SIL2B's Hen Do V Friends Wedding ????????

Suse

Hi,

Hope you can give me some advise......

My brother is getting married during the summer. His fiance's hen do is on at the other end of the country (Donegal) for the saturday & sunday night of the June bank holiday. I have already paid the deposit to the bridesmaid and was looking forward to it.

The problem is ..............

I just found out at the weekend that one of my friends is having his wedding on the sunday and myself & my boyfriend are to be invited.

There is no way I can do both. I want to do both. I have looked at it logistically and it won't work. It would mean me going to the hen on the saturday, leaving at 8.00am in the morning, driving for 4 hours to get home and then get ready for a 1.00pm wedding - not possilbe.

Truth is I'd much prefer to go to the wedding. If I had a choice I would just go to the wedding.

I suppose my problem is - will this be a real insult to me future sister-in-law?? Who get on well with. Would it be very rude or would the fact that I have a friends wedding the same weekend excuse me from being there?

I don't want to offend either side and I can't do both...............

So what do you all think then?

iguana

It depends how close the friend is. If he is a very good friend I would go to the wedding. I would explain it to my soon to be sister-in-law and suggest that you and she go out together for a special night on another weekend. If you are close with your brother though, it might be a good idea to get his opinion first.

On the otherhand, if the friend wasn't that close I would suggest going to the afters of the wedding and drinking a lot of coffee on the journey.

catho_monster

If you really want to go to both, then it can be made feasible.

I mean, if you dont drink mentally, then getting up at 8am wouldnt be the worst thing in the world...
And it is totally possible to get ready in one hour for the wedding, if you have everything prepped and waiting for you when you get home.

If you really want to go to both, I'm sure that one mental day of travelling will be worth it, and both parties would appreciate it...

At least thats what I'd do...

Suse

Hi thanks for the replies, I think I'll just have to bust my ass and do both. Hopefully my friend (who is a really good mate to me and my other half) will have a big wedding and I could slip into the hotel after the church & no one will notice that I'm late if I skip the church part.

I'm thinking my SIL2B will be around me for the rest of my life and I don't want to make little of her hen do by not going.

So that's my mind made, I'll do both. I just bust my ass, drink very little alcohol and lots of coffee and keep everyone (including myself) happy.

Thanks x

LoanShark

HI,
Its a brave thing that you are thinking of doing... You do realise that Donegal people go out late and stay out late..You did'nt say where the wedding was in So I'm guessing Dublin... If the Hen is in Letterkenny then you would probably make it to dublin in about 4hrs or less..If you come back via the M1.. If you are in Donegal Town Then you will make it in about 3hr 45min, Providing you go to Pettigo (Becareful on this streach of road!!) through the north into Enniskillen and then on into Cavan... I would doubt you would have any major traffic problems at that hour of the morning... But something to look into is the GAA Check to see if there is any big games on your route that may cause any kind of hold up... You could also go through the midlands via Sligo etc.. This route can take anything from 3hrs to 4hrs depending on traffic.

Your Sister In Law Will be fine if you cant make it..Its not too often one of your friends gets married for the first time..(At least I hope its the first time)..

Just something to think about...

helimachoptor

Was at a wedding there a couple of weeks ago, My uncle had been at a wedding in Cork on the Friday, Drove from Cork to Dundalk to be there for 2pm. It was tough and he faded about midnight!