Weird sexual move?

LegacyUser

Hey,I'm going out with my bf for 2 months now and everythings going great. It's kind of strange to talk about but our sex life is really good but over the last 2 weeks while he's performing, he starts licking me,bit embarressing but he likes to lick my ass..is this strange. It feels good,but is this normal???Is it okay?-he seems to really get into it. I'm not hugely experienced between the sheets and I'm 23. Thanks,K

Marksie

Theer are going to be divergent opinions on this.
But in my expereince its not. I enjoy doing that to a lover and it is a highly sensitive erogenous zone. A lot of the people i know practice this as well.

Its not whether others think its strange, the simple answer is do you enjoy it? Are you comfortable with it? Not whether its normal.

Like anything else sexual it is a matter of preference, trust and openness.

Oh and ask him to explore the crease between your thighs and buttocks..thats nice as well

LegacyUser

How hygenic is this? Surely some kind of barrier is required?

Marksie

Well its not a really on topic question passin thru.
But it depends on how the area is washed.
Plus you can use dental dams and i have heard of little squares of cling film being used for that purpose.

Overheal

If it feels good I say go with it. I've heard weirder and its not the first time I've heard of that in particular.

Clinically speaking all foreplay *should* be conducted with protection, ie. condoms with felattio for example, to avoid the spread of mouth herpes into becoming genital herpes. That choice is between you and your S.O.

~Rebel~

Kate.. wrote: »

Hey,I'm going out with my bf for 2 months now and everythings going great. It's kind of strange to talk about but our sex life is really good but over the last 2 weeks while he's performing, he starts licking me,bit embarressing but he likes to lick my ass..is this strange. It feels good,but is this normal???Is it okay?-he seems to really get into it. I'm not hugely experienced between the sheets and I'm 23. Thanks,K

what the hell is normal anyway? If its nice, you both enjoy it, you're clean, then go right ahead

<edit> it also shows he trusts you a lot and is confident in your hygiene, which is always nice

Quality

Is he licking your ass... or your asshole?

In fairness once your both comfortable with it.. Go for it...

My husband is into some crazy things as well..

Different folks, Different "Strokes"

But it is allll good!!:D

cornbb

If you like it, go with it. Might be an idea to have a thorough shower first though, for obvious reasons.

Dudess

If, as Quality asks, he's licking your asshole: Wouldn't perform it myself considering what comes from there (yeah, I sound childish but there's no getting away from that fact!)
However if you're enjoying it and he's cool with doing it, what's the problem? (In fact he's more than cool with doing it, he obviously really likes it considering he started doing it without being asked!)

So yeah, just enjoy. It really doesn't matter what other people think - you're both loving it and you're harming nobody. And it's not an unheard-of practice. There's a name for it - rimming.

Marksie

Dudess wrote: »

I There's a name for it - rimming.

analingus

Overheal

oookay....

MissHoneyBun

Ohhhhhhkaaaaayyyyyyyy is right.........

BDubliner

I like it when girls suck the bollox of me

Miss Fluff

Kate.. wrote: »

It feels good,but is this normal???Is it okay

Yes, enough said. If you enjoy it most things are normal within certain constraints, you're not harming anyone and it's not against the law. Keep clean and continue to enjoy methinks.

LegacyUser

Well yeah,to be exact,he does lick my asshole-alot. He all so licks n sucks the other area too..it's like when he's behind me if you know what I mean and he is in both areas...but the ass(hole) is what he really enjoys(I think). Is it safe..could he catch anything from me?? Is this normal for a guy or a fantasy?? Any other girls out there really like it or am I weird!?

Teddi

BDubliner, watch your responses, that sort of comment will get you a warning from the mods so watch your tongue.


OP, its not strange at all, if only you knew what was out there in the big bad sexual world you'd find the act of analingus a complete joke. If you enjoy it don't worry about the fact that it may be seen as taboo or wrong. If he gets into it, it must be a liking for him that maybe he's too embarressed to talk to you directly about?

Ask him next time, personally a girl asking me about it would be huge weight off my shoulders and quite a big turn on tbh.

Hope your mind calms on this...

Teddi

Wibbs

BDubliner wrote: »

I like it when girls .....

Yea, real mature. Consider this your last hurrah.

dr.bollocko

Has anyone else noticed a double standard with this? There is some sort of social expectation that girls are ... cleaner ... down there for want of a better word. So its totally ok for a guy to do it to a girl (Do ye get waxed there or whats the story, cos OUCH!) but for a girl to do it to a guy, well lets say thats just .... not quite as acceptable. You know, cos guys smell and whatnot.

PeakOutput

if u ilke it then i dont see a problem. one thing that sticks with me however is that people tend to do things to one another thatthey would like done to them so if your cool with it maybe try the same thing with him?

PeakOutput

dr.bollocko wrote: »

not quite as acceptable.

i havnt seen a double standard on this thread anyway. i know what you mean like but its always a good philosophy to prepare for the best/worst(depending how you look at it) that way everyone is ready for anything any time....if you know what i mean.


op teddy gives good advice listen t him

dr.bollocko

If I ever begin to think of sex as preparing for the worst then I would be getting quite worried about where my life is going!

tbh

marthaclark wrote: »

Guess he's easily pleased. But surely he has some sort of sexual quirk/fetish/fantasy. Hmmm

Surely? Why Surely?

Lux23

Kate.. wrote: »

Hey,I'm going out with my bf for 2 months now and everythings going great. It's kind of strange to talk about but our sex life is really good but over the last 2 weeks while he's performing, he starts licking me,bit embarressing but he likes to lick my ass..is this strange. It feels good,but is this normal???Is it okay?-he seems to really get into it. I'm not hugely experienced between the sheets and I'm 23. Thanks,K

If you like it I wouldn't complain.

Blackpitts

hi, i reckon it's normal, my friend tells me that he likes this the most during sex and he is perfectly normal. If you enjoy it i don't see anything wrong with it.

Sherifu

To the OP, I don't think there's anything wrong with it if you like it.

marthaclark wrote: »

well if my male friends are anything to go by.. their views or whatever of sex have been warped by all this weird porn they watch..

try explain to them that SOME THINGS aren't as easy and straightforward as they look.

damn porn stars raising the bar and suffering all sorts of gastro-intestinal problems i don't want to have.

It's entirely possible the OP's bf discovered that he liked it on his own.

Tommy the Cat

There was an episode on Sex in the City about this. Anyhoo the red head in it was getting a good rimming and was enjoying it but sought advice from her friends who said just go with it. So after a few session's of doing this the gent cocks his buttocks up in her face looking for the payback, I think she ran to the hills. I've done it and always enjoyed... it its all good.

Drummo

OP, watch Clerks 2. It's all good!

Aura

Kate.. wrote: »

Hey,I'm going out with my bf for 2 months now and everythings going great. It's kind of strange to talk about but our sex life is really good but over the last 2 weeks while he's performing, he starts licking me,bit embarressing but he likes to lick my ass..is this strange. It feels good,but is this normal???Is it okay?-he seems to really get into it. I'm not hugely experienced between the sheets and I'm 23. Thanks,K

Anything between consenting adults is normal to my mind..well I'd prob exclude blood letting but that's just me..
I reckon it's great he appears to be that comfortable with you and that turned on by you to boot. You say it feels good so just enjoy it. It doesn't necessarily mean you have to be into doing it to him either if don't want to. Maybe his joy is just in the giving.

Bottoms up girl!!

johnnysmurfman

He sounds like a bit of an arse licker.

Marksie

johnnysmurfman wrote: »

He sounds like a bit of an arse licker.

Off topic, unhelpful posting will get you banned from this forum

LegacyUser

Kate.. wrote: »

Is it safe..could he catch anything from me?? Is this normal for a guy or a fantasy?? Any other girls out there really like it or am I weird!?

Meh, it's just a very highly sensitive erogenous zone. No, you're not weird either. Lots of women don't know if they would enjoy it because it has never been done to them. My current partner gets amazing orgasms from it but like you she at first was hesitant to try it.

However, you do have to have very good hygiene. It is possible for him to catch a virus infection called foot hand and mouth disease, usually caused by the coxsackie A virus. It is a practice I use only in long term relationships and only immediately after she's had a shower. I heard from my brother of a girl he knew in college who did analingus on her boyfriend during a night of drunken sex and got foot, hand and mouth disease. The doctor who treated her at the campus medical center actually remarked that it was the first time in many years that she had seen an adult with the virus.

tbh

I doubt anyone found out they like *that* on their own..

Sherifu

marthaclark wrote: »

does anyone find anything out about sex on their own??

i'd say it's quite rare!

friends/magazines/porn.. it's a minefield.

He could have discovered it with a previous partner is what I meant. He discovered he liked it on his own rather than some porn video suggesting he would like it.

/rephrased for the pedants

LegacyUser

marthaclark wrote: »

does anyone find anything out about sex on their own??

i'd say it's quite rare!

friends/magazines/porn.. it's a minefield.

I got the idea from reading Dr. Alex Comfort's The Joy of Sex way back in the mid-80s.

LegacyUser

I've two friends of mine who swear by this and they're forever trying to convince me to try it on my girlfriend. One of them say he likes it cause he thinks birds are mad for it, the other say's he just does it in the heat of the moment but likes it.

Marksie

Analinguist wrote: »

I got the idea from reading Dr. Alex Comfort's The Joy of Sex way back in the mid-80s.

yep one of the first ones out. The later editions dropped a lot out though (my original copy fell apart lol).
I would recommend for those intersted Dr. Pam Spur's, Sinful Sex

funk-you

It's called a rim job, it's normal. If you dig it go for it.

-Funk

Mr. Incognito

A common phrase when my mates and I are out on the pull surveying the ladies is "Ahh, but would you lick her arse"
Totally normal.

TheBlock

SetantaL wrote: »

A common phrase when my mates and I are out on the pull surveying the ladies is "Ahh, but would you lick her arse"
Totally normal.

Eat her Gick I think that should be.....

Anyway ..you like.. he likes.. whats the problem???

Radharc na Sleibhte

SetantaL wrote: »

A common phrase when my mates and I are out on the pull surveying the ladies is "Ahh, but would you lick her arse"
Totally normal.

Ah yes, the new benchmark ladies.....
How Clean Is Your.....Arse?

To OP, if you enjoy receiving, and he (evidentally) enjoys giving, there is no problem.
I would not be afraid to talk about it.
Ask him where'd he learn to do that thing he did, it was nice etc etc.
I dunno, what do I know.

Dudess

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Has anyone else noticed a double standard with this? There is some sort of social expectation that girls are ... cleaner ... down there for want of a better word. So its totally ok for a guy to do it to a girl (Do ye get waxed there or whats the story, cos OUCH!) but for a girl to do it to a guy, well lets say thats just .... not quite as acceptable.

Well consider it a balancing out - you straight guys don't have to deal with a load in your face when performing cunnilingus!

dr.bollocko wrote: »

If I ever begin to think of sex as preparing for the worst then I would be getting quite worried about where my life is going!

What he means is things could get so heated up that anything could happen. Maybe his way of phrasing it wasn't the best though!

OP, if your boyfriend asks you to do it to him and you don't like the idea, then don't do it. You don't owe it to him just because he does the same for you - he actually wants to do it. Or else put clingfilm over it or something...

Sherifu

Dudess wrote: »

Well consider it a balancing out - you straight guys don't have to deal with a load in your face when performing cunnilingus!

Sorry to hear what you have go through.

Dudess

I must say, my complexion is absolutely radiant...

Marksie

Dudess wrote: »

Well consider it a balancing out - you straight guys don't have to deal with a load in your face when performing cunnilingus!

Ummm well actually i do.. i get drenched.

but i am good at it lol

Dudess

Touché

gcgirl

Tommy the Cat wrote: »

There was an episode on Sex in the City about this. Anyhoo the red head in it was getting a good rimming and was enjoying it but sought advice from her friends who said just go with it. So after a few session's of doing this the gent cocks his buttocks up in her face looking for the payback, I think she ran to the hills. I've done it and always enjoyed... it its all good.

the exact same thing came in to my head reading this thread ! just go with it ?

chuci

if you like it and he likes doing it to you then whats the problemo? sure you dont have to do it to him if you dont fancy it all good really.

The real question is , if its ok to go ass to mouth