Meeting boyfriends family

Featherl

I am going out with boyfriend for over 2 years.We both live with our parents. He visits me 4 times a week and always comes up to me to my house. I am never invited down to his house with his parents. I have met his parents about 4 times in the 2years. Is this strange? He is like one of our family, always popping in and having chats, tea, food etc.. He is not like a visiter in our house.

Mazeire

It is a wee bit odd after such a long period of time. Have you asked him what the story is?

meglome

Well yes it is strange. Did you ever ask him why you don't go to his house more often? His family might be a pain in the arse or maybe he's embarrassed being in his house with you (not suggesting this reflects on you).

john_aero

that is a realy strange one now to be honest. i dont understand the logic unless he is trying to keep something back

John Mason

i was with my ex for 2 years only meet his dad once and his mother twice tbh they were horrible people and that was twice too often.

may be his family are horrible and you are better off not meeting them

john_aero

well know girl who had a byfrnd who only came to meet her parents once before. ask him straight out why he wont take you there. could be soemthing small as being embarassed with family or something realy serious

Susannahmia

Meh it might be nothing serious. I don't bring my bf to mine much because the layout of my family home means there is no opportunity for any kind of privacy and I feel that he would feel uncomfortable with my family breathing down his neck.

Ask him I guess.

Featherl

I feel I cant ask him and because its gone on so long now it would feel strange or out of the blue?? I suppose I should have said something a couple of months into the relationship.

When I have met his parents it has been fine, short, brief conversations, they seem easy to get along with. I just dont know them though. I know my boyfriend has a great relationship with them. They seem to be a very close family, thats why I dont understand that he doesnt bring me down more often? Its not that he doesnt have his own privacy in the house, its a large house with only 5 of them living in it compared to my house, average size with 7 living in it??

LegacyUser

is he a muslim? its a bit frowned upon having non-muslim gfs in islam. More culture than islam.

biko

It could be as easy as that he prefers your house to his own. My gf has an open fire so we usually hang out there. Simple as.

Miss Fluff

Have you mentioned it to him?

Puffin

I don’t think what other people do/ don’t do with their partner’s parents is really relevant here. All that counts is:

• The relationship you WANT to have with your boyfriend’s parents

• The relationship you DO have with your boyfriend’s parents

• And the DIFFERENCE between the two.

In life it’s rare to have ‘what we want’ and ‘what we have’ to match perfectly, but it is important to try to get them as close to each other as possible.

Talk to your boyfriend and find out why he is limiting your relationship with his parents and then decide if this is something you can live with.