble headstones when he seen these two blokes carrying a coffin.

Thought nothing of it and continued on up to the top of the graveyard. Had a copy of Nuts in me pocket and for a split second thought about doing the unthinkable, but upon reaching Granny Pigheads grave, snapped out of that particular mood quicksmart. Heard a noise behind and looked back. It was the two blokes with the coffin again.

Done about 6 laps of the graveyard and every fcuking time, bumped into the two oddballs carrying the coffin. Pighead felt a bit unnerved and started mumbling to himself as he headed for the exit "Lets go buddy, these two fcukers have obviously lost the plot"

Peared

Like Twenty Major without the humour.

Gran Hermano

I'd rather watch meat rot.

clicli

I go to my Mum's grave whenever I get a chance to put pink carnations on it as they were her favourite flowers, I wouldn't say I enjoy doing it but I feel guilty if I haven't been in awhile, have never been to my dad's grave though?

ScumLord

I never tend to visit the graves, I'm not religious much and prefer to remember them in life.

ojewriej wrote: »

In Poland, every year on 1st of November we go to the graves of our closed ones and light candles. It's a bank holiday, and practically everyone does that, graveyards are packed, theres alway extra buses and all.

That sounds like a good holiday, if it was something like that where you'd be meeting family or maybe friends that you hadn't talked to in a while because it was the dead person that linked you. where you would talk and remember the person that dead.

Quality

I try to get to visit My nanny and granddad when I can.. they are buried in Glasnevin Cemetery.. Its a lovely place to go for a walk and very historical..

Wazdakka

I'm not the biggest fan of graveyards.
Thankfully though a hole in the ground shall not be my final resting place.

I have left very specific instructions for my post-mortem taxidermy.
Also I have designed a fiendishly clever system of remote operated pneumatic pistons and actuators.

My plan is for my mortal remains to continue their existence as a remote controlled pneumatic meat puppet of some sort.
It would be great fun at parties, scare older relatives, fun for the kiddies, it could even be decorated and used as a Christmas tree..
The possibilities are endless..

Ruu_Old

I pay a visit every once in a while, a nice spot for a walk anyway. Lovely surroundings.

tbh

Quality wrote: »

they are buried in Glasnevin Cemetery.. Its a lovely place to go for a walk and very historical..

plus one. I like it there, I'm a fan of graveyards anyway. Not in a weird way or anything, they are just always very peaceful. I tend not to visit my grandparents graves as they are too far away, but when I'm in the neighbourhood, I'll always stop by. I think about them every day tho, really I do. I like the idea of being returned to nature, as Neil Hannon said:

No motion has she now, no force;
She neither hears nor sees;
Rolled around in earth's diurnal course,
With rocks, and stones, and trees.

dsmythy

I visit them alright. We all remember them from their life but at the same time i feel i must go to where their remains are and pay respects as they say. You don't necessarily have to be religious to do so.

biko

Was in Milltown cemetery just past Saturday

Smellyirishman

I just spent 10minutes cleaning up the ****ty crap that gathers in my back garden from the graveyard we are attached to, so here is my appeal, if you're visiting a grave, don't bring any crap, especially plastic crap.

I don't visit any graves and wouldn't in the future. As my dad says "Spend time with them, not a stone".

Collie D

I visit my dad's grave fairly regularly. He was a bit of a keen gardener (a pastime I didn't share with him) so I like to clean around his grave and look after the little pot plants etc on it for him as I know it would make him happy. It also helps clear my head when I've got **** on my mind. I can talk to him about stuff I'd never talk to a living person about. Not that I'm expecting an answer but does me good to get the words out

randylonghorn

I'm not much into visiting graves, and don't feel I need to in order to remember or feel close to the person, but I would want to be sure that the grave was kept well.

misslt

I don't visit my nans grave that often but I still would 'talk' to her as such...just because I don't visit doesnt mean I'm not thinking of her of whatever...she's really the only person close to me thats died, thank god...

ojewriej

ojewriej wrote: »

In Poland, every year on 1st of November we go to the graves of our closed ones and light candles. It's a bank holiday, and practically everyone does that, graveyards are packed, theres alway extra buses and all. It's not really a sombre occassion or anything, more a chance to meet your uncles and aunties you don't really get to see for the rest of the year.

It's also an amazing sight, passing by a graveyard with thousands of candles on it.

I quite miss that actually.

Apart from that, not really, wouldn't be into visiting graves.

We have this too, all souls day.
I imagine the custom is Irish in orgin linked to the pagan festival of Samhain.

I like to visit, making sure that things are being looked after makes me feel better.
Other people visit too and I know my dearly departed would like the place to look cared for.

Run_to_da_hills

The travellers go to extremes on their graves. I know a one guy that manufacturers and maintains headstones, he was telling me it would not be uncommon to get an order for up to 15k cash for a custom headstone and then the maintenance of it every year shot blasting and cleaning it etc. He has no trouble getting payed for any work as they know that it will need cleaning the following year. They usually have their graves spotless by 31st October ready for all souls day sometimes along with personal items, no one dares touch them.

mang87

Don't need a grave to remember someone.

Run_to_da_hills

mang87 wrote: »

Don't need a grave to remember someone.

I agree, they take up valuable real estate.

mang87

When people die they should just be fed to poor African children. Its selfish to be burying these fresh hunks of meat in the ground.


*runs*

Run_to_da_hills

mang87 wrote: »

When people die they should just be fed to poor African children. Its selfish to be burying these fresh hunks of meat in the ground.*runs*

You can be the first to volunteer

mang87

mang87 wrote: »

Don't need a grave to remember someone.

I've always felt the stonewas there for when after everyone who remembers ya is gone.
So it is important to write something good on it.

mang87

But whats the point in people who did not know you remembering you? When I go I only want to be remembered by family and friends. What the hell is the point on having my name on a stone? Because thats all it is; just a name on a stone.