feeling lonely

half_life_man

hey guys, i have been feeling really lonely the past couple of weeks. i was out with my friend and his girlfriend and i started to feel real jealous and lonely because they are such a good couple and i don't have anyone, well i never had a proper girlfriend. i really want a girlfriend. it may sound really gay but i want to cuddle and do all those things that couples do. i am getting really angry with myself because i have never had a gf and am nearly 18 years old. does anyone have any tips on how to meet girls, i am a very shy guy, this is one of my disadvantages when im talkin to girls! sometimes i cant think of anything to say and im just left in an awkward silence. please help!

blain

Discos are usually a good place to meet girls. Also try shopping malls, this approach is pretty big in the States.

Another thing, don't be too choosy as "pretty" doesn't always mean nice. Be open minded and less judgmental and you'll find you'll rarely be on your own.

Learn to play the guitar, girls love that. There aren't too many guitarists without girlfriends:)

Tidy yourself up. Contrary to popular belief girls don't like scruffy guys, some do but you increase your chances if you look smart.

Good luck to you!

JuliusCaesar

half_life_man wrote: »

does anyone have any tips on how to meet girls, i am a very shy guy, this is one of my disadvantages when im talkin to girls! sometimes i cant think of anything to say and im just left in an awkward silence. please help!

Join something that makes you do things together with other people. Could be the local drama club, Amnesty International, tag rugby, St John's Ambulance Brigade.....your subject matter will be whatever you're doing so won't be stuck. Also you get to know girls as people!

DetectivFoxtrot

don't get hung up about WHAT you're talking about with a girl, the subject isn't hugely important, the fact that you've engaged in converation is what wil impress her. As humans we love nothing better than talking about ourselves so ask lots of questions about her and listen intently. e.g. what music are you into, where do you go to school/college, do you have part time job.... etc.. Then offer up some info about yourself and before you know it you've begun a friendship. It could lead to something more romantic or it may not but at least you've made a friend. Build up a good circle of platonic girl friends - you'll get really confident in talking to women and understnding how they tick, then when one comes along that you reall like the whole process will be much easier, also girls will recongise you as a bloke who is 'not just after one thing' . girls don't like boys who only perate on that level.

The key is be natural, trying too hard is a bit if a turn-off for girls. Alo get over the fact that you haven't had a proper girlfriend yet because it's affecting your confidence - it's ok that you haven't had a proper one yet

conbob

to be completely honest.. unless ur absolutely sure i wouldnt get into a serious relationship so easy. especially at ur age. its soooo much better bein single. relationships are great when theyre good but are horrible when theyre bad. just do what u wanna do for now maybe take up a new sport to keep fit and do well in school. the girls will follow

Overheal

Start by not being jealous of your friend(s). That only ruins your self-confidence. Be happy for them.

RandolphEsq

I know what you mean OP. What I have learned (from college) is that although girls may give off an impression of being not interested in what you're saying (or even in you), this is only a front. You gotta be persistent and try and find some way to break the ice. This front that they portray is a defensive thing so don't let it bother you. Be persistent and when you get past it then you will see if you truly connect or not.

Also, it is confidence which acts as a chick magnet (but expressions like 'chick magnet' act as a repellent :P)